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I'm desperate...what do i do?
desperate for a girlfriend... the thing is, i hate most of the girls in my school (my grade?)... and they hate me too...
but i know i have a lot of attractive qualities too...
i hate to say this, but i'm really really feeling desperate now..
i keep telling myself that the girls in my grade are not worth it and so on.. and i observe the girls in other grades and they seem good and easy-going and all... but they're all taken...
what do i do to cure myself from this desperation?!?!
but i know i have a lot of attractive qualities too...
i hate to say this, but i'm really really feeling desperate now..
i keep telling myself that the girls in my grade are not worth it and so on.. and i observe the girls in other grades and they seem good and easy-going and all... but they're all taken...
what do i do to cure myself from this desperation?!?!
PS: I've had girlfriends in the past, and I know that I'm not TOO bad at dealing with girls...
Is it because I'm just a wee-bit too cocky? But many other girls seem to love that about me...
Is it because I'm just a wee-bit too cocky? But many other girls seem to love that about me...
You have it all wrong. Don't look for a relationship, you're just seeking someone out to fit into a prescribed model, and it won't work. If you're looking for these things that hard, you appear desperate and immature.
Take a long view - at school age you do NOT need to be in a relationship. Try and become close to girls in a friendly way - it will serve you a lot better in the long run. When you meet someone you like, then go for it, but you'll just end up ruining whatever friendships you have by trying to slot whoever is available (but with whom you don't have a connection/any particular attraction) into a relationship with you.
Although many sources want us to believe that life outside of a relationship is terrible and makes us worse off - television, films, poetry, friends, hallmark, valentines etc. - it is not anywhere near as important a deal as it seems. Forget about it, get intimacy and love from friends, fulfill your own sexual needs and enjoy yourself. Noone needs that additional pressure.
Take a long view - at school age you do NOT need to be in a relationship. Try and become close to girls in a friendly way - it will serve you a lot better in the long run. When you meet someone you like, then go for it, but you'll just end up ruining whatever friendships you have by trying to slot whoever is available (but with whom you don't have a connection/any particular attraction) into a relationship with you.
Although many sources want us to believe that life outside of a relationship is terrible and makes us worse off - television, films, poetry, friends, hallmark, valentines etc. - it is not anywhere near as important a deal as it seems. Forget about it, get intimacy and love from friends, fulfill your own sexual needs and enjoy yourself. Noone needs that additional pressure.
jd27
You have it all wrong. Don't look for a relationship, you're just seeking someone out to fit into a prescribed model, and it won't work. If you're looking for these things that hard, you appear desperate and immature.
Take a long view - at school age you do NOT need to be in a relationship. Try and become close to girls in a friendly way - it will serve you a lot better in the long run. When you meet someone you like, then go for it, but you'll just end up ruining whatever friendships you have by trying to slot whoever is available (but with whom you don't have a connection/any particular attraction) into a relationship with you.
Although many sources want us to believe that life outside of a relationship is terrible and makes us worse off - television, films, poetry, friends, hallmark, valentines etc. - it is not anywhere near as important a deal as it seems. Forget about it, get intimacy and love from friends, fulfill your own sexual needs and enjoy yourself. Noone needs that additional pressure.
Take a long view - at school age you do NOT need to be in a relationship. Try and become close to girls in a friendly way - it will serve you a lot better in the long run. When you meet someone you like, then go for it, but you'll just end up ruining whatever friendships you have by trying to slot whoever is available (but with whom you don't have a connection/any particular attraction) into a relationship with you.
Although many sources want us to believe that life outside of a relationship is terrible and makes us worse off - television, films, poetry, friends, hallmark, valentines etc. - it is not anywhere near as important a deal as it seems. Forget about it, get intimacy and love from friends, fulfill your own sexual needs and enjoy yourself. Noone needs that additional pressure.
sound advice, follow that and your sorted, ive been single for like 5 month now and although i miss having someone to curl up with, it is fun being single and being abloe to flirt absent mindedly
Anonymous
desperate for a girlfriend... the thing is, i hate most of the girls in my school (my grade?)... and they hate me too...
but i know i have a lot of attractive qualities too...
i hate to say this, but i'm really really feeling desperate now..
i keep telling myself that the girls in my grade are not worth it and so on.. and i observe the girls in other grades and they seem good and easy-going and all... but they're all taken...
what do i do to cure myself from this desperation?!?!
but i know i have a lot of attractive qualities too...
i hate to say this, but i'm really really feeling desperate now..
i keep telling myself that the girls in my grade are not worth it and so on.. and i observe the girls in other grades and they seem good and easy-going and all... but they're all taken...
what do i do to cure myself from this desperation?!?!
you wont get a gf if your desperate unless shes as desperate as you are.
women pick these things up
I agree with most people above take your time don't rush to find a girl, and if you do meet a nice girl get to know her first.
Can't you go and read a good book or something else to satiate your mind rather than worrying about silly stuff like this?
MB
MB
That reminds me of a proverb i've heard about yuo will only find something by not looking for it....?
Desperation is a hugely attractive quality; every girl wants to be your last resort, so just let out all these feelings of desperation in public and you'll be beating girls off with both hands.
TommyD
is that a serious answer?
no
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