Addicted to dogging/anonymous hook ups - issues?

I'm basically extremely turned on by dogging and anonymous hook ups, but it's landed me in risky situations in the past.

I am a very well turned out person, polite, middle class, educated, but I really get off on absolute sleaze and seedy environments. This has shocked a few of my close friends who I have told, since i don't really seem like someone who would be into that.

I've been dogging for a while, I've done saunas (straight and otherwise), woods, laybys and tonight I want to try a sex cinema where basically anything goes and you can watch porn and drink in a dark cinema. I basically just want to go alone, have a some fun and see what happens.

Do I have some sort of problem? Is this acceptable behaviour or should I try to stop it? I don't get that turned on when I am intimate with someone one on one, but a massive turn on is anonymity, being in a group, with strangers, pulling my pants up and leaving once I'm done.

Am I the only one??

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

P.S. I am 20 years old and normally other people that do this are much older than I am.

Reply 2

ash1011

10

I thought i was the only one!!

I was driving around the other day and started feeling horny. So I decided to swing by this well known dogging spot that was close by. There were a few other cars there so I pulled up and joined in.

I had a great time, but I think I failed my driving test. :colone:

In all seriousness, im not into that. It is a bit odd yes, if it's not harming anyone though...

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 3

TenOfThem

18

Original post by ash1011

I had a great time, but I think I failed my driving test.

Actually

LOL

Reply 4

TenOfThem

18

Original post by Anonymous

P.S. I am 20 years old and normally other people that do this are much older than I am.

Are you M or F

Do you feel safe when involved in these activities

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by TenOfThem

Are you M or F

Do you feel safe when involved in these activities

Male. No, I don't feel safe, but it's part of the thrill - the risk. I identify as more gay, but in dogging situations if there is a woman and she's surrounded by guys, I'll usually join in, just because she's normally a lot older and I'm 20.

It's quite sick really isn't it? Is it a sign of low self-esteem?

Reply 6

TenOfThem

18

Original post by Anonymous

Is it a sign of low self-esteem?

Probably

I think it is good that you are questioning the appropriateness of this way of life

Whilst I think that sex is sex is sex and whatever you are into is fine (not sick) I would worry about the physical danger involved in these activities

There are other ways that you can take sexual risks that do not threaten your life or physical well being ... perhaps you could look into some safer options

Reply 7

thecookiemonster

15

As long as you are being safe with regards to your sexual health and not doing anything you don't want to do, I don't see a problem. I'm into some rather odd stuff, and initially I was embarrassed but I've started to get out there and embrace it and I'm having the time of my life!

If you're into dogging, you're into it. Do what you enjoy.

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Reply 8

username917703

17

Original post by Anonymous

I'm basically extremely turned on by dogging and anonymous hook ups, but it's landed me in risky situations in the past.

I am a very well turned out person, polite, middle class, educated, but I really get off on absolute sleaze and seedy environments. This has shocked a few of my close friends who I have told, since i don't really seem like someone who would be into that.

I've been dogging for a while, I've done saunas (straight and otherwise), woods, laybys and tonight I want to try a sex cinema where basically anything goes and you can watch porn and drink in a dark cinema. I basically just want to go alone, have a some fun and see what happens.

Do I have some sort of problem? Is this acceptable behaviour or should I try to stop it? I don't get that turned on when I am intimate with someone one on one, but a massive turn on is anonymity, being in a group, with strangers, pulling my pants up and leaving once I'm done.

Am I the only one??

As long as you're being safe and all that.

Reply 9

Ice Constricter

19

If that's what you enjoy.....

You just have to be responsible when engaging in these kinds of activities. Making sure you're not harming yourself or others and taking care of your personal safety. You never what kind of people you'll meet in these types of places at that time of the night.

Reply 10

Ice Constricter

19

Original post by Ice Constricter

If that's what you enjoy.....

You just have to be responsible when engaging in these kinds of activities. Making sure you're not harming yourself or others and taking care of your personal safety. You never what kind of people you'll meet in these types of places at that time of the night.

Its funny how I mentioned that, when the OP didn't even say the time of day he goes dogging.

So OP hopefully you don't do this at night, do you?

Spoiler

(edited 11 years ago)

This is hilarious!

Keep up the good work

Reply 13

ProfessorPester

9

Dogging place? Why have i never heard of this before?

You just walk to some stranger and say 'fancy a shag' or something?

Reply 14

Agenda Suicide

18

Original post by ProfessorPester

Dogging place? Why have i never heard of this before?

You just walk to some stranger and say 'fancy a shag' or something?

Not a stranger, anybody also dressed in a canine suit. Hence the name...

Reply 15

superduper9

10

This doesn't seem right to me OP, mostly from a health point of view, i.e. in terms of catching something. I'm not sure thats a risk that would turn you on. You may need to think about that. The fact that you are writing in asking this and the response you've got from your friends suggests that perhaps this is not quite normal for a 20 year old. However, that said, if you feel the need to do it, just make sure you don't harm others or put yourself at physical risk.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

What does 'makesure you're not harming yourself or putting others at risk mean'?? Everytime I do it, afterwards I feel deep shame and obsess over whether I have caught something, even only from oral sex.

Reply 17

Studentus-anonymous

12

Original post by Anonymous

I'm basically extremely turned on by dogging and anonymous hook ups, but it's landed me in risky situations in the past.

I am a very well turned out person, polite, middle class, educated, but I really get off on absolute sleaze and seedy environments. This has shocked a few of my close friends who I have told, since i don't really seem like someone who would be into that.

I've been dogging for a while, I've done saunas (straight and otherwise), woods, laybys and tonight I want to try a sex cinema where basically anything goes and you can watch porn and drink in a dark cinema. I basically just want to go alone, have a some fun and see what happens.

Do I have some sort of problem? Is this acceptable behaviour or should I try to stop it? I don't get that turned on when I am intimate with someone one on one, but a massive turn on is anonymity, being in a group, with strangers, pulling my pants up and leaving once I'm done.

Am I the only one??

How could you possibly find no strings attached sex a turn on?

Wait, never mind.

Reply 18

pinkangelgirl

15

OP i dont think theres anything wrong with that at all!

I think you just find the excitement a turn on? The thrill of it all. As long as your not hurting anyone and practise safe sex and don't put yourself in a dangerous situation I don't see the problem.