Decision required

Well, I've had a bad day. My now ex-girlfriend had been distant for over a week or so. I was wondering what was going on, well today she explained it. She said that she'd feel "more complete with a girlfriend" and that I was merely part of "experimentation". Well after 3 months of this, I feel rather annoyed as you might imagine, being a 3 month experiment. A good 30 seconds after breaking up with me, she asked me rather casually if I'd like to go shopping.

I walked away, and got on the bus without her. She claims that she still wants us to be friends, only right now I'm habouring a considerable amount of resent for her, I don't even like her as just a friend at the moment. I've explained this to her - that I need some time to think it through. I don't know if I should ever accept her as a friend.. I'm struggling to think let alone come to a decision and basically, I have no idea what to do.

Reply 1

username47781

Well what she did to you was quite nasty i think i mean if a girl went out with me then half way through said she rather go out with a girl instead i'd be quite humiliated.

Reply 2

different?

My anger levels would be SKY high! Basically you'll just have to see over time if you start to miss her in anyway or if the anger still simmers. Personally I don't think i could be what i would consider friends with someone who treated me like that- she completely undermined your relationship in so many ways.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Carl1982

Well what she did to you was quite nasty i think i mean if a girl went out with me then half way through said she rather go out with a girl instead i'd be quite humiliated.

Agreed

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Firebird

She can't help it if she's a lesbian!

She can help creating a 3 month illusion and wasting my time. ^o)

Reply 5

ciara

I'd suggest just completely staying away from her for a while, if that's possible. What she did was harsh, and if she expects you to just be fine with it then she's totally unreasonable. If she pesters you then just tell her you clearly viewed your relationship differently and you'd rather not see her. Maybe in time your anger will die down and you can reassess whether she is a nice person and worth being friends with. For now, distract yourself in as many ways as possible - I'd suggest going out with friends (how original of me). Good luck!

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

Toujours la femme.

Well I would try to forgive her and be friends. There's nothing to be gained from hating her and ultimately if you care about her you'll want her to be happy - and if that involves her munching rug, then so be it.

I can imagine it's pretty horrible for you at the moment, but then three months isn't three years and you can move on. You seem more miffed at having been ditched so she can get it on with girls than you do that she's not into you anymore - that's a good sign, it means hopefully you weren't too emotionally attached.

Take it as one of life's quirks and get yourself a new girl (or guy? :p:

)

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

englishstudent

Toujours la femme.

Well I would try to forgive her and be friends. There's nothing to be gained from hating her and ultimately if you care about her you'll want her to be happy - and if that involves her munching rug, then so be it.

I can imagine it's pretty horrible for you at the moment, but then three months isn't three years and you can move on. You seem more miffed at having been ditched so she can get it on with girls than you do that she's not into you anymore - that's a good sign, it means hopefully you weren't too emotionally attached.
Take it as one of life's quirks and get yourself a new girl (or guy? :p:

)

You couldn't be more wrong.

Reply 8

Tyler Durden

Anonymous

You couldn't be more wrong.

In which case I'm very sorry. :frown:

This stuff does happen though, believe me I know. You will get over her and find someone else. It feels decidedly rubbish right now though. Friends are always good in situations like this - talk to them and they'll help in the getting-over-her phase. Also mindless TV comedies (again - Friends!) work wonders.