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My ex bf that was cheating on me is now cheating on he's new gf.

I was thinking about not telling her but I feel guilty and I don't want be accused of spliting them up. What do you think I should do? :confused:

Reply 1

NileDelta

Tell her.

Reply 2

Biffy Clyro

12

Provided your of a certain age (about 15+) I doubt anyone would accuse you of trying to split them up if he is cheating on her. Unless he denied it and said you made it up.

How do you know about it? If you are sure then I would tell her and let her know how you can be sure.

Reply 3

Jonatan

13

Anonymous

My ex bf that was cheating on me is now cheating on he's new gf.

I was thinking about not telling her but I feel guilty and I don't want be accused of spliting them up. What do you think I should do? :confused:

There is a fine line between being honest and mixing in other peoples business. Do you know his new girlfriend well? Are you likely to run into her a lot? Are you absolutely certain he is cheating on her?

My gut feeling is you should tell her, but leave it at that. Mention that he cheated on you as well and then let her decide if she wants to talk more about it. Don't keep pushing it at her if she doesn't beleive you, just tell her and if she asks you more about it be honest.

If it is someone you know very well and considder a friend, you should definately tell her. If its just some random girl you don't know its not really your responsibility, but if its one of your friends you really ought to tell her. She deserves to know.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Biffy Clyro

Provided your of a certain age (about 15+) I doubt anyone would accuse you of trying to split them up if he is cheating on her. Unless he denied it and said you made it up.

How do you know about it? If you are sure then I would tell her and let her know how you can be sure.

He would denied. He did denied it went he was cheating on me. He told one of my friends went he was trying to flirt with her.

Reply 5

G4ry

1

Answer.

Reply 6

envious

Well, I think you should think carefully about how well you know the girlfriend :confused:

Afterall, if you barely know her and you are sure that her boyfriend will deny it all anyway, then she probably will believe him over you anyway or at the very least question your motives. Try to put yourself in her situation. She has potentially already heard bad things about you from your ex and will be really suspicious as to why you have just come to her with this information :rolleyes:

It probably is the "right" thing to tell her but there is a fine line where helping a stranger can seem like meddling. At the end of the day it's your consience and I'm sure if you were in her situation you'd want to know.

Ok this was probably the most inconsistant piece of advice ever :p:

Basically I think you should just go with your gut instinct and heart and do what feels right :suith:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Pretty Boy

Its nothing to do with you.

I don't understand people like this

You have a life of your own waiting for you yet you seem concentrated on someone from your past.

He's new gf is person he cheated on me with. I was with my ex for a year and was going marry him. I just don't wanted him to do it to some on else. Maybe your right.

When I got accused of being the person he's cheating on her with it's not very nice.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Pretty Boy

How about you just forget about the whole negative situation and all the crap that came with it and concentrate on making good things happen in your own life.

I feel like do that. After all they deserve each other. I think she may even be cheating on him.

Reply 9

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

My ex bf that was cheating on me is now cheating on he's new gf.

I was thinking about not telling her but I feel guilty and I don't want be accused of spliting them up. What do you think I should do? :confused:

His relationship with his new girlfriend is of no concern to you.

If you tell her, they'll both blame you. You split up with him for this reason... Hence how he behaves in a relationship is nothing to do with you.

Reply 10

anjurdsg

11

El Scotto is right....unless you have a good reason to, dont...

but unless your bf is a prick with a terrible ego and a mean @**hole, by all means go ahead... and MAKE SURE he knows YOU told on him... dont be scared...

and also make sure you team up against him with this new girl when they break up... coz he's very likely to round on you.... and also that one-on-one boy/girl fights turn VERY VERY nasty...(personal experience)

Reply 11

username47781

20

Let them be, let her find out the hard way or even if she cheats on him it will be his problem.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

This may sound mean but I think you should tell both of them they are cheating on each other.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

This may sound mean but I think you should tell both of them they are cheating on each other?

Reply 14

NileDelta

Anonymous

This may sound mean but I think you should tell both of them they are cheating on each other?

No I wouldn't. I think I know what you mean.

Reply 15

jointhedots

16

Anonymous

This may sound mean but I think you should tell both of them they are cheating on each other.

You're answering your own question? Did I miss something?

Leave well alone, anyway. He's your ex and she's not your friend, it's none of your business.

Reply 16

Sithius

16

tell her

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