I just can't get over him...and it feels terrible :(

Really sorry for another thread like this but this is really getting me down...
I've been trying to get over this guy for about 4 months - we never went out together but we are good friends - and I've just had the hugest crush on him since I met him, I think I love him. But I've been trying to get over him because I know nothing's ever going to happen, and I'd really rather not feel this way. But everytime I see him, speak to him, all these feelings just come rushing back and I want to curl up and cry because I just don't know what to do. I can't eat properly, can't sleep, just can't stop thinking about him. And I hate that he has this kind of hold over me (even though he obviously doesn't know it) and that I can't do anything about it! :frown:

Reply 1

El Scotto

if he doesnt know. tell him. Unless its Derren brown I doubt hes a mind reader.

Sounds like you dont have anything to lose. either A> hes interested and that should make you happier or B> hes not interested, and then you can realise that and start to move on...

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I'm not telling him. I know everyone is gonna say I should, but I can't do that. a) I haven't got the courage, b) It'll be too awkward for me to be around him, which I do not want happening as we get on really well and c) I'm almost 99.9% certain he's not interested. So I'm not going to say anything to him. Sorry, I know how unhelpful that is but I just can't.

Reply 3

SamTheMan

So you're going to not get over someone or try your luck because of embarassment... Doesn't seem like he's a guy worth it if you're more worried about embarassment than anything else.

Reply 4

Princess Ella

to be honest hun-tell him-i went through the same thing and it was horrible-if he doesnt like u -then i say its his loss-tell us how u get on-tc-ella

Reply 5

Ang|ophi|e

I was once in that position. I didn't have the courage to tell him. So my friend did. There was tension at first but he liked me back. So just chill and have a friend tell him. If he doesn't respond the way you want him to just say she was lying or something. Don't sweat the little stuff.

Reply 6

bob_54321

and even if he is derren brown i doubt hes a mind reader . . .

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Thing is, I don't think I want to even know the answer if a friend asks him for me! I do and don't at the same time - I only want someone to ask him if the answer's gonna be a positive one. And I'm sure it's not. ugh I just don't know what I have to do to get over him! It's making me feel so sad :frown:

Reply 8

hannahg

just tell him please please please! the worst that can happen - he doesnt feel the same, which would be rubbish but no more rubbish than right now no? but you have so much to gain if he does like you. if youre really good friends then you'll both be able to laugh it off in time if he doesnt like you... its tricksy, i know, but i think you should go for it else you might regret it. and you'll never get over him and youll hate him for it!

Reply 9

Bob123

Just tell someone who is loud and it will spread. You wont get a reply if hes not interested but if you do then its XMAS. Just an idea.

Reply 10

latentcorpse

is it at school u see him or some sort of sports club? what are the circumstances?

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

latentcorpse

is it at school u see him or some sort of sports club? what are the circumstances?

Kind of both - he's in the year above me at school so we see each other pretty regularly there, and we also both play in our local orchestra, which does loads of concerts and an annual tour - so we see loads of each other. We don't hang out with the same people much at orchestra but still always chat sometimes - and we talk all the time at school.

Reply 12

frappuccino

Well honestly there's not much you can do. It just takes time to get over someone.

Reply 13

anjurdsg

I had a crush on a girl for 8 months ago, and I still burn when I see her with other guys..

It's OK...It's normal...

Best thing for you to do is go out and start dating other guys