Hmm what to do

ok this is my story - soz for the anon :frown:

There's this older person i like. However, this person is married so obviously nothing will come of it. We get on really well and have a laugh together. Oh and the age gap isn't that huge either.

The thing is recently I've fallen for this person bad! I think about this person too much, miss this person and get all happy and smiley when i see this person.

So I figure I have two option to cope with this as it becoming distracting.

1) Stop bothering with this person so much i.e. not talking so much etc in order to try and stop feeling this way.

or

2) Just enjoy the friendship...

I've started with No.1 and I think this person has noticed, i tried to be subtle (only been together once since i decided on that). I don't want a bad atmosphere but I don't want to feel dependant either. I do think that if i keep with option 1 then this person will either confront me about it and I wouldn't know how to defend my actions or because we are in a small group this could effect its dynamics.

I know a lot of people would say just enjoy the friendship and I kinda think I should, but its hard and like i said becoming very distracting.

Well that's it really, any ideaz? lol

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Reply 1

ladygrey

You don't have to ignore the person... but you should keep mentally distant. Just... be a little aloof. If they're married, they shouldn't flirt with you anyways. If you feel you can have a friendship... do it... but if you're having trouble, keep your distance.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I wouldn't class it as flirting

Reply 3

ladygrey

Anonymous

I wouldn't class it as flirting

hmm... d'you think the person knows you like him/her?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

I dunno, I hope not lol

Thats kinda why I want to distance myself, because i think soon i'll slip up and all will be revealed

Reply 5

ladygrey

Anonymous

I dunno, I hope not lol

Thats kinda why I want to distance myself, because i think soon i'll slip up and all will be revealed

distance is probably good... even though it'll hurt for a while :frown:

. we're all here for you.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

oh i made a mistake earlier, this person is engaged, not married. Not that it makes a difference really lol

Reply 7

white_haired_wizard

Anonymous

oh i made a mistake earlier, this person is engaged, not married. Not that it makes a difference really lol

haha you think it does don't you? :biggrin:

Reply 8

Tarts_n_Vicars

white_haired_wizard

haha you think it does don't you? :biggrin:

lol I think he/she secretly hopes it does...but really it doesn't. :biggrin:

mmm... You're sexeh.

who

tarts_n_vicars

who

You.

Reply 12

white_haired_wizard

Randomiser

mmm... You're sexeh.

Do you realize how saggy your breasts will be in two decades time? How sexeh is that.

lol @ you wizard

White haired dude

How sexeh is that.

I'm a cartoon. My breasts do not age. I'd be more concerned about the fact that I'm minus a nose. And whats with my eyes? I must be on drugs...

Reply 15

Tarts_n_Vicars

Randomiser

I'm a cartoon. My breasts do not age. I'd be more concerned about the fact that I'm minus a nose. And whats with my eyes? I must be on drugs...

Your heaving baps knocked both your eyes out so now you have those glass ones that don't move?

Loving your little blue arm bands though...so this season.

Reply 16

white_haired_wizard

Randomiser

I'm a cartoon. My breasts do not age. I'd be more concerned about the fact that I'm minus a nose. And whats with my eyes? I must be on drugs...

Trouble there then is that she can't sniff the scent of my sexiness

Reply 17

white_haired_wizard

Tarts_n_Vicars

Your heaving baps knocked both your eyes out so now you have those glass ones that don't move?

Loving your little blue arm bands though...so this season.

She's also wearing something resembling a priests collar, very 'in' at the moment.