Anger Management...?

Seriously, I would get a punchbag. If I'm turbo-pi**ed at someone/something then I find giving my punchbag a good battering relieves the aggression. Although it souns like your anger runs a little deeper.

Are they're any options for getting your kid back? Can you appeal?

I can appeal near the end of the year but in reality not much will change as his dad is in a lot better position financially than me. He works as some sort of assistant manager (a job is mum got him) and he lives at home with his parents and they earn a fair bit between the two of them. I wouldn't have such a problem with him being with his dad if the family were fair. But they are trying to cut me out of my son's life. Im only allowed to see him once a week and call him on the phone twice a week. And they live far away. I thought about moving closer, but when asked in court if they would allow me any extra contact time they refused, so that would be pointless, and I would be alone in a new area.

As long as your son get bought in a stable environment thats whats important, but trying to cut you out is wrong and it could affect the kid. Dont they realise this is wrong? When my parents got divorced I was living with my mum and we stayed at my grandmothers for a while, but my mother never stopped me seeing my dad at any point. Have you tried talking to your ex without his parents about?

How old is your child? How long did he live with you before he was taken away?

I don't mean to be judgemental but the courts must have had a good reason to do what they did as the last thing they want to do is split up families. But what has happend has happend, its time to build bridges.

Don't worry about his financial status, a good mum will be better than any pay cheque.

As for you anger, if it is truly as bad as you say then either a) get some counselling (this will help in court as you have identified a problem and are seeking help with it) or b) focus on your child, keep telling yourself that things will get better and if you really want it you can get it.

I hope I've helped.

Well one things is certain and that your ex's mother should in no way influence the procedure outside of the courts. Also I am aware that when social services get involved they do tend to stick to you like glue.

Whats wrong with not wanting a child messy, nothing. However, if this was made into a big deal and the child wasn't filthy dirty then it could be turned against you as like you said to be 'eccentric'.

You also need to be clear about how you feel, is it anger (as in wanting revenge, hurting somebody etc) or frustration?

Also i like to believe that people are not influenced by the colour of a person's skin, but in reality i think we all know this does happen, sadly.

You need to focus on the future now, sure some bad things have happened but it will not help you or your son if you keep this attitude.

I know this may seem like a cop out but instead of fighting the system accept it, accept that they took your child away to protect it from potential harm (i am not judging you and post natal depression is an illness that you can not control), accept that for the time being you have to live by your ex's family rules.

Hmm hope that helps.

By the way I have a 3yr old son and I have had to go through solicitors for certain things and currently still am.