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Untrustworthy Friend?

This happened some time ago, I'm just wondering if I've over reacted...
I broke up with my boyfriend at the time, and with him a matter of a week - two weeks my supposed best friend (a claim she made, not me), was sneaking off to sleep with him behind my back. There were very complicated reasons why we broke up. But we still had feelings for each other. The reason I have a problem with my supposed friend sleeping with him are:

(a) He was sleeping with her to get me back for dumping him, so therefore she was helping someone purposely hurt my feelings. Friends aren't supposed to do that.
(b) She didn't even waste anytime jumping into bed with him, so she was obviously waiting for such an opportunity to arise.
(c) She told lots of lies to cover up where she was, and borrowed money to go and see him, but said she was somewhere else (although she did pay me back).

When I did find out about it (my ex told me, to try and make me jealous) my friend didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with what she did. And still wanted us to be friends! (I'm not friends with her now btw as I do not believe she can be trusted). She then started ranting on about how much she loves him and you can't help who you fall for. Yet she had only met up with him 2-3 times then.

Would anyone else be friends with this girl after that had happened?

Reply 1

Talya

16

No way! And make sure you don't take the guy back either.

Friends should definitely not do that if they care about you at all!

Reply 2

me12345

no that's definitely out of order

Reply 3

UtterNutter69

No she's a slag bag and a skip rat.
Give her a slap next time you see her.

Reply 4

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

I think you should slap its face.

Reply 5

brimstone

7

I've had similar (well not completely similar!) situations happen to me, where a friend has done something unforgivable, and I've dumped them.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I've got a new boyfriend now and he's great. Although this ex friend of mine sent him a message saying that IM the slut, lol, and that she's going out with my ex, and my bf should watch out for me blah blah blah. The cheek of it. My bf told her where to go though, which made her shut up and she hasn't bothered him since. She was hoping he would dump me!

Reply 7

Humra

Anonymous

I've got a new boyfriend now and he's great. Although this ex friend of mine sent him a message saying that IM the slut, lol, and that she's going out with my ex, and my bf should watch out for me blah blah blah. The cheek of it. My bf told her where to go though, which made her shut up and she hasn't bothered him since. She was hoping he would dump me!

She probably wanted to sleep with him too :rolleyes:

It's hard to find people who we can trust, as we should be careful. People like that will be unhappy in the future.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Humra

She probably wanted to sleep with him too :rolleyes:

It's hard to find people who we can trust, as we should be careful. People like that will be unhappy in the future.

She was probably jealous coz she saw us looking happy in the pics on my page! Coz I know she'll be arguing with my ex as we speak, he's an arguementitive person. It's good to be with someone who makes me happy! I seem to make friends with the wrong types of people :rolleyes:

Reply 9

Humra

Anonymous

I seem to make friends with the wrong types of people :rolleyes:

Your not the only one, one of my friends is a compulsive liar and exaggerates everything she says. When she is telling the truth it's hard to believe her. I haven't been through your kind of situation, and I really hope i never will. Happy to hear your new relationship is going well :biggrin:

Reply 10

ezyazd

1

Humra

Your not the only one, one of my friends is a compulsive liar and exaggerates everything she says. When she is telling the truth it's hard to believe her. I haven't been through your kind of situation, and I really hope i never will. Happy to hear your new relationship is going well :biggrin:

I had a friend like that back at college, i couldnt believe a word she said! I've also got some cousins like that, they lie so much they believe the lies are the truth. They even lie about what happened when you were there and saw everything!

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Firebird

I would have slapped her. Tell her to stop texting you.

I would if she didn't want to use her son as a human shield! :eek:

(i love it when people put their children first, but not literally :rolleyes:

)

Reply 12

ladygrey

unforgiveable. you're well out of it.

Reply 13

.:fluff:.

1

She obviously doesn't respect you. get rid of her, you'll be better off without both of them :wink:

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for all the replies. I hope I can find some decent friends in the future, maybe at uni! The experience has kinda put me off female friends now though.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

omg this girl is queen of the slut, her ex bf just showed me what she's been up to... doing some porno site...doesn't she care about what her son will think when hes older? Where is her son when she is doing all this?... I was going to post the link but I think I would get in trouble, you'd be sick anyway.