What did he mean by this?

it means he wants to be a slag.

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OP

I thought so too, Fleece. But I think he's interested in something more with me than that, he certainly gives that impression. I thought from what he said that maybe he has had/ or has more flingy-type, shortlived things with women rather than being in a longterm relationhship in which he might be tempted to cheat?

Reply 3

From what he's said there though, it sounds like the only thing he would want from you is sex.
The snippet that is the most disturbing/telling: "just not met anyone who's bowled me over, enough to dedicate myself to." i.e. harsh to say, but you haven't bowled him over enough either :-\

Reply 4

OP

Fleece

From what he's said there though, it sounds like the only thing he would want from you is sex.
The snippet that is the most disturbing/telling: "just not met anyone who's bowled me over, enough to dedicate myself to." i.e. harsh to say, but you haven't bowled him over enough either :-\

Yeah, but I've only literally just met him, a couple of times. And he's really lovely to me! Very complimentary towards me, very sweet, phoning me etc..

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serious narb

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Anonymous

Yeah, but I've only literally just met him, a couple of times. And he's really lovely to me! Very complimentary towards me, very sweet, phoning me etc..

maybe trying to be nice so he can get into your pants, have to agree with Fleece on this one. Sounds like he's only after 1 thing to me, he might be lovely now but once he's got what he wants it'll change.

only judging that from a few lines but it's just the impression I get

Reply 6

OP

Yeah, maybe. I'm not sure; I might be over-analysing this anyway! He keeps saying thought that he wished I lived nearer by- 2hr train ride away- and we've talked a lot about life in general etc, it's just that comment stuck in my mind cos I wasn't sure what he meant.

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MNBStyle

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I have to agree with Fleece to on this one

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The Canadian

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I said something pretty similar a while ago, but to me "having fun" with a girl means just that, going out having a laugh. People have seen me with several girls on what have supposedly appeared to be multiple dates, and I was just having fun with friends.

It's down to the guy, what's he like? I'm not one of these guys that just thinks about sex every 7 seconds or whatever it is, so fun is in it's original context for me, not a euphamism.

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The Canadian

I said something pretty similar a while ago, but to me "having fun" with a girl means just that, going out having a laugh. People have seen me with several girls on what have supposedly appeared to be multiple dates, and I was just having fun with friends.

It's down to the guy, what's he like? I'm not one of these guys that just thinks about sex every 7 seconds or whatever it is, so fun is in it's original context for me, not a euphamism.

well he was talking about cheating, and i don't think going out and having a laugh constitutes cheating...

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The Canadian

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Fleece

well he was talking about cheating, and i don't think going out and having a laugh constitutes cheating...

Yeah, but what I was trying to convey, dunno if I used the right words or not, is that my mates saw me and thought I was cheating.

My mates have seen my dad out with a friend from work and thought he was cheating, though to be fair he did kiss her as a friend in Maccy Ds.

Though in all probability - Stereotypical guy wanting to be like the SAS - get in and get out before anyone realises we've been there.

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yeah but i don't get your point because it's not like people have seen him - it's what's coming from the horse's mouth.

Reply 12

silverbolt

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at least he was honest about it many guys wouldnt be as straight forward

Reply 13

OP

Thanks for your input guys.

He is really honest with me-which is good-and I get the gist better now of what he might have been trying to say.

When people ask me why I'm still single though, I always phrase it that same way:

"I haven't met anyone who I really like enough to be with/ who's really made me go "wow"."

^That's exactly the sort of thing I would say. And being single is fun, you can have more freedom to see people casually. So I think what he said more or less means he's been happy having shortterm things up to now but if he met the right girl he wouldn't cheat on her cos he doesn't agree with it, and he'd be happy to to "commit" himself.

Don't think he's a man-ho by any means though; he doesn't seem the type and he's really busy with his job so he doesn't get much free time/ the chance to meet women.

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