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Friends / Social Life

A few years back I met my ex and we were together for about 4yrs. In that time I lost contact with all my old mates as did she. I don't want to go back to them now as they're all into drugs etc and i don't like that scene. So that leaves me in a little bit of a dilema. I get on with people but I don't know where to make new mates. I have no social life at all. I was trying tobe strong and hold out for Uni as its not that long to go but its getting more and more depressing now. I crave friends and a social life but i've never had to make a whole new bunch of friends before.

And ideas/help etc etc :smile:

Reply 1

mc_hamster

Go out even if it is by yourself, then you're sometimes more inclined to talk to random people.

Reply 2

always + forever

get a job?

Reply 3

pumpkin7

unless you work in a supermaket, getting a new job won't do you much good, and even in a supermarket, there isn't much of a social 'scene'(i don't get why dpeople use 'scene..' mm..)
to be honest, i am in the same kind of situation you are. all of my old friends are still at college, whereas i have left and got a job. i don't talk to any of them anymore.. especially as i had a big blow out with my old best friend the other night.. i know i need to make friends, but i have no idea how to go about it. i'm not into clubbing (though why would you go on your own anyway?!) i'm not a drinker, so i don't go to pubs (again, i wouldn't go on my own) and i don't really think going up to complete strangers and saying 'hi there! i'm a loner, please be my friend' is going to do me or the person much good.

i didn't help, but i thought i would let you know that you are not alone.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

pumpkin7

i know i need to make friends, but i have no idea how to go about it. i'm not into clubbing (though why would you go on your own anyway?!) i'm not a drinker, so i don't go to pubs (again, i wouldn't go on my own) and i don't really think going up to complete strangers and saying 'hi there! i'm a loner, please be my friend' is going to do me or the person much good.

Thats exactly like me

Reply 5

pumpkin7

we should get together.. :P lol.

we can be loners together then.

Reply 6

mc_hamster

Well I was in the same position as you people but I used to go to gigs by myself and I just ended up chatting to people. Some of those people I'm still in contact with now. I'm not a confident person at all and I don't drink either but it can happen. I later on went to college (a year or two later then my friends) and met new friends who are some of my best friends.

You have to make an effort it won't just happen that you will have friends.

Reply 7

Redefined

Well if you got a job, assuming you haven't got one, then at least you will be out and taking your mind off it. You never know you might make a m8 there to socialise with outside of work.

Appart from that i'd say hang on till Uni and remember u never know whats around the corner (don't really know what i mean by that or how it helps but it sounded good and now i've typed too much to delete so thats why i'm continuing..soz)