should i just let him go?

i had been with my bf for a year,we had our problems,such as his addiction to dodgy dating sites(while we were together!!!) but we really loved each other and that always won in the end because we couldn't bear to be without each other.however,since christmas,things have been strained,and although we both still loved each other and regularly said that and still did loads together,he would get exasperated with me a lot and me with him.his parents and me really didnt get on due to the fact that they let him get away with anything and don't seem to feel any sympathy for me getting hurt by him even though id only ever been polite to them etc.this was all in the last 3 months,but in the last few weeks,things had been improving and we had been more relaxed around each other again and just happy.we were living together,which obviously brought up afew spats sometimes but on the whole we made a great team.i kept getting the feeling that he wasnt as happy as he once was though,but if i asked him,hed say nothing was wrong,but in a very annoyed tone of voice.and so,i carried on,doing right by him and trying to give him space incase that was the problem etc.we went out often and seemed fine,then suddenly,out of the blue,after no fight or anything,he tells me he loves me so much but he just cant do it anymore.he tells me nobody else is involved he just cant see a future with us sniping at each other(even though this was improving).he seemed really cut up about it,none of it made any sense,but i wasnt gonna hang around if thats how he felt,he clearly wanted me to move out,so i did,and he didnt try to stop me.and now,before i can move on,i just need to know if his parents bribed him or influenced his decision in any way.he just wont give me a solid reason though,and i cant see how he can be ok with this.i havnt been in touch with him since i moved out the other day and i dont intend to be-i realise i will have to just move on as i cant make him be with me,but it just didnt make any sense and i dont quite know where to go from here... :confused:

Reply 1

Philosophia

Admitdely, it's unfair of you to not justify this break.

But I'd let him go, hun. This is going to be really tough. But it's better than letting things go progressively bad to worse, which it may do if the both of you were tense. Perhaps there is some parental invovlement, but if that is the case you are better off letting go. An ex of mine had terribly controlling parents - not a nice relationship to be in. So leave it a couple of weeks, relax, and see how things pan out.

Best of Luck. :smile:

xxx

Reply 2

naymeee

thanks, thats kind of the conclusion i'm coming to.his parents would not rest until they got rid of me-i don't think they really care if he's truly happy or not, even if they think they do.i actually think it's more likely to have been this old friend of his that has just come back into his life.he thinks he knows best and my ex just goes along with whatever advice hes given i think.its very hard,but i have to let him go because no matter how we feel about each other,the world seems to be against us and hes not strong enough to fight..