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No sexual desire whatsoever

Im a 20 year old guy and I felt compelled to write this because Im starting to worry about it. I simply dont have any interest, desire or longing for sex. I dont know what its like to feel 'horny' etc.

Being graphic here but I could go weeks without masturbating and it wouldnt affect me, and I dont really find any enjoyment in it either.

It seems all my friends think about it all the time, go on about how desperate they are and how much they need it, and talk about people all the time ie ''god wouldnt you love to have sex with her...'' etc and I j ust never feel that way.

Im starting to think I might actually have a problem down below?

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Reply 1

Sounds like either A> you work to hard. or B> you've had too much grief from girls in the past?
errmmm this might be a just a coinsidence but the anom person who posted a thread on the next page think it was titled "I just dont want to have sex" has the same number of posts as this person who posted.
Reply 3
Carl1982
errmmm this might be a just a coinsidence but the anom person who posted a thread on the next page think it was titled "I just dont want to have sex" has the same number of posts as this person who posted.


I thought TSR randomly made up a post count wen u go anonymous
Reply 4
Carl1982
errmmm this might be a just a coinsidence but the anom person who posted a thread on the next page think it was titled "I just dont want to have sex" has the same number of posts as this person who posted.


It is a coincidence, since anonymous posts are now given a random post count for anyone who posts using it.

To the OP, I have heard of such instances before, and often the cause is stress or grief - has something causes this happened in your life, or something that has caused it to be on a deep-rooted level? However, if you have *never* had sexual desire, perhaps it would be advisable to talk with a doctor/counsellor. Has your body developed in the normal way?
oh maybe its that lol i dont know
ill have the same number of posts as the above anon poster.......

do you have trouble getting erections, even if you havent masturbated that day?
Reply 7
Anonymous

Being graphic here but I could go weeks without masturbating and it wouldnt affect me, and I dont really find any enjoyment in it either.


surely if you masturbate at all you have some level of sexual desire?
Reply 8
mermania
surely if you masturbate at all you have some level of sexual desire?


I think he's saying that he does it because he is trying to stimulate some kind of sexual desire in himself.

Maybe if you got together with the girl who started the other thread about this...:wink:

I'm kidding. It is normal for some people to not have any sexual desire, but if it is worrying you then maybe you could go to the doctors about it?

Have a look on goaskalice, they might have some better advice.
Reply 9
I just did a quick search there and came up with this:

http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/4646.html

Maybe if you tried phrasing it slightly differently you might come up with some other useful articles. I just searched "no sexual desire".
sssh
It is normal for some people to not have any sexual desire,


Are you sure about that? I can rarely go a day without cracking one off the wrist, or if im with the chick getting my nuts in.
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Testosterone most likely the problem.. so I suggest you increase it.

Start going to the gym, playing Rugby something that requires you to be powerful and eat steaks. If you still have problems... maybe your gay.
Reply 13
I read this magazine article about people who have no sexual desire and its actually like a clinical condition, forgotten what its called but there are quite a few people who feel this way.
Go to a counceller at your college/uni/docs. It may be that youve got some suppressed emotion from past experiences? or your diet could be bad? (gillian mckeith is always banging on about how seeds increase sex drive)
has anyone else noticed that anonymous has been posting alot in here recently... man that guy is ****ed up.
Reply 15
Mad_Monkey59
has anyone else noticed that anonymous has been posting alot in here recently... man that guy is ****ed up.


Hahaha. I know. He's male, female, gay, straight, having trouble with different sized breasts AND struggling to get an erection. Poor guy/girl/person. :wink:
You're asexual.
Reply 17
Mad_Monkey59
Testosterone most likely the problem.. so I suggest you increase it.

Start going to the gym, playing Rugby something that requires you to be powerful and eat steaks. If you still have problems... maybe your gay.


That makes no sense, playing heavy sports like rugby uses up sexual energy. Hence the old rule, 'no sex before a match'.
Reply 18
icedout
That makes no sense, playing heavy sports like rugby uses up sexual energy. Hence the old rule, 'no sex before a match'.


To the best of my understanding, testosterone isn't 'used up' doing sport and so on. I thought the idea behind that rule was that you'd be tired out the next day.
Reply 19
Mad_Monkey59
If you still have problems... maybe your gay.


because, of course, gay people have no sexual desire

:rolleyes: