I don't want sex

I'm an 18 year old female virgin and the thought of having sex just really doesn't interest me. I'm not embarrassed about being a virgin because really I choose to be one. I suppose I don't really feel ready for sex, it just feels like too much hassle.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I just odd?

Reply 1

Flair

Anonymous

I'm an 18 year old female virgin and the thought of having sex just really doesn't interest me. I'm not embarrassed about being a virgin because really I choose to be one. I suppose I don't really feel ready for sex, it just feels like too much hassle.

Does anyone else feel like this or am I just odd?

It is actually true that about 1 in 30 people have no interest in sex whatsoever.

Reply 2

sssh

10

I don't think you're odd, although you're probably fairly rare. There are people who are just asexual, but maybe you haven't met the 'right person' yet, blah blah blah and all that stuff the first poster is supposed to say. I imagine that these people might feel a little alienated by our highly sexualised culture.

Reply 3

Talon

18

I would hardly describe sex as "hassle". Lol.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Talon

I would hardly describe sex as "hassle". Lol.

Heh, well the way I see it it's too cold to get naked for very long and you get messy and have to shower and personally I know I'd be worrying about if I was good or not and how fat my arse is.

Reply 5

Talon

18

If its cold dont have sex outside... :rolleyes:

As for the shower...personal preference really. No really any need if you are going to stay in bed for some time...I didnt get that messy last time I had sex....

Reply 6

Wineblood

Flair

It is actually true that about 1 in 30 people have no interest in sex whatsoever.

I heard it's 1 in 100.

Reply 7

Keybolasosa

3

Anonymous

and have to shower

Dum Dum duuuuuuummmmmm.

The dreaded shower!!!!!!!

Reply 8

President_Ben

15

Keybolasosa

Dum Dum duuuuuuummmmmm.

The dreaded shower!!!!!!!

Exactly, I mean, needing to have a shower. Woah, that so puts me off sex :rolleyes:

Reply 9

glisten

1

Anonymous

Heh, well the way I see it it's too cold to get naked for very long and you get messy and have to shower and personally I know I'd be worrying about if I was good or not and how fat my arse is.

You don't feel the cold when your naked and having sex, normally you get very hot and sweaty :rolleyes:

. Thats where the shower comes in. With the shower, it depends how you feel. If I feel very sweaty, I have a shower. Depends.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

I wish you'd all stop rolling your eyes at me...this is a general concern of mine and I'm not saying that having a shower is a huge deal or anything so stop focusing on that. I have no interest in sex whatsoever and you all obviously think that's odd and I just want to understand what's wrong with me.

Reply 11

white_haired_wizard

16

Anonymous

I wish you'd all stop rolling your eyes at me...this is a general concern of mine and I'm not saying that having a shower is a huge deal or anything so stop focusing on that. I have no interest in sex whatsoever and you all obviously think that's odd and I just want to understand what's wrong with me.

Perhaps you say all of this because you haven't employed your sexuality at all, i.e. you haven't held hands with a bloke, you haven't kissed, hugged much et cetera ??? i.e. you feel so asexual because you haven't done anything, but this hardly warrants you 'asexual' - i don't think you are asexual until you have at least dabbled in some things, 'tested the water' as such

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Nothing is wrong with you, I'm 18 and don't have an interest in sex. I don't feel that it would be a hassle, I'm just generally not interested in it. I sometimes like a bit of an oddball but then i'd feel weird if i did something i didnt want to just to "fit in" - Relationships can be difficult though as its hard to find someone who understands.

Reply 13

glisten

1

Anonymous

I wish you'd all stop rolling your eyes at me...this is a general concern of mine and I'm not saying that having a shower is a huge deal or anything so stop focusing on that. I have no interest in sex whatsoever and you all obviously think that's odd and I just want to understand what's wrong with me.

I be honest, I don't see anything wrong with it. I had a friend who didn't want sex and still doesn't. She had no sexual desire. She said that the whole idea of been penetrated made her feel sick. She doesn't want a boyfriend either.

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

I can totaly relate to you so don't worry, I thought of it as a "hassle" before I started seeing my boyfriend and then I was so suprised at how at ease i was with him-he commented on how nice my rear end was lol, i was like "are u kidding?!" and the mess wasn't an issue because we were so in to it. Most of the time i just joke about the mess and keep babywipes beside the bed at all times.
I don't think I would be at ease if i didn't know the guy and it was a one nighter but when your really comfortable with someone the mess and how big ure ass is, really doesn't come in to it. Trust me on this one coz wen i read your post i was like "wait a minute is that my former self?!" you are definatly not "asexual" as someone put it.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you everyone, I do feel a lot better now. I'm on the pill as well and apparently that decreases sex drive, but at the same time I'm not one of these people who gets involved with loads of guys anyway.

Oh and thanks particularly to the last anonymous poster...I don't really like thinking of myself as 'asexual'! I've never really been at ease enough with a guy to want to go any further with him and sometimes I feel like I'm frigid or something! Gah, I'm glad someone understands. :smile:

Reply 16

*Kates*

Anonymous

Heh, well the way I see it it's too cold to get naked for very long and you get messy and have to shower and personally I know I'd be worrying about if I was good or not and how fat my arse is.

I think you have put yourself off of sex with your negative thoughts. Sex isn't messy and if your with the right person you wouldn't feel worried about how big your arse is etc. Trust me, you wouldn't feel cold.

Reply 17

glisten

1

Anonymous

I've never really been at ease enough with a guy to want to go any further with him and sometimes I feel like I'm frigid or something!

It's because you haven't met a guy thats right for you. You will eventually meet someone who you trust and are at ease with, then you may consider it.

Reply 18

BlackpoolCraig

11

There probably won't be anything wrong with you. You could be asexual- i.e. you don't have any sexual desire, which is perfectly fine. Some people love sex, and some people just don't see what te big deal is.

You may just be a "late bloomer", not ready for sex yet. There are quite a few scenarios which may be applicable, but at the end of the day, you're not having sex, and it's your choice not to have sex, and that's what you want, so in all honesty, i don't think there's anything wrong with you.

Reply 19

username47781

20

No thats normal to feel like that being at that age not everyone wants to have sex at 18, no rush to meet someone either, and just ignore some of the jokers around as well.

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