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Used?

Hey everyone,
For the last month i have been meeting up with this bloke about once a week, we havent slept with each other yet ( done everything else) but before i do, i want to know whether hes using me or not.
He asked me did i want a relationship at the moment and i said no, he said neither did he but we will see how things go and it might develop into one. I asked him if that was what he wanted and he said he doesnt know, maybe. The other day i told him that i aint a slag and that i dont just go back to anyones house and he said he knows, and that as long as we are both having fun theres nothing wrong with it.
Hes also said to me that he doesnt sleep with people unless in relationship, which i think is a good thing and i agree.
At the start of things, i did just want a bit of fun, but now im thinking i want a little more, nothing serious but something more that fun ( If you understand). Im thinking though that as soon as we have slept with each other he might just f*** me off basically?
How do i know whether he is just using me and what do you think i should do?
Hes told me that unless i get bored of him he isnt going to get bored of me etc. Sorry for me ranting on its just i cant really talk to anyone else about it properly.
xx
I don't think he's "using" you as such because as far as he is concerned you're both happy with the current arrangement. That arrangement does seem to be a purely "physical" one if he thinks a relationship "might" develop from it....it's usually the other way round!

You don't have to propose but maybe take the physical stuff off the table and see if he's still as interested. That way you'll know for sure :smile:
well if you don't want to do anything till you are sure then maybe you will just have to wait until he feels ready to tell you he wants a relationship or just be happy the way it is and do what you are ready for sexually if you feel like it
Reply 3
Do i wait for him to suggest it, or do you think i should say something about a relationship??
Reply 4
marie7040
Hey everyone,
For the last month i have been meeting up with this bloke about once a week, we havent slept with each other yet ( done everything else) but before i do, i want to know whether hes using me or not.
He asked me did i want a relationship at the moment and i said no, he said neither did he but we will see how things go and it might develop into one. I asked him if that was what he wanted and he said he doesnt know, maybe. The other day i told him that i aint a slag and that i dont just go back to anyones house and he said he knows, and that as long as we are both having fun theres nothing wrong with it.
Hes also said to me that he doesnt sleep with people unless in relationship, which i think is a good thing and i agree.
At the start of things, i did just want a bit of fun, but now im thinking i want a little more, nothing serious but something more that fun ( If you understand). Im thinking though that as soon as we have slept with each other he might just f*** me off basically?
How do i know whether he is just using me and what do you think i should do?
Hes told me that unless i get bored of him he isnt going to get bored of me etc. Sorry for me ranting on its just i cant really talk to anyone else about it properly.
xx




I'd say your not being used. I think you sound like hard work though to be honest and you're lucky hes still will with you.

Sounds like to me that he likes you, but your problem is that you dropped yourself into the crap because to start of with you said you didnt want a relationship or anything (Which then leads him to think about what you do want) and then you say you're not into being 'a slag' either and wont sleep with anyone.

Then This guys STILL Seeing you... hes putting major effort in still.

If he was using you, you wouldnt be seeing any of him at the moment because currently he thinks that he isnt going to be getting a relationship from you, or any casual fun either. sounds like he likes you as a person!
Reply 5
We are having casual fun though, just not sex x