My mum is beautiful but Im not :(

Hi. I feel really silly posting this but i find it difficult to talk to anyone in person about it.

Im 17 and my mum is 40 this year but the problem is she is really REALLY attractive. She has had botox and other facial treatments to preserve her youthfulness but I promise Im not exaggerating...she only looks around 18 years old!!

I'm really proud to have such a beautiful mother and I hope one day Iwill growto be just like her.

However, all my previous boyfriends have always commented an how gorgeous she is, and I don't want to critisize them because it is the truth. My previous boyfriend used to say to me how much he wanted her.

Because of this Im afraid to have any serious relationships, or get involved with a person who hasn't already seen my mum, because they are overwhelmed by how pretty she is when they see her. My self-esteem is really low and i just don' know what to do. I like this boy at college but I know he will 'love' my mum-he hasnt even seen her and already knows she's beautiful.

Oh dear, i feel quite upset now. Please reply. x
:frown:

Reply 1

Sexy Plexi

5

Don't compare yourself to her-or anyone else for that matter. Don't put yourself down. Your ex sounds like an idiot if he said that. And I'm sure you are attractive, coming from good stock as well..genes and all that jazz.. :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

xox Kirsty

Hi. I feel really silly posting this but i find it difficult to talk to anyone in person about it.

Im 17 and my mum is 40 this year but the problem is she is really REALLY attractive. She has had botox and other facial treatments to preserve her youthfulness but I promise Im not exaggerating...she only looks around 18 years old!!

I'm really proud to have such a beautiful mother and I hope one day Iwill growto be just like her.

However, all my previous boyfriends have always commented an how gorgeous she is, and I don't want to critisize them because it is the truth. My previous boyfriend used to say to me how much he wanted her.

Because of this Im afraid to have any serious relationships, or get involved with a person who hasn't already seen my mum, because they are overwhelmed by how pretty she is when they see her. My self-esteem is really low and i just don' know what to do. I like this boy at college but I know he will 'love' my mum-he hasnt even seen her and already knows she's beautiful.

Oh dear, i feel quite upset now. Please reply. x
:frown:

Your mum sounds quite tragic. She should act her age rather than chase a long gotten youth. Maybe she isn't as happy and amasing as you assume...

That said, I do know where you're coming from - my mum doesn't look anywhere near her age, but then again she hasn't had botox either!!!

Remember, if your mum actually courts the attention she attracts from your male friends, then she's probably quite sad - in every sense of the word. Also, try to hold on to the fact that you can leave home soon!

Reply 3

xox Kirsty xox

OP

Thankyou both you've succeeded in cheering me up a little! x x x

Reply 4

Sexy Plexi

5

Awesome.

Seriously don't get hung up on things like this, it's trivial and probabaly blown out of proportion in your own mind. xXx

Reply 5

Apricot Fairy

16

Anonymous

Your mum sounds quite tragic. She should act her age rather than chase a long gotten youth. Maybe she isn't as happy and amasing as you assume...

That said, I do know where you're coming from - my mum doesn't look anywhere near her age, but then again she hasn't had botox either!!!

Remember, if your mum actually courts the attention she attracts from your male friends, then she's probably quite sad - in every sense of the word. Also, try to hold on to the fact that you can leave home soon!

I disagree! If her mum looks after herself and takes a pride in her appearance, then good for her!

To the OP: please don't get downhearted about this. Many people grow more attractive once they have fully matured. Their skin clears up, they lose any puppy fat they might have, their hormones settle down and they just generally look better all round. Your mum may have been a late bloomer, and perhaps you are too. If she's really as beautiful as you say, then you must have some good genes.

Why don't you ask your mum for beauty tips? It sounds like she knows her stuff.

Reply 6

Katmarauder

Hi,

I have a very pretty mum too, although no surgery in this case, she's just naturally young-looking and really knows how to dress. She gets attention from younger guys (Not as young as me thankfully), even though she tries to avoid it. It's a source of amusement for us both.

Bear in mind that guys your age may well just be joking when they comment i.e., they mean she does look fantastic for her age, but it doesn't mean they actually fancy her or want to date her. You may be just low on self-esteem at the moment and you're taking their comments too seriously as a result.

Take comfort in the fact that even without surgery, you're going to look great at 40 too, and that you'll be able to talk to your mum about fashion etc. and get sensible opinions and advice.

Reply 7

hugatree

11

Katmarauder

I have a very pretty mum too, although no surgery in this case, she's just naturally young-looking and really knows how to dress. She gets attention from younger guys (Not as young as me thankfully), even though she tries to avoid it.

I don't think I'm beautiful either, but people always so how we look alike so that would be a compliment, I just don't see it.

Don't let it get you down though, there's always someone who does think you're very attractive and maybe it's just all in your head. :smile:

Reply 8

strawberry

13

xox Kirsty

Hi. I feel really silly posting this but i find it difficult to talk to anyone in person about it.

Im 17 and my mum is 40 this year but the problem is she is really REALLY attractive. She has had botox and other facial treatments to preserve her youthfulness but I promise Im not exaggerating...she only looks around 18 years old!!

I'm really proud to have such a beautiful mother and I hope one day Iwill growto be just like her.

However, all my previous boyfriends have always commented an how gorgeous she is, and I don't want to critisize them because it is the truth. My previous boyfriend used to say to me how much he wanted her.

Because of this Im afraid to have any serious relationships, or get involved with a person who hasn't already seen my mum, because they are overwhelmed by how pretty she is when they see her. My self-esteem is really low and i just don' know what to do. I like this boy at college but I know he will 'love' my mum-he hasnt even seen her and already knows she's beautiful.

Oh dear, i feel quite upset now. Please reply. x
:frown:

my mom's really pretty WITHOUT botox...so yeah.
the only person who can make you feel bad is yourself, at this point...but I understand about the not wanting a serious relationship because of your mom.
I don't really know how to help you...but what I will tell you is to have more confidence. You're beautiful in your own way and you don't need any enhancements to be who you are

Reply 9

blah0_o

1

why should you compare yourself with your mom? i'm sure you are a lot prettier and a lot more natural and you should be proud.. if a guy can't see that.. he's so not worth it!! so cheer up :biggrin:

Reply 10

Esquire

1

However, all my previous boyfriends have always commented an how gorgeous she is, and I don't want to critisize them because it is the truth. My previous boyfriend used to say to me how much he wanted her.