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I'm 19 years old and was told by my mum a few years ago that I was circumcised as a baby. I was born in Nigeria and came here when I was 1 years old so have grown up in western civilisation.
Recently it's been bothering me that I might not be able to have orgasms like other girls. I'm still a virgin and don't plan on having sex any time soon but I would still like to know if I can still have regular sexual orgasms and experiences. It's starting to really upset me and I don't know what to do.

I've never told anybody about this as it's not really a normal conversation to have with my friends about sex. I feel really angry towards my mum for letting it happen but when she told me, she didn't regret it but then the past is the past. I'm just really scared that this is going to affect me later in life.
I haven't had that many experiences with guys but know that I can get horny :/ Just really confused about this all.

Question to any boys reading this thread; would it be a deal breaker if a girl didn't have a clitoris? I plan to be adventurous and try new things in my sex life and am up for anything.
Sorry for the ramble guys.
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Ouch. Discovering you've been abused is never easy.

I know of at least one person, one of the porn stars named Chloe, who damaged her clitoris beyond repair or sensation via a gymnastics accident as a child. She is still able to have orgasms and there has been no shortage of people willing to be sexual with her.
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I'm sure it's still possible to stimulate that area, regardless of whether the protruding tissue is there or not.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Question to any boys reading this thread; would it be a deal breaker if a girl didn't have a clitoris? I plan to be adventurous and try new things in my sex life and am up for anything.
Sorry for the ramble guys.
I'm a boy and tbh if a girl didn't have a clit it'd actually be a good thing - one less thing for me to concentrate on.
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Have you been to see a Doctor about this? There may be something they can do, or they may be able to offer you some advice?

Tbh, I think it's a better idea than asking a student forum. I wouldn't be embarrassed about going as they're professionals and it's their job to help.
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I'm not a guy, but I am bi and personally it wouldn;t bother me. Just sad that it happened to you
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Aww I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm a girl but I don't see why it would put boys off tbh. Also, many girls can have orgasms from g-spot stimulation, the whole vulva area is sensitive to stimulation not just the clitoris, as are other parts of the body eg. the nipples. So while I'm no doctor, I think you would still be able to have awesome, enjoyable sex, and while clit stimulation is the easiest way to orgasm for most girls, it's not the only way.
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Thanks guys, you've definitely made me feel a bit better. Hopefully as time goes on I come to terms with what happened but it looks like all hope is not lost. It looks like a trip to the doctors is on the cards!
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I am so ****ing angry right now.
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How dare anyone do that to you. I'm so so sorry that it happened My sister's friend though was born without a clitoris (or at least it is tiny and non-functioning) she manages to get pleasure through sex (and orgasms). It is thought that the g-spot, located within the vagina, is actually stimulating the extension of the clitoris inside you, that part wouldn't have been taken away by the animals that mutilated you.
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I've seen girls who have various stages of female genital mutilation (FGM) on placement, it always makes me sad to see it. Trust me when I say your doctor is the best person to talk to about this, depending on the area you live in, there may be a support group available for you with other girls who have had this type of surgery done. I would strongly suggest talking to your GP as they are the best for advice, but I'm pretty sure you can still orgasm, although realistically you may find it more difficult than other girls - but it all depends, some women have really sensitive clitorises and can't bear clitoral stimulation at all so it depends on you really.
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(Original post by Jerome's Niece)
I'm a boy and tbh if a girl didn't have a clit it'd actually be a good thing - one less thing for me to concentrate on.
What the hell is wrong with you? Do you even know anything about FGM and how it affects women?
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As others have stated, you should consult a physician, so you can learn what hasn't or hasn't been removed. There are many different forms of female genital mutilation. One medical article states even in extreme forms, the clitoris was still present in some women, under scar tissue. While the clitoris is often a woman's primary erogenous zone, it isn't the only one. It is also important to acknowledge, that as with your mother, women in areas where FGM is common, women there see themselves as normal. That is why eliminating the practice is so challenging. You are normal for you, and you shouldn't compare yourself to anyone else, or at least those who don't share similar experiences. Q
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I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you, that's awful, how could anyone do that to another person
Well, the good news I can tell you is that not everyone necessarily orgasms by clitoral stimulation although it does help in many cases. There are lots of people, like me, who don't orgasm unless they're actually having penetrative sex, but remember that actually all of the vulva area is sensitive during arousal so it's not all about the clit
Like the others have said, you'll probably want to go and see a doctor to talk about this some more x
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I would probably make you feel better sweetheart if get you get close to me😊try to contact me
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1. There’s are plenty of ways for you to have an orgasm, there isn’t no guarantee though as it’s not always easy for a girl to have one and not all male partners will be the best when it comes to pleasing you. But I do hope that you do find a man capable of pleasing you, and that his skills can make up for a possible lack in stimulation from norm having a clit. (As a guy and as someone who doesnt know/hasn’t read what the effect says of not having a clit are exactly, I couldn’t tell you how it feels to be sexual without one. But I am aware that there aren’t other ways to be stimulated without involving a clit)

2. I feel you can still get horny, then I can almost guarantee that if you receive some good attention, you’ll be perfectly fine when it comes to reaching an orgasm.

3. I don’t think it would be a deal breaker at all. In fact, the mention of wanting to be adventurous makes it more enticing to attempt a relationship. And if a guy was shallow enough to turn away from you for such a minor detail compared to everything’s else that makes you you, I wouldn’t even bother with being upset with him after he was so disrespectful.

Hope this helps make you feel better!
(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm 19 years old and was told by my mum a few years ago that I was circumcised as a baby. I was born in Nigeria and came here when I was 1 years old so have grown up in western civilisation.
Recently it's been bothering me that I might not be able to have orgasms like other girls. I'm still a virgin and don't plan on having sex any time soon but I would still like to know if I can still have regular sexual orgasms and experiences. It's starting to really upset me and I don't know what to do.

I've never told anybody about this as it's not really a normal conversation to have with my friends about sex. I feel really angry towards my mum for letting it happen but when she told me, she didn't regret it but then the past is the past. I'm just really scared that this is going to affect me later in life.
I haven't had that many experiences with guys but know that I can get horny :/ Just really confused about this all.

Question to any boys reading this thread; would it be a deal breaker if a girl didn't have a clitoris? I plan to be adventurous and try new things in my sex life and am up for anything.
Sorry for the ramble guys.
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That unfortunate situation, it is reprehensible that there are still people who assault girls and mark them for a lifetime, I had a girlfriend who by accident of piercing in the clitoris damaged her sensibility and stopped feeling orgasms by clitoris, but everything else if It worked well, her orgasms were normal in penetration and anal, the problem is that many men prefer to do oral sex and the reactions that the clitoris produces is an pleasure factor for the man, before when he sucked his clitoris she jumped her legs and after the accident with the piercing stopped jumping and did not achieve orgasm. Regrettable. if it is important for the preference of oral sex.
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I married a woman who has been
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Keep ur head up. There is nothing you can do to change the past. From what ive read the clitoris is largely internal, about 3-4 inches inside the vagina. Good luck with boys and remember they are just boys now so dont expect anything super mature to come from them. Especially if even your girlfriends are difficult to communicate with. Once someone falls in love with you for all the right reasons there should be no deal breakers. Physical, mental or spiritual! May God bless you young lady.
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