This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- How to deal it?
- Is this bad to be like this to my girlfriend.
- Student Finance query
- Relationship
- 28M
- Am I overthinking?
- Girls
- My girlfriend never gets jealous?
- Is he actually wanting me as his girlfriend?
- Deceit and betrayal
- Friend is annoyed I am not going to a game
- Old friend hearted one of my messages after a year of no contact. Why?
- How long do guys wait for their girlfriend's virginity?
- Relationship *curious
- Xaviersullivan
- I don’t know how to feel
- What should I do when I strongly disagree with my friend’s actions?
- Question for you girls
- Feeling 'off' about a guy on my girlfriends course she is getting close with
- Thinking about moving to this cute boy
Possesive girlfriend!
I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few years now.
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
That she's afraid of losing you, like she said. She doesn't want to let you have the chance to meet someone "better", because you may be more tempted. But if you're going to uni she'll have to accept it...
Does she have any major reasosn for all the distrust? I know no matter how much I love someone I would never be that possessive!! Maybe just keep reassure her and telling her how special she is, thats what it all boils down to.
Then again maybe she has genuine fears about you leaving her, and if these fears are completely stupid then tell her so!!
I know it seems a really bad thing to do on her part but she obviously feels threatened in some way by other girls and only wants to keep a hold of you; although its annoying in a strange way it shows how much she loves you lol.
i guess youve just gotta work on making your relationship solid so that her behaviour will become a bit more rational
Then again maybe she has genuine fears about you leaving her, and if these fears are completely stupid then tell her so!!
I know it seems a really bad thing to do on her part but she obviously feels threatened in some way by other girls and only wants to keep a hold of you; although its annoying in a strange way it shows how much she loves you lol.
i guess youve just gotta work on making your relationship solid so that her behaviour will become a bit more rational
She has no reason to think I'd leave her for someone I've just met. She is the only girl I have even ever kissed, whereas she has had 4+ boyfriends before me.
It's just the fact that I tried so hard to make sure she was ok with it. I have literally no friends that are girls, whereas she gets on well with a few guys.
It's just the fact that I tried so hard to make sure she was ok with it. I have literally no friends that are girls, whereas she gets on well with a few guys.
aww i hope she gets over this insecurity Dont beat yourself up about it you've obviously gone well out of your way to reassure her (even tho having no firends that are girls cos of her seems a bit unfair on her part). You just need to ask yourself if her behaviour is outweighed by the good qualities of your relationship? theres only so much you can reassure someone, ultimately she needs to be confident in herself and I guess only she can do that.
Dont beat yourself up about it you've obviously gone well out of your way to reassure her (even tho having no firends that are girls cos of her seems a bit unfair on her part). You just need to ask yourself if her behaviour is outweighed by the good qualities of your relationship? theres only so much you can reassure someone, ultimately she needs to be confident in herself and I guess only she can do that.
Anonymous
I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few years now.
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
You're going out with a bit of a psycho, mate.
If you don't have trust in a relationship, you have nothing.
Reading back on it, Im making it seem worse than it really is. It was just a bad moment and she's said she is sorry about it all.
The thing is, she says that she does trust me. Its just other people she doesn't trust.
But then again, if she trusted me, why would she phone up pretending to be someone to see what I said.
The thing is, she says that she does trust me. Its just other people she doesn't trust.
But then again, if she trusted me, why would she phone up pretending to be someone to see what I said.
Anonymous
Reading back on it, Im making it seem worse than it really is. It was just a bad moment and she's said she is sorry about it all.
The thing is, she says that she does trust me. Its just other people she doesn't trust.
But then again, if she trusted me, why would she phone up pretending to be someone to see what I said.
The thing is, she says that she does trust me. Its just other people she doesn't trust.
But then again, if she trusted me, why would she phone up pretending to be someone to see what I said.
lol i no this might be a strange reply but I heard a story that my grandad rang up my nan when they were young pretending to be one of the guys she was about to meet, and said that he couldnt meet her!!! its their 61st wedding anniversary this weekend so it didnt do their relationship that much harm
You're going out with a bit of a psycho, mate.
When you've been together for so long, there are certain things you have to learn to overlook.
For instance, your girlfriend would have to overlook the fact your a ****.
There is privacy and an invasion of it...tell her to stop 
Anonymous
When you've been together for so long, there are certain things you have to learn to overlook.
For instance, your girlfriend would have to overlook the fact your a ****.
For instance, your girlfriend would have to overlook the fact your a ****.
Anyway, I know what you mean. Most people just assume that there's such a thing as a "normal" relationship and that it should follow a certain pattern so it can be socially accepted by everyone around you: for the first few months, you're not allowed to talk about any feelings. It's only after a year that you can claim to be in love etc. I don't fall for that superficial crap.
In some relationships, people spend their time "arguing" in a petty way, yet are completely in love. In some relationships, people stay together for years and are never really in love. In others, people fall in love after a week...
You need to reassure her that you care about her and that she'll only turn things bad if she behaves like she does. Just promise to be open about everything, about any girl who makes a move on you...
You need to reassure her but at the same time, tell her that her behaviour might make things difficult and are putting pressure on you and you're worried that if she continues, you might lose her.
She's scared and therefore irrational. I think what you need to do is really reassure her. I got a bit freaked out that my boyfriend was going to go meet a girl like me, who then also shared his love for french and history. I wouldn't ever go as far as she did, but i think that she needs to be told that you're only interested in her (and if you throw in that the girl is ugly - that's a bit of a bonus 
) xx
) xx
Anonymous
I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few years now.
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
at first I would of said that it seems reasonable, as its understandable for her to feel a bit insecure with you going to uni, being at an open day and already meeting random girls.
but then I got to the end and saw the bit about how in the past shes deleted all the girls numbers from your phone...
I hate women like that, it drives me batty.
My psycho ex even deleted my male cousin 'sam's number as she thought it was a girls name...
My advice is dont be all apologetic, put your foot down before it gets worse.
You were honest to her in the first place as to who this girl was, 50% of the people on this earth are women, she has to get over her irrational fear. you can't just not speak to people.
To any women who are like this, In my case the more my ex tried banning me from speaking to other girls (inc ones i'd known for years) the more tempting the forbidden fruit got... Until I totally had enough and rebeled agains the girl. So if you're like this. Cut it out.
I'm like that. I worry so much that I'm going to lose my gf. She knows loads more guys than I know girls (actually loads more guys than I know people at all). She also doesn't understand how a guy's mind is different to a girl's. She thinks she's being friendly, the guy thinks she's flirting (it's happened). I worry she'll be stolen by someone better than me 
.
I have her email and msn password (she knows this). I sometimes check she hasn't gone and done anything silly like adding an ex bf to her msn or something. But I still get very uncomfortable when she even mentions being slightly friendly with another guy. Ah well. I guess I'll get over it in time. Oh and by the way. I didn't love my last gf and didn't have these feelings at all. I love this one so much and here they are!
Try and look on the bright side of what she's doing! And reassure her all the time. Be absolutely honest. Never give her any reason to doubt you (mine has done and it really didn't help. That's another story... ). It'll be fine.
. I have her email and msn password (she knows this). I sometimes check she hasn't gone and done anything silly like adding an ex bf to her msn or something. But I still get very uncomfortable when she even mentions being slightly friendly with another guy. Ah well. I guess I'll get over it in time. Oh and by the way. I didn't love my last gf and didn't have these feelings at all. I love this one so much and here they are!
Try and look on the bright side of what she's doing! And reassure her all the time. Be absolutely honest. Never give her any reason to doubt you (mine has done and it really didn't help. That's another story...
). It'll be fine.Anonymous
I'm like that. I worry so much that I'm going to lose my gf. She knows loads more guys than I know girls (actually loads more guys than I know people at all). She also doesn't understand how a guy's mind is different to a girl's. She thinks she's being friendly, the guy thinks she's flirting (it's happened). I worry she'll be stolen by someone better than me .
I have her email and msn password (she knows this). I sometimes check she hasn't gone and done anything silly like adding an ex bf to her msn or something. But I still get very uncomfortable when she even mentions being slightly friendly with another guy. Ah well. I guess I'll get over it in time. Oh and by the way. I didn't love my last gf and didn't have these feelings at all. I love this one so much and here they are!
Try and look on the bright side of what she's doing! And reassure her all the time. Be absolutely honest. Never give her any reason to doubt you (mine has done and it really didn't help. That's another story... ). It'll be fine.
. I have her email and msn password (she knows this). I sometimes check she hasn't gone and done anything silly like adding an ex bf to her msn or something. But I still get very uncomfortable when she even mentions being slightly friendly with another guy. Ah well. I guess I'll get over it in time. Oh and by the way. I didn't love my last gf and didn't have these feelings at all. I love this one so much and here they are!
Try and look on the bright side of what she's doing! And reassure her all the time. Be absolutely honest. Never give her any reason to doubt you (mine has done and it really didn't help. That's another story...
). It'll be fine.you need to sort your head out mate. there is no bright side.
If someones going to cheat, they're going to cheat.
Whomever they do, or dont speak to is not gonna make any difference.
So what if she has her Ex's email? or telephone number shes with you now, and you should trust her to stay with you.
If you dont have trust in your relationship why bother?
Anonymous
I've been going out with my girlfriend for a few years now.
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
She was the first person I ever went out with.
Basically; I met a girl at an open day who lives quite a distance away. She took my phone number because I had organised to meet her and someone else on the open day. We got on alright, and she has texted me asking about Uni decisions and stuff.
When I got home I told my girlfriend about this/showed her the texts so that she wouldn't think it was anything dodgey. I made sure she was ok with it.
My girlfriend later phones me up (withheld number) pretending to be the girl I met to see what I'd say. I immediatly thought it was my girlfriend and asked if it was her.. (it was an american accent sounding nothing like the girl) she said no, and eventually I hung up. I then phoned my girlfriend who acted if she knew nothing about it and denied it several times when I questionned her.
She only admitted when I said I was going to phone the girl she was pretending to be to see if it was really her.
My girlfriend has also, in the past, gone through my msn contacts deleting all the ones that are girls...
I said it was unacceptable, as she was lieing to me, but she says she just doesn't want to lose me..
What do people think..?
she's a desperate, clingy, insecure hoe...
i know she's your first gf and all...
but dump her...
these type of girls can turn into problems....jus imagine losing ALL your friends for your girlfriend, whom you're gonna break up with someday anyway...
jus dump her and get on with life... find another girl... there's plenty fish in the pond
Related discussions
- How to deal it?
- Is this bad to be like this to my girlfriend.
- Student Finance query
- Relationship
- 28M
- Am I overthinking?
- Girls
- My girlfriend never gets jealous?
- Is he actually wanting me as his girlfriend?
- Deceit and betrayal
- Friend is annoyed I am not going to a game
- Old friend hearted one of my messages after a year of no contact. Why?
- How long do guys wait for their girlfriend's virginity?
- Relationship *curious
- Xaviersullivan
- I don’t know how to feel
- What should I do when I strongly disagree with my friend’s actions?
- Question for you girls
- Feeling 'off' about a guy on my girlfriends course she is getting close with
- Thinking about moving to this cute boy
Latest
Trending
Last reply 4 weeks ago
How can I apply for university and get my letters without my parents finding outLast reply 1 month ago
Dealing with and keeping lies to my aggressive parentsLast reply 1 month ago
(Serious) How do I get rid of weird feelings with my boobs and femininity?Last reply 1 month ago
For those of you who have younger cousins or nieces and nephews why do you do this?Fitness
6
8
Last reply 1 month ago
People who claim to wash in 5mins aren’t showering properlyLast reply 1 month ago
2024 has been a horrible year for me overall and I just wanted your thoughtsLast reply 3 months ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.
