Is wanting revenge so wrong?

My mom is the problem and who I want to get revenge on - for the VERY SLIGHTEST things she always seems to have to shout!!! For example, earlier today I went in the bath and before I went in I asked my 2 bro's and my mom if they wanted the toilet (we only have 1 bathroom) and they said no. When I went in the bath, half an hour later (just as I was coming out) she starts banging on the door telling me she needs the toilet!! Then I had to get out pretty sharpish and when she came out of the toilet she was saying about how I'm an ungrateful and selfish little bastard! If I drop something she shouts, if I stand in her way she'll shout, I can't do ANYTHING in any one day without her shouting! She's absolutely obsessed with housework and is so terrible when she's doing the dusting that I actually get out of the house so I'm nto in her way. I just want revenge. Tomorrow's mothers day and I want to say something horrible to her. I know this sounds really mean but I just want to break her, to make her cry, to see her sobbing and pitiable - that's what she makes me want to do to her!!! She always used to make me cry when I was younger. I almost always used to spend the weekends at my grandparents to get away from her. I see them as my parents more than her. Is wanting revenge so wrong?? If not then does anyone have any advice at how to get back at her

Reply 1

Tarts_n_Vicars

13

Wanting revenge in theory isn't wrong but can prove destructive in the long term.

I wouldn't do anything spiteful if I were you, a) because she's your mother and b) as you're living at home she can make things VERY difficult for you. If you think she's bad now wait til you turn the tables....she'll spin out of control (that's if she's really as vile as you say she is). You grin and bare it...and bide your time til you can move out. Take it from one who knows :wink:

Is she an alcoholic?

Anonymous

Is she an alcoholic?

Are you a junkie?

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Are you a junkie?

Nope, but I have a drink problem, as do a lot of people I know.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

No she isn't an alcoholic - but I do know for a fact that her dad used to beat her up, as well as her mom (my nan) when she was younger which could be why she's so deranged??? Thanks Tarts_n_ Vicars, I've already been thinking of moving out (I'm still only 15) but I think I definitely am going to when I turn 16 I can't live with her

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

No she isn't an alcoholic - but I do know for a fact that her dad used to beat her up, as well as her mom (my nan) when she was younger which could be why she's so deranged??? Thanks Tarts_n_ Vicars, I've already been thinking of moving out (I'm still only 15) but I think I definitely am going to when I turn 16 I can't live with her

Well, I don't mean to be judgemental, but I think that you shouldn't provoke her. She sounds like she has serious problems, really. Move out when you get the opportunity, though.

Reply 7

Anonymous #4

Anonymous

No she isn't an alcoholic - but I do know for a fact that her dad used to beat her up, as well as her mom (my nan) when she was younger which could be why she's so deranged??? Thanks Tarts_n_ Vicars, I've already been thinking of moving out (I'm still only 15) but I think I definitely am going to when I turn 16 I can't live with her

Revenge is sweet my dear. Give your nan a happy mother days card in fron t of your mother, that she piss her off.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm in 2 minds as too whether to leave her alone because she has issues, or to get revenge but she makes my life hell?? I'm confused :s

Reply 9

foxo

17

Anonymous

I'm in 2 minds as too whether to leave her alone because she has issues, or to get revenge but she makes my life hell?? I'm confused :s

I was anonymous no. 2.

Please, leave her alone. If you do otherwise, it's just going to make things much worse for both of you, and probably the rest of the family.

Reply 10

always + forever

1

what about actually telling your mum that you're finding her attitude towards you difficult to handle? She probably doesn't realise how she's making you feel. Tell her that you want to be treated more like an adult, and that in return, you'll do more stuff to help her out?

Don't get 'revenge' - that's just childish and spiteful... she's your mother ffs, have some ****ing respect. Do something constructive to make the situation better, don't mess it up more and make life even more difficult for yourself

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

I definitely won't do the revenge thing, I tried the talking to her tactic many times - it lasts for about a day or 2 and then she slips into her normal self ang begins shouting and raving again but I'll try again and see if I put in more effort in hope that she will

Reply 12

screenager

2

Mylla

what about actually telling your mum that you're finding her attitude towards you difficult to handle? She probably doesn't realise how she's making you feel. Tell her that you want to be treated more like an adult, and that in return, you'll do more stuff to help her out?

Don't get 'revenge' - that's just childish and spiteful... she's your mother ffs, have some ****ing respect. Do something constructive to make the situation better, don't mess it up more and make life even more difficult for yourself

I know having a conversation about it sounds good in theory and seems to work well on tv but it's not like your mum has made a conscious decision to annoy you and it is just the way she is so I doubt a conversation like that would change the way she acts and could just make her more angry because she might not like being criticised, so you would be safer not doing what Mylla said. It would probably work in some situations but this doesn't sound like one of them to me. I recommend just being nice to her and sticking it out until you can move out.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm going to try to make an attempt to be nice to her and to talk things over as well but I know that it will only work for a max of about 2 weeks before she's back to normal, thank god I'm 16 in a few months

Reply 14

zooropa

a) because she's your mother and b)

Why should you be "nice" to your family? No one chooses their family!

The best human relationships are those you've chosen, IMO.

Reply 15

Schmokie Dragon

17

Revenge is a warped and very destructive sense of justice that is only really applicable if the offending party actualy realises the implications of what they are doing. Are you sure she is doing this to make you upset/angry? If she is just *like* that, let her alone and be happy when you move out. If she is trying to hurt you/is just a horrible person, revenge is still a slipperly slope. And the fact she has reduced you to this point means that she stil has the control. Whatever you do to her, you will have to live with it and her until you move out. Beware.

Reply 16

zooropa

Revenge is always right.

Reply 17

UtterNutter69

zooropa

Revenge is always right.

Good point. Well said.

Reply 18

Purple

18

Is she like this with your other siblings?

Reply 19

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

My mom is the problem and who I want to get revenge on - for the VERY SLIGHTEST things she always seems to have to shout!!! For example, earlier today I went in the bath and before I went in I asked my 2 bro's and my mom if they wanted the toilet (we only have 1 bathroom) and they said no. When I went in the bath, half an hour later (just as I was coming out) she starts banging on the door telling me she needs the toilet!! Then I had to get out pretty sharpish and when she came out of the toilet she was saying about how I'm an ungrateful and selfish little bastard! If I drop something she shouts, if I stand in her way she'll shout, I can't do ANYTHING in any one day without her shouting! She's absolutely obsessed with housework and is so terrible when she's doing the dusting that I actually get out of the house so I'm nto in her way. I just want revenge. Tomorrow's mothers day and I want to say something horrible to her. I know this sounds really mean but I just want to break her, to make her cry, to see her sobbing and pitiable - that's what she makes me want to do to her!!! She always used to make me cry when I was younger. I almost always used to spend the weekends at my grandparents to get away from her. I see them as my parents more than her. Is wanting revenge so wrong?? If not then does anyone have any advice at how to get back at her

yeah it its wrong. When alls said and done your mum has looked after you, fed you, clothed you and put a roof over your head since birth.

thats a lot of work.

YOU should respect that.

Is wanting revenge so wrong?

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