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Break up over Fame - what to do?

so where do i start
basically my bf applied to fame story(singing competition thing) in his home country and heard back from them today, they asked him to send in videos of him singing etc.
im really happy for him and everything but somewhere deep down i wish he doesnt get accepted.
if he does he'l go back to his home country for about two months where i wont see him and barely speak to him (obviously except on TV) and for all i know, he might forget about me and the fame will get to his head etc...

now i know he wants to be a singer and he has an amazing voice and this is his lifelong dream sort of thing. i dont wanna tell him how i feel cos i want to support him through all of this. i know hes really nervous and telling him would be really selfish.

im pretending to be so excited for him and helping him pick out songs to sing etc but i just feel like crying everytime i think of him leaving.

what should i do?
any advice?
and we've only been together for 4 months,but when he leaves itl prob be about 6/7 months.
should i break up with him if he gets accepted? should i do it now? :frown:

Reply 1

CassieCoo

1

dont break up with him, if you love him, support him all the way thorugh it because hes gona need ya

Reply 2

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CassieCoo

dont break up with him, if you love him, support him all the way thorugh it because hes gona need ya

u think he'l need support when hes there? i mean ill still support him either way its just i feel that he wont have time for me and he might not do so well cos hes got me at home etc etc.
wont he get preoccupied with all the new friends and fame he'l get?

Reply 3

username47781

20

Ah come on don't break up with him just becase he's gonna be away a while he might give up his dream without your support.

Reply 4

CassieCoo

1

dont u wanna be there for him when hes so happy (where will he be going)
can u see urself with him 4ever?

Reply 5

Schmokie Dragon

17

Why break up with him? Never anticipate a possible bad situation and then make it happen by trying to get in first. Its only a couple of months. Try being with someone who is in the military. They go away for months and months, and not to their home county to sing either.

Besides, if you ditch him, you may ruin this for him. Would you really want to know that in your despiration not to be hurt, you in fact hurt someone else two fold?

Reply 6

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Carl1982

Ah come on don't break up with him just becase he's gonna be away a while he might give up his dream without your support.

i'd still support him the whole way, but its not like that, we only been together for about 4 months now. but i do really like him

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

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CassieCoo

dont u wanna be there for him when hes so happy (where will he be going)
can u see urself with him 4ever?

i dont know thats whats so confusing.

Reply 8

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Schmokie Dragon

Why break up with him? Never anticipate a possible bad situation and then make it happen by trying to get in first. Its only a couple of months. Try being with someone who is in the military. They go away for months and months, and not to their home county to sing either.

Besides, if you ditch him, you may ruin this for him. Would you really want to know that in your despiration not to be hurt, you in fact hurt someone else two fold?

i guess not.
i keep trying to look at the positives but i dont see them.
if he wins the competition he might stay there and itl be over.
its just too much to handle thats all

Reply 9

ladygrey

Let him follow his dreams... if you aren't prepared to support that, then maybe you shouldn't be together. He should do the same for you if you were in a similar situation.

Reply 10

mrteacher

1

u can become his groupie! hehe! and u might get a part of the fame too:P

Reply 11

ciara

13

Firstly, don't jump the gun. This might well not go anywhere. And you're not to look pleased if it doesn't. Don't let your imagination run away with you.

Secondly, if this is the love of your life, and this is his lifelong dream, and he's finally getting somewhere with it, then you need to stop being selfish about it. 2 months really isn't a lot of time for a couple in a serious relationship to spend apart, if you don't think it'll last then why are you with him?

To genuinely support him you have to want to be there for him throughout all of this, and to me it doesn't sound like you want to if it involves a lot of effort. If he hits the big time he'll need you there as a companion and to keep him grounded. And less of the insecurity - why would he want to get off with random groupies if he has you, who he presumably loves and who actually knows him?

Reply 12

Happy1

14

Aw hun. If he loves you, he won't forget you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This could be a fanastic thing for him, try not to let your own feelings prevent him from doing it. Just remember that he won't forget you if he loves you - if he does, he wasn't the one for you.

Reply 13

~*Sar*~

1

Schmokie Dragon

Try being with someone who is in the military. They go away for months and months, and not to their home county to sing either.

^^

so true.

Honestly, give it a go, it could potentially make your relationship grow stronger.

Reply 14

username47781

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Anonymous

i guess not.
i keep trying to look at the positives but i dont see them.
if he wins the competition he might stay there and itl be over.
its just too much to handle thats all

if you really like him that much as they all said why don't you give it ago some girls here have guys in the army and they don't see them for like forever way longer than you will be apart from him, and would he really want you to leave him, wouldn't that leave him devestated.

Break up over Fame - what to do?

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