I only ask because I'm 19, I've got only 1 person from primary school I still talk to, just a couple from secondary school, and now I'm at uni and I feel like basically all the friends I have now, except maybe 2/3 people from university are just acquaintances, who I'll never really get that close to or be friends with for a long time. I don't know if it's a problem with me or if I just haven't come across the right people yet. Sorry if this sounds silly!
Don't get me wrong, I love all of my friends - but some of them are far easier to keep in contact with / are more reliable when you do make plans.
I met my absolute best friend at the beginning of Sixth Form, when he moved here from his old town. We've become far closer than me and my old friends from primary school ever have been.
To put it into perspective, he's now moved back to his old town which is ~45 minutes away. Despite this, I've seen him the most out of anyone bar my boyfriend since exams have finished and we text most days. I have friends that live a ten minute walk away that I've not seen since mid-June..
when ur children, the friends which u make dont have any financial/other interest in u as at that time ur nobody (status-wise). when u r in the uni or some professional college, the friends can see ur future and standing in the society. that frndship is somewhat related to that thing and it doesnt come from within the heart.
this is just my opinion. i dont say it applies to everybody!
Hope it helps!
I've always preferred forging long lasting friendships - It does take effort though!
but it makes sense for you to meet closer friends when you get a job - you may share more interests, and unlike at school, you don't have to spend much time with them if you don't want to. most of my parents friends are from when they were at school or college though.
Secondly, I believe the reason our generation now days struggles to have life long friends is because young people want thing right here and then. But it takes a lot of humbleness and a forgiving spirit to be able to sustain friendship over a length period of time.
Thirdly, I have also discovered that there is also unspoken degree of envy and jealously over accomplishments and material wealth attainted which destroys a lot of friendships. As a consequence prevents the growth and maturity of friendships.
This is just my take on friends so far.
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Then another chap, who I've been pretty much best friends with since primary school is someone else I know I'll keep in contact with for a long time. I don't see enough of him these days, with us being in different countries most of the year, but there's still a strong bond there. That makes it sound like I want to have sex with him. I don't.
Then I've got a handful of people I'd call close friends, most of them I met in secondary school. The rest are aquaintances really, people from work or uni I like but wouldnt know me as well as the others. Karl Pilkington said that you only really need seven friends in your life. I think that rings true.