Hmm what to do

Sorry to burst the ol' proverbial bubble here mate, I'm a guy.

With a hormone imbalance :smile:

Reply 21

Randomiser

Sorry to burst the ol' proverbial bubble here mate, I'm a guy.

With a hormone imbalance :smile:

I know....i've become infatuated with your cartoon. Please tell me she exists and that she isnt really a cartoon :confused:

Reply 22

I confess 'tis me...I did some modelling in between the weight loss and lipo. And don't hate me because I have glass eyes k

Reply 23

Only if you get me tarts_n_vicars number.
We can trade :smile:

Reply 24

lol make it worth my while and I'll give it directly to you :p:

Reply 25

Tarts...

And don't hate me because I have glass eyes k

Really? Me too! Don't tell me you have a peg leg too? If so, we're soul mates!!!

Reply 26

Tarts n blah

lol make it worth my while and I'll give it directly to you

"Worth your while"? What's the international dialling code for the UK anyway :smile:

I was going to say something about how easy it would be to get your number from the inside of any old phone booth, but I didn't want to offend - that's how nice I am! - Number please...

Reply 27

lol. Maybe it's better you go through wizard then.....

Reply 28

tarts n teacakes

lol. Maybe it's better you go through wizard then.....

Awww... I'm not really into that kind of thing :frown:

Reply 29

I don't think wizard is either :mad:

How dare you not consult me about all of this :wink:

Tart, doesn't randomiser strike you as slightly desperate?

Reply 30

OP

Well thanks you lot have been very helpfull, I have a genuine dilema here and you show no respect.

Reply 31

To the OP - you obviously have feelings of more than friendship for this person, irrespective of whether they are engaged or married they are taken and that's unlikely to change. So whilst you might try to just enjoy the friendship do you really think you would enjoy it, constantly wanting more from them?!

From experience I'd say a clean break is best, but then you haven't said what kind of relationship you have (i.e. whether it's practical for you to completely cut contact).

TnV

Reply 32

to the OP, you're hardly blameless. You seem on the verge of wanting to break up someones engagement...the bloke is with someone else for christs sake.

We show no respect to you and your dilemma, yet you show no respect to the fact that hes engaged and with someone he could potentially marry. If you can't help your feelings, then distance yourself from him, it's the only way.

Reply 33

OP

I am nowhere near any verge I assure you of that, the last thing I want to do is split people up, thats just wrong. Don't know where you got that idea from. Also who said I'm talkin about a bloke?

I show no respect to the person engaged? You sure? If I showed no respect I'd be trying my best to get with this person, spilling my feelings etc.

Reply 34

OP

Additionally like i said regardless of whether this person was married, seeing somebody or enganged, they are all relationships and I do not want to break up anything. Please don't assume things.

Reply 35

Anonymous

Additionally like i said regardless of whether this person was married, seeing somebody or enganged, they are all relationships and I do not want to break up anything. Please don't assume things.

In that case, why ask for our opinion? You sound worried that feelings will spill out, so surely you are strongly envisaging a not to distant outpouring. If you weren't overly concerned you surely wouldnt have started this thread?

You do seem 'on the verge' of something otherwise you wouldn't be filled with this worry that at some point down the line your feelings will spill out. If you're not on the ultimate verge, then you are very close.

If there's a danger of your feelings developing to such an extent that you will act them out on him...no-one in their right mind wants to cause hurt to someone else i appreciate that, but nevertheless that is what you could really be doing - and that doesn't excuse/justify your actions in any way whatsoever

Reply 36

OP

The only way I would say something is if this person and partner split, appart from that never.

I started this thread to ask advice on whether it was better to -

a) Keep my distance as much as possible, which in turn might cause this person to question me about my actions

or

b) Just enjoy the freindship, which in turn would result with me feeling worse.

Again don't assume this is a guy :wink:

Reply 37

So, a love interest in a woman who's engaged. And you're a woman yourself. OK :wink:

This really depends how well she gets on with you - are there any signs resonating from her that may leave you with some impression that there is a mutual attraction of the same variety?

An engagement is an engagement after all - it's not like she is married, many many people split during their engagement, it's not an unusual occurence. BUT, it's not like you can force the issue yourself, she has to want you too surely...

My advice is distance yourself, but not radically. Slowly distance yourself so that such action did not look obvious and implied something.

EDIT: You are in fact a homosexual male? Or bi-sexual? I have lesbian fantasies swimming around in my head now :biggrin:

Reply 38

OP

lol you crack me up, how are you having lesbian fantasies if you think I am a homosexual male?

I've never said if I was male or female or the person was male or female, but we are of different gender :smile:

sorry to burst the bubble there.

I don't want to comment on any possible mutual attraction because people will turn it against me somehow, and anyway it doesn't matter as the person is engaged.

The 'slowly distance' advice seems the best option for now, thanks :smile:

Reply 39