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Can I pick the brains of you loverly laydee's?
I like a girl I've known for a few months now.
I have her no, but are struggling to get her out, but can't get a rejection out of her either lol. Decided on not continually asking her out as not into looking needy, so delibrately not coming on strong and flirting with other girls to create a bit of jealousy/get her attention (which appears to be working), but where do I go from here?
Not lookng to play games, but been kind of drawn into it...
MJ
I have her no, but are struggling to get her out, but can't get a rejection out of her either lol. Decided on not continually asking her out as not into looking needy, so delibrately not coming on strong and flirting with other girls to create a bit of jealousy/get her attention (which appears to be working), but where do I go from here?
Not lookng to play games, but been kind of drawn into it...
MJ
Mr J
I like a girl I've known for a few months now.
I have her no, but are struggling to get her out, but can't get a rejection out of her either lol. Decided on not continually asking her out as not into looking needy, so delibrately not coming on strong and flirting with other girls to create a bit of jealousy/get her attention (which appears to be working), but where do I go from here?
Not lookng to play games, but been kind of drawn into it...
MJ
I have her no, but are struggling to get her out, but can't get a rejection out of her either lol. Decided on not continually asking her out as not into looking needy, so delibrately not coming on strong and flirting with other girls to create a bit of jealousy/get her attention (which appears to be working), but where do I go from here?
Not lookng to play games, but been kind of drawn into it...
MJ
Aargh, I hate it when people do that. It might make me slightly jealous, but it never makes me more interested, or more inclined to go out with the person. In fact it often makes me go off them for playing silly games.
Anyway, if it's working for you, then continue I suppose. I'm thinking she's either confused, in that case just continue to be friendly and she could potentially change her mind if you ask her out again in a while. You should be able to see the signs if she really does like you.
Or..she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings and doesn't have the heart to say no straight away. So bear that in mind, don't get your hopes up too high
and don't get too down if that's the case. Good luck.
Tell her that then. No string attached drink. And when you get her there, make her see that she doesnt need an ex because YOU are there, and YOU are interested unlike her ex. And pay for her drinks..definitely!
if she's still hung up on her ex, then you'd need to be there for her as a friend/support figure initially, otherwise she'll just run a mile because you're not her ex. whereas if you can be instrumental in helping her move on, talking to her, making her feel happy and good about herself again, then you're in with a chance.
STOP TRYING TO MAKE HER JEALOUS.
There are differing opinons on this: it works on some girls but definitely not me. If she's 'hung up on her ex', it suggests that there's some lack of self esteem in there: scared to move on, maybe comfortable with her current feelings etc etc which in turn, to me, - though i'm no psychologist - suggests she'd be possibly insecure maybe jealous. All indicating to me to leave off the 'games'.
Find a common ground to casually chat about (over msn? may be easier) and let things grow from there. At least then you'll have a full picture of her as a friend before starting off a relationship.
xxx
STOP TRYING TO MAKE HER JEALOUS.
There are differing opinons on this: it works on some girls but definitely not me. If she's 'hung up on her ex', it suggests that there's some lack of self esteem in there: scared to move on, maybe comfortable with her current feelings etc etc which in turn, to me, - though i'm no psychologist - suggests she'd be possibly insecure maybe jealous. All indicating to me to leave off the 'games'.
Find a common ground to casually chat about (over msn? may be easier) and let things grow from there. At least then you'll have a full picture of her as a friend before starting off a relationship.
xxx
There's playing silly games and there's seeming popular. Most of the time, casual flirting with other people doesn't seem overly flirting as in liking others, it just seems flirty and fun. I'm not sure where the swathe of advice against it is coming from, I've seen it work many times and there's loads of evidence about someone being seen as attractive to other people makes them more attractive in a girls eye.
Don't be blatant about it and don't do it purely to make her jealous, but casual flirting isn't a bad thing. Hell, if it does make her jealous, then it's worked. However doing it specifically to make her jealous tends to backfire.
Don't be blatant about it and don't do it purely to make her jealous, but casual flirting isn't a bad thing. Hell, if it does make her jealous, then it's worked. However doing it specifically to make her jealous tends to backfire.
The jealousy thing... hmm I think it makes me jealous definitely, but less trusting of them.
I think you shdnt make her jeallous, as cuh. Talk to other girls infront of her but nothing too much sos he think u as player. She'll just wish she was with u instead. Which is enough. I think she needs someone to make her laugh- so self esteem builds. I thik u shd say to her u really like her, so she unsure but that gets the ball rolling. (excuse the pun)! She'll start to wonder, pay her bit less attention than uusal but when u do make it good. Then take her out and tell her u like her and ask her if shed wna go out on a propper date. ??
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