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Friend Stabbed Someone
Sorry if this post doesn't make sense, but I'm still kinda in shock.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
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You don't need to treat her any differently, she is not mad. Most likely,she is treating it as a joke because she is too embarrassed to do anything differently - its a lot easier to laugh at yourself in that kind of situation and treat it as a joke rather than cry and admit how terrible you're feeling. It is the guy's fault, that he wound her up to the point that she well and truly snapped, and not hers, although you would think that she had more self control than to actually stab him.
Don't treat her any differently, let her know that you're still her friend, and that you are here for her. I bet that as soon as she gets home tonight she starts crying. It sounds like she's had a horrible day.
Maybe ring her later and make sure she's okay, invite her round to her house or go to hers and like just chill out together, have some fun.
Don't treat her any differently, let her know that you're still her friend, and that you are here for her. I bet that as soon as she gets home tonight she starts crying. It sounds like she's had a horrible day.
Maybe ring her later and make sure she's okay, invite her round to her house or go to hers and like just chill out together, have some fun.
I agree with little girl red, your friend doesnt sound like the kind of person who would normally do something like that. She should ideally have kept herself under more control than resorting to that - but he had a part to play in it aswell, its not that she flipped for no reason. When other people are asking you about, your probably best saying that you weren't there (sounds like you werent from what you put) and that you don't know what happened - alot of people will only twist what you say anyway, and it will all get blown up out of proportion.
She probably is treating it as a joke because she doesnt know how to react. I know there was an occasion when I 'flipped' at someone - and ended up reacting in a way I really really shouldnt have done and just ended up laughing after, cos I didnt know what else to do - people couldnt believe I laughed about it, but I didnt know how else to react to it - if that makes sense!!
Ring your friend, or go round and see her or something, get in touch with her so she knows that you are still ok with her and that she can talk to you if she wants to.
She probably is treating it as a joke because she doesnt know how to react. I know there was an occasion when I 'flipped' at someone - and ended up reacting in a way I really really shouldnt have done and just ended up laughing after, cos I didnt know what else to do - people couldnt believe I laughed about it, but I didnt know how else to react to it - if that makes sense!!
Ring your friend, or go round and see her or something, get in touch with her so she knows that you are still ok with her and that she can talk to you if she wants to.
jsut be a good mate, coz today it probably went round all of school, but can be certain by tomoro everyone will know and people will prob be talkin on msn etc tonight, so just be a great mate to her, perhaps spend the night at hers or go round like LGR sed and just chill out, at least the guy is ok, things maybe kinda weird and it may take a while for things to get back to as normal as they can be, but as this was revolving round the prom i assume ure in ure last yr (11 or 13) so it shouldnt be too too bad, but dont treat her any differently at all
The school will probably hush it up, although she might be looking at exclusion. Just go on about the stress, etc, and hope to dear god that you don't have a judge on your governers.
Ha! 'Little girl red' said it was the guy's fault. So he is to blame for her actions. Make sense?
Even if someone's asking for it, your friend is completely responsible.
Even if someone's asking for it, your friend is completely responsible.
im studying law, and this seems to amount to provocation - the temporary and sudden loss of self control. however this only applies to murder and reduces the charge to manslaughter. otherwise she can be done for 'result' crimes - assault amounting to Actual Bodily Harm; Wounding with intent cotrary to s18 of the Offences against the person act.
law:portal
She should be arrested.
I agree
Anonymous
Sorry if this post doesn't make sense, but I'm still kinda in shock.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
i'm suprised your friend didn't get expelled for this.. she is obviously someone who cannot control her anger and exploits it in the worst way imaginable.
to be honest, i can understand why people are now hating her, though it's not as much hate, but probably more fear. if everyone appears to be hating her, then they are all as a 'gang' in retrospect.. that way, they feel safe (safety in numbers).
i'm not sure whether it is a good idea for you to side with your friend or with the rest of the school, because if they hate her, and know you hang around with her, then they are going to end up hating you too, and is that what you really want?
also, i'm not sure it's a good thing that you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her. obviously, this boy pushed her buttons to the max, but if you feel like you might do the same, but accidentally, then are you sure you want to be friends with this person?
shinytoy
im studying law, and this seems to amount to provocation - the temporary and sudden loss of self control. however this only applies to murder and reduces the charge to manslaughter. otherwise she can be done for 'result' crimes - assault amounting to Actual Bodily Harm; Wounding with intent cotrary to s18 of the Offences against the person act.
I am not a student of the law of England, but as far as I was aware the Crown cannot prosecute these sort of offences without a complaint from the victim...
It was said he forgave her.
She does sound a bit mad really. You can't overlook things like this and pretend they didn't happen. I hope her school does something a bit more effective then expelling her.
On the up side, I doubt they guy will be teasing her again...
He shouldnt have been taking the piss should he. How seriously was he doing this? A bully is a bully, serves him f***ing right.
Anonymous
Sorry if this post doesn't make sense, but I'm still kinda in shock.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
Basically, last week, my friend asked a guy out to the prom who she really fancied. He turned her down. Since then, he's been teasing her, and annoying her (I don't actually know why she fancied him, because he's treated her really badly in the past). All of this accumulated today in her first lesson, in which he teased her. She grabbed a craft knife, and stabbed him in the arm. He's now fine, but she's distressed.
I found out about this second lesson, and since then, the whole days been moving at a blur. I've spoken to my friend, and i'm fine with her, but it seems like the rest of the school hates her (this guy was quite popular). Now in lessons, people come up to me asking about her, and telling me she should be arrested. On top of this, my friend seems to think it all a joke (although she knows what she did is wrong and unforgivable, the guy she stabbed has forgiven her).
This is the first time my friend has done anything like this - usually she's all calm and clever. How can I cope with this? I feel I need to tread softly around my friend now, in case she loses it.
Like little girl said, dont treat her any differentley.
But perhaps you should consider the fact your friend deep down doesn't feel as clever and calm as she makes out to everyone else, perhaps its a act???
UtterNutter69
He shouldnt have been taking the piss should he. How seriously was he doing this? A bully is a bully, serves him f***ing right.
Damn right! When i was in year 9, this bloke had bullued me for like 3 years, one day i just snapped and threw him through a window. He ****ing deserved his broken body, he should not have bullied me and made my life hell for 3 years and caused damage to my self confidence around girls (even though i have all girls as friends, getting a girlfriend is difficult because i have no self confidence in my looks because i was told i was fat and ugly for years!) that has lasted alot longer than his injuries he received from falling out of a window...but it felt good!
Respect to your friend completly, the cock deserved it.
Just be there for her, and try to understand why she did it. Being popular with the school is not the be all and end all, i would rather have a really good friend than have loads of mediocre ones.
Graham
To be honest, if it's only a craft knife, which have at most like a 1" blade, and he's fine now...then what's the big deal? Especially if he didn't have to go to hospital or anything like that.
He sounds like an idiot anyway.
He sounds like an idiot anyway.
Anonymous
To be honest, if it's only a craft knife, which have at most like a 1" blade, and he's fine now...then what's the big deal?
As a general rule of thumb I think stabbing people is wrong. Last time I checked it was also illegal. Also, what if they had been in food tech? Would she have gone and stabbed him with a big kitchen knife?
I would have reacted similarly. Perhaps not a knife, but a slap/punch at the very least! I mean she asks him out, he turns her down, then he makes fun of her?! Ugh. Idiot.
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