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Making the move....

I met a foreign exchange student during the final week at uni. We had a **** load of chemistry going on between us, there was a lot of eye contact, a lot of smiling. I would make her laugh. She obviously really enjoyed being around me. We went out together a lot, like I would ask her to come out and she would even come out when she had migranes. All of my mates found her really hot, and would try and divert her attention away from me, but she always came back to me.

I told her that I fancied her. She seemed flattered, as i said to her later that night "if you feel uncomftable around me, I will go back to the campus alone", but despite this she wanted me to go back home with her and her mate. I ended up in her room, and we basically spoke till early hours about random stuff. Out of respect, I never made a move on her, because I was very aware that she had a bf back home, but now I think I was probably a cock not to. As I knew there was chemistry, but now unfortunantly I will never see her again as she was only at the uni for one semester. I have texted her a few times in order to keep in touch, but she has not replied back to my text messages. Rather her mate has been keeping in touch.

I have never kissed a girl in my life, so I found it very difficult to make a move. It was made much harder by the sheer fact that she has a bf back home. It just felt disrespectful. I am twenty years old whose never been in a relationship, so I am also really naieve about these things due to lack of experience.

In the past I have had similar experiences with girls, and ironically they were all taken. So the same ******** as above ended up happening.

Looking back, I feel that maybe I should have made a move, I mean it is not as though I will ever see this girl again.

very :confused:
no - she had a boyfriend back home, and she knew you knew about it

if you had made a move she would have thought you were an idiot

I know it is tough when you fall for someone in a relationship but you just have to accept thre situation and not try and split them up
It's hard but she did have a boyfriend and so things could never really have started up. Its not right to interfere in other peoples relationships and she probably was flattered that you like her (most girls would be) but the fact she has a boyfriend prevented anything from happening, and it doesnt seem that she wanted to break up with him. It was a tricky situation, but the best outcome is to move on from her. It may feel like you're never going to meet anyone special, but i promise you that you will. It takes time, and if you go looking you rarely ever find her. Just be patient, have fun and she will come along in her own time, and you will be glad you waited
Reply 3
hey thanks for your reply,

I respected the fact that she had a bf in the first place and never made a move. I was quiet protective of her as well during her stay, as I knew she had a bf, I mean there was one night she got drunk and went and snogged some dude in a club, I fended the dude off. (this incident really started making me wonder about how faithful she really was.)

It is just very very frustrating how I always end up meeting girls that are already taken :rolleyes:

I knew that there was no point in even trying to split her up from her boyfriend as she was only at my uni for a short stay. A long distance relationship just wasn't an option for me, due to lack of proximity.
Reply 4
MagicNMedicine
no - she had a boyfriend back home, and she knew you knew about it

if you had made a move she would have thought you were an idiot

I know it is tough when you fall for someone in a relationship but you just have to accept thre situation and not try and split them up


agreed. if you didnt even try to kiss the girl after almost 1/3 of a yr then she probably thought of you as friends. dotn beat yourself up, i agree with this guy MagicMedicine that if you made a move she'd have been outta there like a shot.

although she probably likes you i think she likes her bf more. this is like ly why she hasnt pursud anything since she went back. i say just leave it and move on. theres alot of other girls out there :smile:
and as for being 20 and never kissed a girl, i wish i was that way too and im 20. one day a decent girl will value your innocence
Reply 5
Anonymous
hey thanks for your reply,

I respected the fact that she had a bf in the first place and never made a move. I was quiet protective of her as well during her stay, as I knew she had a bf, I mean there was one night she got drunk and went and snogged some dude in a club, I fended the dude off. (this incident really started making me wonder about how faithful she really was.)

It is just very very frustrating how I always end up meeting girls that are already taken :rolleyes:

I knew that there was no point in even trying to split her up from her boyfriend as she was only at my uni for a short stay. A long distance relationship just wasn't an option for me, due to lack of proximity.


why was she snogging another guy, but didnt snog u??:confused:
Reply 6
why was she snogging another guy, but didnt snog u??

Apparently according to her, she was drunk and was "taken advantage off".

It is all utter ******** IMO, after telling my friends at uni ironically they were like "Wtf? I can't believe she snogged him but not you? Your much better then him."

I just think the reason why I never got a snog from her in the first place was because I 'didn't' make the move, whereas this dude didn't care and was probably much more aggressive in his courting techniques. Like I would flirt but I would be much more subtle, I would wait for her to make the move (which never ended up happening) rather then the other way round as I was aware she had a bf.

Ahhh well who knows! I want a single girl to come along grrrr!
Reply 7
Maybe your right, she was french afterall...she was clearly very talented at flirting!

Just too much happened in a space of a week at such a fast pace.