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Are We in Love?

I've known my boyfriend for about 6 months and we've been going out for just about 3 of those months. We have spent loads of time together. I have spent more time with him than any guy Ive been out with before. I really enjoy our time together even if we aren't doing anything in particular. I think about him a lot. I know he thinks about me too, because he asks me to come over a lot (not for sex sessions, but to spend time together :p: ).

We talk a lot and we are pretty open with each other and can discuss most things, we generally get on well. And obviously find each other attractive too. We've established that we like each other a lot, but I like him more than I let on because I don't want too seem too attached and therefore clingy as his last girlfriend was a bit obsessed with him and used to call him and declare her love for him several times a day.

I think he likes me more than he lets on too, I speak to him online sometimes when I am not with him when he's in the library doing work and the other day he said that he really likes me, maybe a bit too much.. what does that mean? We've even talked about kids (not that we want any now lol).

We haven't had any arguements, just disagrements which we have manged to sort out between us pretty quickly. We love to just snuggle up and talk and watch a film or just fall asleep. He has also talked about us possibly going on holiday soon, going to meet him mum (he's at uni), and either i was dreaming or he mentioned something about wanting to live with me in his final year of uni if we are still together.

When we first met, we met as friends and his view towards relationships and most things in life was that they didnt last long and that he would never get married etc, but hes views started to change when we got to know each other more in the 1st 3 months, he said that he would marry someone if he was with them a long time and they were right together (not suggesting thats me), and now we're together he says he can see us being together a long time. Before he also said they he wouldnt do long distance relationships, but when faced with a possible dilemma, he decided that he would like to try one with me if it came down to it.

I really like this guy and I'm pretty sure that he likes me, do you think it could be love?
Reply 1
I'm thinking if you have to make a thread dedicated to working out your feelings and asking whether it's love or not, then it isn't.
Reply 2
I thought I've been in love before, but when I look back I doubt I was, but I like this guy a whole lot more. What is love anyway, I dont think I've ever experienced it?
Well it sounds like you want it to be...
if you are 'in love' you shoulf just know. You shouldn't need to ask others
agreed. Its not something you can sit and think "hmmm, there are all these good things, it might be love". It either is or it isnt, and whether it is or not is entirely unrelated to how good the relationship is (ie, you can be in love with jerks). Don't ask us because we cannot search inside you. Only you can do that. But once you are in love, you just kinda know. You feel all warm and fuzzy when you are together, but its an emotion tinged with a destructive edge that sort of eats away at you. It can make you feel loney and sad, as well as warm and happy. In order to know if it is really love you might need to go through some really bad times. Then you will know if it is just the relationship you liked, or if it is the person as well.
When it happens you'll know. If you have to question it then it isnt love.
Doesn't mean you're not on the way to being in love with him though :smile:
Reply 8
I think it all sounds very sweet and sounds like love to me
Reply 9
It sounds like you could be in love, but not yet. You'll know when it happens.
Reply 10
If you are in love, you will know.