Relationship with a boy

Here's the problem (sorry, it's a bit long):

A couple of years ago, when i was 16, I met a boy I liked. We saw each other for a bit, but he backed out of it because his ex girlfriend (who he wasn't over) wanted to try things again. It didn't work out for them, and I was hurt. We didn't talk face to face for about a year, because he lives about an hour and a half away from me on the train, and I had blocked him on MSN.

I unblocked him about a year ago, and we started chatting again by MSN and text. Though we were just friends, he apologised for hurting me. He told me that he had made the wrong choice between his ex and me, and we talked a bit about how things could have worked out differently. We flirted quite a lot, and then eventually decided to meet up again.

We went out for his birthday, and immediatly it was obvious that we both really physically fancied each other, as well as getting on really really well. The thing is that we make each other laugh, and although it was a bit nreve wracking seeing him after such a long gap, we ended up dancing together all night and kissing etc. We were both drunk, and he was E, but i'm not sure if that's relevant. It wasn't for me, anyway.

After that we flirted some more in texts, and I invited him to my 18th birthday. He said he would come, but I didn't want to ask him too much. In the end I had my party, and he didn't come. A couple of months later he mentioned how he wished he had been there, so I am not sure if him not being there was a result of business or choice. After this things grew distant, as we live a little while apart, and when I asked him about it on MSN he told me that whatever happened, I was lovely, gorgeous etc and that it was just such an annoying thing that we lived so far apart.

I guess I forgot about it until recently, when we have been chatting a lot on MSN again (god, this makes me sound like such a geek, I'm not really!!). We just get on so well in real life, and I am so attracted to him. I mentioned meeting up again and it seems like we will, after all our A-level coursework is handed in and so on.

I just wonder what other people think of the situation? He hurt me a bit, but I still like him SO much as a friend, and more. We live far apart, but not TOO far apart, and although I may be getting ahead of myself, it's always felt like if we lived closer we'd be SO together. We're having gap years, and I feel it could be the right time for us... but do you think he's stringing me along? I just really can't tell.

P.S. if you read this far, thanks, and seriously well done, you deserve a GCSE in staying awake!

Reply 1

username47781

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Maybe you two should meet up for a drink or something?

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Carl1982

Maybe you two should meet up for a drink or something?

another friend suggested this to me, but i feel it's a bit full on because we don't live locally and because we haven't seen each other in months... it would be more likely that we went clubbing, with his friends and my friends there too. (trouble is, that doesn't leave much talking time)

Reply 3

pumpkin7

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i'd ask him outright to be honest. then at least you would know where you stand and what you can afford to do.

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pumpkin7

i'd ask him outright to be honest. then at least you would know where you stand and what you can afford to do.

this is a good idea, i just suppose i need to see him more often first. wouldn't this scare him off a bit? i just really can't tell what he's playing at.

Reply 5

Redefined

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I dunno but to me it seems he is using you a bit. Obviously there is an attraction there and I can't see why he is holding back but he chose his ex over you and when that didn't work he came back to you and say he made the wrong choice..obviously! Missing your 18th...that would need a good reason if he did actually like you as it is a big thing in a persons life.

Again I'm sorry I can't see anything positive but i guess a different perspective is always good :smile:

Break free and fly free is what I say :smile:

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law:portal

I dunno but to me it seems he is using you a bit. Obviously there is an attraction there and I can't see why he is holding back but he chose his ex over you and when that didn't work he came back to you and say he made the wrong choice..obviously! Missing your 18th...that would need a good reason if he did actually like you as it is a big thing in a persons life.

Again I'm sorry I can't see anything positive but i guess a different perspective is always good :smile:

Break free and fly free is what I say :smile:

aww, thanks. well the thing is that we're quite far in distance, so it's hard to see each other much and that's why i don't blame him. i did feel a bit used at the time, but we're really cool with each other and have never argued, and i didn't want to start anything. it's weird. i feel like i have to make all the first moves, but that he reciprocates really quickly. i think he's being cautious because of distance (it isn't really that far, just opposite ends of london, but because of schoolwork etc it's not been possibly)
... i don't know! it's ****, because i like him loads. he's so cute and so funny and so sexy and so right for me. i know it.

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