Is this illegal and should I seek help from the Police? Watch
Anyway, yesterday I learned that she's throwing all my stuff out/giving it to charity, even though I've said on many occasions that I want it back. She's throwing out clothes/books/documents/photos/tech etc. etc.
What can I do about this? It's legally my stuff, isn't it? Can I stop her? Can I get it back somehow if she doesn't want to give it to me? I don't know what to do! She's throwing out my whole life's worth of things!
If, however, you paid for the items, they are legally yours and thus she cannot do anything of such sort without your permission, AFAIK.
Your best bet is probably to 'steal' the stuff back, because there isn't likely to be a lot she can do about that either, especially if she already threw it out.
I'm expecting this to get a lot of negs from all those respect your family nutters but I'm not expecting this to be followed (or even considered) by op if she's still deserving of you not going to these extremes. Your family aren't special unless they're actions back it up and perhaps in this case she should be treated just like you'd treat anyone else's mother who stole from you.
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It's not a police issue - they won't get involved. If you go to the police they will advise you to speak to a lawyer who specialises in civil (small claims) cases.
When you speak to a lawyer they will suggest they send your mum a letter outlining all the things that you believe are yours and want back (the lawyer will charge you to send the letter, which can be costly). Your mum should then correspond with the lawyer and arrange a convenient time for you to come and collect your belongings, after which point the case is closed. If she has already gotten rid of the items and you can prove they belonged to you then she has commited an offence, and your lawyer will advise you that you will be able to take her to a small claims court to get compensation for the items should she refused to give you an agreed amount of compensation herself.
If your mum disputes the ownership of the items then you are in a difficult position. Did you buy them, and if so - do you have the receipts in your own name? If so - and if they are worth it - you can take her to court and you will win. If not - and the items are not stupidly valuable - then I'd advise against it for financial reasons and the fact that you probably won't win.
In any case I presume you'd have to represent yourself in court as you wouldn't be able to afford legal representation (to get a lawyer to represent you in a small claims court can cost upwards of £1500. Be mindful of this before going that far.
If your mum had any honour and decency then she'd come to an arrangement with you personally and grow up a bit.
I don't want a court case over this. She's still my mum.
But she won't give it to me, she doesn't want to talk to me, won't let me in the house..
I couldn't take it all with me because I was given 1/2hr to get out of the house. ~You can't pack/transport everything you own in 1/2hr...
*Illegal till over 25*