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Friend always late

I have a good friend who I meet up with a lot. The problem is she is ALWAYS late. I don't mind 5-10 mins but with her it is often over 15 and sometimes as much as half an hour. I find it disrespectful to always be so late and usually without even an apology. I feel like I waste so much time waiting for her while I could be doing something useful. Lately I have been asking her to text me/give a missed call when she arrives at the cafe we often go to, which is 3 or 4 minutes from my house, so I know she is there. She did it a few times but today when I arranged to meet up with her she said 'that's a bad idea because then I just have to wait'. I was really annoyed at the cheek, her complaining about waiting 5 minutes when I regularly wait much more! I told her this, and that if she didn't want to wait she could text before she got there, just so I knew she was arriving. I think she is annoyed about this, but I think it's a good idea and much fairer on me, the one who is always waiting!

Also, she knows she is always late because she did apologise for it a week or so ago, yet she never makes an effort to arrive anywhere on time!

Reply 1

q1w2e3r4t5y

You did the right thing, next time she's late, tell her off.

Reply 2

frappuccino

Ohh I have LOTS of friends like that, but I do it too so I'm forgiving of them :P Since you know she'll be late just always tell her to meet 20 mins before the time you want, and don't take it personally, really!

Reply 3

IzzyWizzy

That's what I do! If I say 9.30 I'll go at 9.45 and usually she STILL isn't there! When she is (one time out of about 15) she gets annoyed that I was late!

Reply 4

Tamato

My friends ARE ALWAYS LATE, like im taking up to an hour! I just arrange to meet the ones that are normally quite punctual first if im going out with a group ,or if i am meeting one of my "late" friends i ask them to come to mine at 7:30pm when really i dont want to go out til gone 8 :P. If you are meeting them out somewhere u just turn up late aswell.... if they were on time Unlucky! atleast it wasnt u waisting your time for a change!.

Reply 5

guest1984

at least they turn up tho!

:mad:

Reply 6

ESBay

some people are just not punctual...
you can try going late on occasions or just saying that you're meeting at 12:00 instead of 12:30
Tell her to get some empathy skills...

Reply 7

bedbug

I can't stand people being late, it's a pet peeve of mine. My friends once left me waiting an hour on my own in the dark in town without even letting me know they'd be late. And then when they turned up they couldn't understand why I was pissed off.

Some people just don't see the problem with lateness, others cant stand it.

Reply 8

Dutchess of Doncaster

I think it is disrespectful when friends are constantly late. Once or twice perhaps but when it becomes habitual thing it is like them saying that you are not worth their getting their act together to make it on time. Maybe turn up late yourself to minimise the time you have to wait for them to turn up, but if you hate being late like me then confrontation is the only way... you did the right thing IMO