What should I do....I'm so nervous Watch

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I recently got chatting to this guy I met online. Great profile, essentially flawless in every way. I was wary about using online dating (never done it before) and dived in and gave it a go...it still unnerves me lol...

We bounced messages back and forth for a few days, and we have a lot in common (both linguists, at the same uni, both love to travel and eat foreign food (he's also half english, a quarter south african and indian). We both aren't back at uni till September and I'd love to go out with him, essentially.

He invited me to join his group at uni (the lusophone society) and invited me to add him on facebook, which I said I would (for the group) and did (for the Facebook). I invited him to the inclusions group at our uni LGBT and he accepted, and joined the group on Facebook (I wanted something where I could meet him and get to know him even more at the start of the year where we could do something together).

We bounced more messages back and forth for a few more days, and eventually got on chat last Thursday, we were talking for, it must have been...about 7/8 hours straight - it was epic - and I didn't want to end it!! (I had to as I had to be up early for a meeting). We spoke about our families, coming out (we went really personal and deep), food, our name mis-pronunciation, the holidays (winter ones) and how we do with our families. We also spoke about years abroad on our courses (we both are on language courses) and the culture (mostly Spain), and were obsessing over Barcelona.

We haven't spoken since, as he's just got home off his year abroad, so I don't want to pester him or be irritating...I might message him again in early August. I mean...I don't know what he's thinking and all, which worries me...I mean I don't see myself as the new Usher or Chris Brown looks wise, which is what kinda puts me off putting myself out there.

He'd also be my first relationship with a guy (I'm bisexual) and of course, that's even more worrying...

It sounds stupid...but I can't tell if he likes me and is interested...I know it was a dating site and all and...........I had a look at his quick facebook history and I was the only new friend he'd added recently (ooops!)

I mean....what should I do....I can give my friends the best relationship/love life advice but I'm not great with it myself (I often protect myself and think things out so I never get hurt).

I'm just so...ugh...I really really really like him...I never thought I'd find a person with the values I have (I've got a proper standard in life and about how I behave) and he has them all.

Also if I get to meet him in September (he said he'd be coming out to more LGBT events around freshers week (where we all go out and rave) I don't wanna mess it up...I'd hate for it to be ruined by something silly.

Could you give me some advice?
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Message him to see if he wants to meet up. Ask him about his year abroad as well-it'll show you're interested as well. It's clear you two have a lot in common, and he doesn't seem to matter that you're not Usher when it comes to looks, but then again, that shouldn't matter.

The worst that happens is that he says no, which, regarding what you've written, sounds HIGHLY unlikely!

Go for it, basically, is what I'm getting at!

Best of luck!
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Thanks, he went on holiday recently, so I left him to it lol
I'm not normally nervous but this is something else...
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I felt nervous about messing things up with my first boyfriend. We were together for a year and a half before he moved to Japan and you seem to have far more in common than we did, so you shouldn't be too nervous. I know it's nerve-wracking, but you don't wanna be thinking "what if?".
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Nobody would talk to you for 7/8 hours straight and not be interested.
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(Original post by Pitt1988)
Nobody would talk to you for 7/8 hours straight and not be interested.
THIS!!!!
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I told you all I was useless with my own advice
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