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This guy (friend of a friend) invited me to his prom next month but I have one problem - he never talks to me, like never - he's so shy. He didn't even ask me to my face, he did it on sms. Whenever I see him at parties etc. he like never has anything to say to me and seems really nervous. I'm absolutely dreading sitting in silence all night. Can you give me any advice on how to bring him out of his shell?
Reply 1
one word - alcohol!
Reply 2
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Anonymous
This guy (friend of a friend) invited me to his prom next month but I have one problem - he never talks to me, like never - he's so shy. He didn't even ask me to my face, he did it on sms. Whenever I see him at parties etc. he like never has anything to say to me and seems really nervous. I'm absolutely dreading sitting in silence all night. Can you give me any advice on how to bring him out of his shell?
Why don't you go up to him and talk to him
Try asking him on the sort of questions that you would like to be asked. Then carry on from there
..simple really.Or you could try what the post above said
SezkinReply 3
tell him how u feel
Reply 4
its slightly odd that he asked you if he doesnt chat to you at parties - maybe he just REALLY likes you so gets all tongue-tied aw bless
Reply 5
If you're going to a prom together then you'll be dancing together and that always breaks the barrier and he'll come out of his shell in no time!
Reply 6
ply him with alcohol then sexually assault him. Guys love that sort of thing.
Failing that, you need to pull him to one side and have a chat with him. Its not his fault he's shy, he probably really wants to talk to you and ask you in person but its very, very difficult when your shy. You need to be understanding, if your not an understanding person then dont bother.
Failing that, you need to pull him to one side and have a chat with him. Its not his fault he's shy, he probably really wants to talk to you and ask you in person but its very, very difficult when your shy. You need to be understanding, if your not an understanding person then dont bother.
Reply 7
UtterNutter69
its very, very difficult when your shy. You need to be understanding, if your not an understanding person then dont bother.
I completely agree that's why I posted trying to get some advice on how to handle the situation. What sort of things should I say? (I know this sounds stupid but maybe I'm kinda shy too
) Last time I saw him, I kinda exhausted the whole uni application/school talk.Reply 8
I'm sure he'll become a lot more talkative since he knows you like him (I assume, since you're going to the prom with him)- he's only been giving you the silent treatment because he fancies you (trust me, I'm currently using this same tactic on a girl I have my eye on; its not working, my only hope is that she's doing the same with me). His confidence around you will grow, especially with alcohol, but from my experiences talking with "shy guys" in our common room (and indeed being a shy guy myself), you'll probably have to carry the conversation, so you should ask him lots of questions, he'll appreciate the attention.
Reply 9
If you want to go, tell him and explain that your a little shy and that you get the impression he is too. Start by asking questions to get to know him better, then tell him about yourself. The first couple of times you see him will be quite hard and sometimes uncomfortable, but if you can get to know each other better and get more comfortable then it'll be much easier.
Reply 10
Y did you say yes if he's such a sap?
Reply 11
myselfsd
Y did you say yes if he's such a sap?
well loads of my friends are going and I don't have a good reason to not go and well I just couldn't say no - it would just be too mean. Plus, we're all going to a club afterwards which will be a good night like it's just the bit before that will be painful.
What should I talk to him about???Reply 12
Take a good book with you.
Reply 13
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Anonymous
well loads of my friends are going and I don't have a good reason to not go and well I just couldn't say no - it would just be too mean. Plus, we're all going to a club afterwards which will be a good night like it's just the bit before that will be painful. What should I talk to him about???
What should I talk to him about???What with his lack of assertiveness and your near-total absence of will-power, it's already becoming apparent to me as a match made in Heaven.
Reply 14
lol i just didn't want to hurt his feelings
Reply 15
good girl...jus arrive with him, youre not forced to stay together...he'll have friends there too...just dance with him a few times and see what happens, if you stress this much you're gonna ruin it for both of uz.
Reply 16
good girl...jus arrive with him, youre not forced to stay together...he'll have friends there too...just dance with him a few times and see what happens, if you stress this much you're gonna ruin it for both of uz.
Reply 17
whoops i blame TSR not me ^^
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