Is it worth it?

Is it worth starting a relationship with someone if you know it has an expiration date? For instance, there's a guy I like, and I think he might like me too, but I am leaving for the summer in the beginning of July, and then I'm going away to uni (not sure where yet). He is a year younger, so he'd obviously still be in college. Is it worth it, if I know it would probably/definitely end in 3.5 months? :confused:

hmmm

Reply 1

ladygrey

OP

err... anyone? I am very split on the issue.

Reply 2

subterfuge

1

meh, i'd probably say that you might aswell give it a go

it might be sad to leave him, but if it breaks down anyway, then the leaving's a bonus :smile:

Reply 3

JadedHippy

11

Dunno, It seems a bit depressing to me. If you are both happy with it though, I can't think of any moral objections.

*Peace

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

17

I would say yes, definitely go for it. You've got the summer and a relationship will leave you with plenty of great memories. Life happens only once (unless you're a Hindu of course) so I recommend making the most of it. You have a long time yet; remember Uni generally starts in October and when it's time to go it'll be sad (if it all works out!) but I realised last night, my closest female friends tend to be the girls I've had a relationship with at some point. There's something to be said for relationships - even when they won't necessarily last. To be honest it doesn't really make much difference anyway, very few people our age are with the bf/gf they're going to marry.

Reply 5

sjuthani

6

I know what you're going through- entirely unexpectedly, I met the most amazing girl about a month and a half ago. We're now going out. Both of us will be at different unis, and all the advice I've heard is "Break up before uni, because its just too hard- it'll break it up for you, and that's not a good way to leave a relationship". But I do know of couples successful at surviving through uni, even when one of them isn't there, and their advice has been solely about trust. Do you trust them enough? I trust my girlfriend, and she trusts me, so we're going to try and make this thing work.

You're in a slightly different situation, but I really think you should give it a shot if you like him that much.

Reply 6

.:fluff:.

1

I think you should give it a go. :p:

I recently got together with a guy, we'd been really good friends for the past 2 years or so then just after christmas i realised i had feelings for him, he then told me he had feelings for me too. At the time i was with someone but felt so strongly about this other guy that i ended it and we got together. Things have been great, i'm happier than i have been for a while, but we're in the same situation. He's going to Manchester next year and i'm going to Hull. We sat down and talked about it and came to the conclusion that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all :wink:

so give it a go, if you don't you might regret it :smile:

Reply 7

mousey

2

And if everything is going swimmingly then there's no reason you have to give up straight away. There's not a rule that you have to break up with your partner when you go to university. xx

Reply 8

shinyhappy

14

Hey. I think you should go for it. It might not work, but surely its worth a try for the fun times you can have over the next couple of months.
And there's nothing to say that uni will split you up. I'm three years younger than my boyfriend, I started a relationship with him over the 3 weeks he had at home for Christmas '04! We carried on from there, even though we didn't at the time think it'd work out, but it has..! Don't give up on a relationship just because there's something lurking in the future that might split you up... Good luck!

Reply 9

wendizzle22

1

I think I'd go for it if I was you, because all relationships ultimately end (because life ends!), people should just enjoy them while they last. You never know, it could turn out to be so good that it lasts while you are at University despite distance.

Reply 10

ladygrey

OP

yeah... I think I'll go for it... haha just hope he feels the same and I can figure out how to go for it.

Reply 11

totally_unique

1

Do it, it could be the best decision you ever make.

Trust me, never give up on something because you look forward, with most problems, there is a way to solve them that you don't usually think about.

xxxxx

Reply 12

Sezkin

11

ladygrey

yeah... I think I'll go for it... haha just hope he feels the same and I can figure out how to go for it.

Hiya Ladygrey! :biggrin:

So have you manage to talk more to that lad you like? :p:

Sezkin

Reply 13

Flank Runner

i wish you the best of luck and who says it must end when you leave for uni, sweet jesus i hope that dont apply for the army aswell cause damn i wanted to ask this girl in the year below out but if it aint gonna work out then :frown:

, i feel so sad

Reply 14

Sezkin

11

ladygrey

Is it worth starting a relationship with someone if you know it has an expiration date? For instance, there's a guy I like, and I think he might like me too, but I am leaving for the summer in the beginning of July, and then I'm going away to uni (not sure where yet). He is a year younger, so he'd obviously still be in college. Is it worth it, if I know it would probably/definitely end in 3.5 months? :confused:

hmmm

Anyway, I think you should go for it, plus you have a long summer holiday where you can enjoy yourself with him , on the beach on a lovely hot day lying next to each other on the sand and basically glazing in each other eyes....ok i'll stop I'm getting carried away there ..... :redface:

But anyway, if you really like him and it got to the point where you won't be seeing much of him due to uni, it shouldn't matter, as long as you both trust each other and if you love him ( when you get to know him more of course..) then it should be worthwhile.. :biggrin:

Tell him how you feel at the right time and see how it goes from there :smile:

Sezkin

Reply 15

petri dish

and a good cliche.."it's better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"

Reply 16

Flank Runner

truer words have not been spoken, lol or typed :biggrin:

Reply 17

Sezkin

11

Flank Runner

i wish you the best of luck and who says it must end when you leave for uni, sweet jesus i hope that dont apply for the army aswell cause damn i wanted to ask this girl in the year below out but if it aint gonna work out then :frown:

, i feel so sad

So is this girl a really good friend of yours? If so, you should tell her how you feel, and you'll find out the answer from her; it's better asking her sooner than later, cos then you won't regret it and if she says 'no' then at least you've tried. :smile: