The Student Room Group
Reply 1
Has the boyfriend ever done anything untrustworthy in the past?
Reply 2

Good luck, My ex was nuts like that. She managed to hack into my email accounts and email all my friends as well... LUCKILY they knew it wasnt me and was some psycho emailing them. I'd say get rid before it gets worse.
Reply 3
The only thing he'd ever done before was mildly flirt after an argument which was her fault...
Cheat on her, she'll feel justified and happy.
Oh i can remember my ex going through my emails and emailing my friends on there half of them didn't talk to me again until i dumped her.
Reply 6
Anonymous
The only thing he'd ever done before was mildly flirt after an argument which was her fault...


How does he know she "stalks him on forums"? Is it coming on specifically to read his messages? My boyfriend comes onto TSR once or twice, and he might read my messages, but I wouldn't call it stalking.

Do you have any specific events that have happened which might suggest that she has very stalkish behaviour?
Reply 7
Yeah, to make sure he isn't flirting, being overly friendly whatever, she told a friend of the pair who told him. She's told a fair few people as she wants to stop but she can't *apparently*
Reply 8
Anonymous
Yeah, to make sure he isn't flirting, being overly friendly whatever, she told a friend of the pair who told him. She's told a fair few people as she wants to stop but she can't *apparently*


Do you know if she has been treated badly by guys in the past or have been betrayed badly before to lead her to act like this?
Reply 9
Nah, she's renown for being an attention seeker, which i guess is the problem
Anonymous
Nah, she's renown for being an attention seeker, which i guess is the problem


Probably. Still, the boyfriend needs to have a word with her and at least reassure her that he's not going to flirt with other girls as long as she can trust him(which is kinda hard since he did flirt to get back at her), and if she still can't trust him then they need to think about whether or not their relationship is going in the right direction...
doublesharp.x
Probably. Still, the boyfriend needs to have a word with her and at least reassure her that he's not going to flirt with other girls as long as she can trust him(which is kinda hard since he did flirt to get back at her), and if she still can't trust him then they need to think about whether or not their relationship is going in the right direction...



Little trivialities like that kills a relationship though, the more you argue about little things that dont really matter, the worse it gets : ) If you're not trusted over little things, why expect trust over anything else.
El Scotto

Little trivialities like that kills a relationship though, the more you argue about little things that dont really matter, the worse it gets : ) If you're not trusted over little things, why expect trust over anything else.


That's why they need to talk to each other to find out exactly why one doesn't trust the other on something small like that. If you broke up with your partner over something so small then you're just giving up on the relationship too easily. Things need to be worked out and a lot of effort needs to be put into the relationship.
doublesharp.x
How does he know she "stalks him on forums"? Is it coming on specifically to read his messages? My boyfriend comes onto TSR once or twice, and he might read my messages, but I wouldn't call it stalking.

Do you have any specific events that have happened which might suggest that she has very stalkish behaviour?


no but it is a gross invasion of privacy.
Cadre_Of_Storms
no but it is a gross invasion of privacy.


doesn't mean she should be dumped over it. This is a trivial thing.
Hmm, I don't think reading forums your partner goes in on is an invasion of privacy because it's on the internet for all to see. However if someone is getting into your email or forums accounts without your permission, especially sending nasty messages to people, then that is.
When I post on the internet I think about what would happen if someone I knew read it - if I wouldn't want my boyfriend or friends to know the particular thing, then I wouldn't post it (or be anonymous.)
Reply 16
A bit of mild stalking doesn't hurt.
The forum bit isn't so much invasion of privacy, my ex uses this site and he can probably see what I write but so can everyone else
Reply 18
Monkey_Maiden
The forum bit isn't so much invasion of privacy, my ex uses this site and he can probably see what I write but so can everyone else
:ditto:
It's not so much stalking, just being interested. I do the same and never got any complaints. It's a great way to learn things you didn't know yet about a person.