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self-esteem attacks
(...right, im gona post anon here coz i hate being a hypocrite...)
i'm a 17-yr old guy... usually, about 60% of the times i'm in a good mood...i'm laughing, making jokes with my friends, flirting with girls, etc.
But then all of a sudden, a sudden negative thought lurks itself into my head and destroys that moment instantly... one negative thought leads to another, and i jus lose my mood completely and act like a dumb wussy whose anger-management lessons just couldnt pay off... and this doesnt stop there... my mood jus keeps getting worse and worse until i get a low self-esteem attack, seem to have lost my balls ... and the worst of it all, i take it out on my friends...
these negative thoughts are somewhat related to my friends themselves... in december i had a fight with a couple of my female friends, and we jus stopped talking to each other completely... when i think about them i lose my mind...
another one of those major negative influences is this girl i have a crush on... right, im usually ok with attracting girls...they're not a problem for me... but for this one, things just seem different... if i see her around with another guy (even as friends), or she talks to another guy, or even if she walks by me without saying hi, i get those wuss-attacks again... why am i taking her so personally?!!!? it's so ridiculous, i just feel EMBARASSED typing this out.
so i keep getting these horrible mood-swings every day, and i only recover the next morning when i wake up...
and i hate it when my friends notice, and either they say "whats wrong" (to which i dun wanna explain them my problems) or they say "if u show me that attittude again i will beat u up"
please help me...
(the reason i said i'm being a hypocrite because:
[a] right now i'm in one of those low-self esteem moods and wanna criticise myself
i'm one of those people who help my friends out with THEIR bad moods, give them advice and all... and now look at me)
PS: you cant tell me to go out more or chill out right now, because my exams are in 1 month, and my parents will no more let me out than they'll let my dog sleep on the couch...
i'm a 17-yr old guy... usually, about 60% of the times i'm in a good mood...i'm laughing, making jokes with my friends, flirting with girls, etc.
But then all of a sudden, a sudden negative thought lurks itself into my head and destroys that moment instantly... one negative thought leads to another, and i jus lose my mood completely and act like a dumb wussy whose anger-management lessons just couldnt pay off... and this doesnt stop there... my mood jus keeps getting worse and worse until i get a low self-esteem attack, seem to have lost my balls ... and the worst of it all, i take it out on my friends...
these negative thoughts are somewhat related to my friends themselves... in december i had a fight with a couple of my female friends, and we jus stopped talking to each other completely... when i think about them i lose my mind...
another one of those major negative influences is this girl i have a crush on... right, im usually ok with attracting girls...they're not a problem for me... but for this one, things just seem different... if i see her around with another guy (even as friends), or she talks to another guy, or even if she walks by me without saying hi, i get those wuss-attacks again... why am i taking her so personally?!!!? it's so ridiculous, i just feel EMBARASSED typing this out.
so i keep getting these horrible mood-swings every day, and i only recover the next morning when i wake up...
and i hate it when my friends notice, and either they say "whats wrong" (to which i dun wanna explain them my problems) or they say "if u show me that attittude again i will beat u up"
please help me...
(the reason i said i'm being a hypocrite because:
[a] right now i'm in one of those low-self esteem moods and wanna criticise myself
i'm one of those people who help my friends out with THEIR bad moods, give them advice and all... and now look at me)
PS: you cant tell me to go out more or chill out right now, because my exams are in 1 month, and my parents will no more let me out than they'll let my dog sleep on the couch...
Reply 1
hey, i have a similar problem to you, in terms of the "self-esteem" thing where i normally joke around with friends and then suddenly i go into a depression and theres this little voice telling me im crap, not worth living etc. i had these mood swings (where id also lash out on friends, by putting them down for no particular reason) up until one day when i just realised i had to get a life in a sense and stop feeling sorry for myself. Sounds harsh, but since then i havent had such a bad depression spell, even though i still think im crappish (not as crap as before though lol).
Think about why you feel that way about your friend, do you like her and feel that you're jealous about that she is paying more attention to others and not you? is school bringing you down?
hope everything turns out ok in the end, if you want any help PM me xx
Think about why you feel that way about your friend, do you like her and feel that you're jealous about that she is paying more attention to others and not you? is school bringing you down?
hope everything turns out ok in the end, if you want any help PM me xx
Reply 2
alexandra
hey, i have a similar problem to you, in terms of the "self-esteem" thing where i normally joke around with friends and then suddenly i go into a depression and theres this little voice telling me im crap, not worth living etc. i had these mood swings (where id also lash out on friends, by putting them down for no particular reason) up until one day when i just realised i had to get a life in a sense and stop feeling sorry for myself. Sounds harsh, but since then i havent had such a bad depression spell, even though i still think im crappish (not as crap as before though lol).
Think about why you feel that way about your friend, do you like her and feel that you're jealous about that she is paying more attention to others and not you? is school bringing you down?
hope everything turns out ok in the end, if you want any help PM me xx
Think about why you feel that way about your friend, do you like her and feel that you're jealous about that she is paying more attention to others and not you? is school bringing you down?
hope everything turns out ok in the end, if you want any help PM me xx
hmmm thanks for your reply... but the difference is that you're a girl, i'm a guy... it's kinda seen as not normal for a guy to get these kinda mood-swings.... from a girl, its expected....
this whole moodswing thing for me started last december when i had the fight, and the crush on the girl... also, my best friend ran away from home... also other things related to academics...since then, i've almost nearly "broken down", if ya feel me...
hmmm i think you're right about the fact that i feel jealous about her not paying attention to me... but i ignore it all along when it's happening around me... i'm like a "popular-loner" kinda thing, ya know? coz i know i'm popular and people LIKE me (not being modest or anything), but when I get into these moods, i want PEOPLE to come and talk to me and i NEVER initiate a conversation on my own....
i've found a way around it though: i bought myself an mp3 player so i can listen to music and block out all noise completely... i know this is laughable and weak...
I dunno what to do....Reply 3
I struggle with depression and low self-esteem too . Alexandra is right tho; I know ppl hav told me that I hav too much self-pity. There's no easy solutions for this. Counselling can be helpful tho.
. Alexandra is right tho; I know ppl hav told me that I hav too much self-pity. There's no easy solutions for this. Counselling can be helpful tho.Reply 4
no its not weak at all, music is an absolute saviour!
who says its not normal for guys to have mood swings? rubbish! of course they do, and dont think you're "abnormal" for having them. everything happens for a reason and you've got a reason for being depressed. you just have to say to yourself, whats happened, happened. time to move on and focus on the present and the future. its incredibly tough i know bt you have to do that otherwise you'll be so consummed in whats happened and continue to dwell on that and it'll bring you even more down.
maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you're feeling, it might help getting things off your chest. or write down your thoughts even. have a little screaming fit (i tried that and apart from losing your voice a bit, it works wonders!! lol) playing/listening to music helps too.. i dunno thats what i tried
who says its not normal for guys to have mood swings? rubbish! of course they do, and dont think you're "abnormal" for having them. everything happens for a reason and you've got a reason for being depressed. you just have to say to yourself, whats happened, happened. time to move on and focus on the present and the future. its incredibly tough i know bt you have to do that otherwise you'll be so consummed in whats happened and continue to dwell on that and it'll bring you even more down.
maybe try speaking to someone you trust about how you're feeling, it might help getting things off your chest. or write down your thoughts even. have a little screaming fit (i tried that and apart from losing your voice a bit, it works wonders!! lol) playing/listening to music helps too.. i dunno thats what i tried
Reply 5
You are all nasty moronic dweebs... - lol... bet your self-esteem's rubbish now...
awwww...
That was mean...
Actually. I think you are confused about yourself. You just need to remember, the only person whose opinion matters is your own. And everyone is special and so should have no reason to low in themselves... counselling will help you realise this to an extent, but really what you need to do is get selfish.
Honestly, most people who get l-e are often too focussed on what others think and doing things for others.
awwww...
That was mean...Actually. I think you are confused about yourself. You just need to remember, the only person whose opinion matters is your own. And everyone is special and so should have no reason to low in themselves... counselling will help you realise this to an extent, but really what you need to do is get selfish.
Honestly, most people who get l-e are often too focussed on what others think and doing things for others.
hmmm thanks for your reply... but the difference is that you're a girl, i'm a guy... it's kinda seen as not normal for a guy to get these kinda mood-swings.... from a girl, its expected....
What a sexist remark lol.
To some extend this kind of mood swings are normal and expected in teenagers (of both sexes). I personaly think that there is nothing wrong with you. Probably stress from the exam coupled with a crush on that girl give you those feelings. Work through them, try to notice exactly when you start to get low, what it is trigered by and if you can do anything about it. Go out, before exams you need chill out time more then ever. You can quote me on this one to your parents. I got 4As in my A levels so I guess I know how to revise. It is all about healthy balance.
i know this is laughable and weak...
I am not attempting to analyse you as I am not competent to do so but you seem to have this concept of weakness... It is natural for people to feel low from time to time. To alinate people and at the same time crave human contact. There is nothing weak about it. One of the reason people ran into trouble with themselves is becouse they think that if they are man they need to be strong all the time, bottle up their feelings etc. It is a cultural norm but it is not very healthy.
Reply 7
creamcrackered
You are all nasty moronic dweebs... - lol... bet your self-esteem's rubbish now...
awwww... That was mean...
Actually. I think you are confused about yourself. You just need to remember, the only person whose opinion matters is your own. And everyone is special and so should have no reason to low in themselves... counselling will help you realise this to an extent, but really what you need to do is get selfish.
Honestly, most people who get l-e are often too focussed on what others think and doing things for others.
awwww...
That was mean...Actually. I think you are confused about yourself. You just need to remember, the only person whose opinion matters is your own. And everyone is special and so should have no reason to low in themselves... counselling will help you realise this to an extent, but really what you need to do is get selfish.
Honestly, most people who get l-e are often too focussed on what others think and doing things for others.
hmm, for me its not really a problem about what others think about me, it's more of a problem of how SOME people behave around me... mind you, this is just a small group of people (the girls i had a fight with)... and even though they dont do so intentionally, they put me in a bad mood every time i think about them ...(hope i'm making sense here)
and the other girl i have crush on... when she talks to me, i feel in a good mood... when she talks to others and ignores me, it kills my mood... i'm usually NOT like this with other girls...i can flirt and be playful with any girl...even make a move if i want to (not at the moment coz i'm focussing on my exams)... even when i like some other girl, i wouldnt as much give a rat's ass if she thinks bad about me... but in this girl's case, it seems like what she thinks about me DOES matter... i have NO idea why.... i hate it...
and i have a bad feeling she's on TSR and she's reading this post, and even though it's anon, she knows who i am from context...
Reply 8
CORRECTION: they put me in a bad mood every time i think about them or see them...
Reply 9
It happens with me, but only because I feel self-concious at times.
Reply 10
jaydoh
It happens with me, but only because I feel self-concious at times.
hmm... i never really feel self-concious... i jus feel...bad...
i've tried self-harm before, it just made the situation worse
Does anyone ever go into like a mood thing which consists of anxiety/feeling as though your ill and trapped? I get this dull annoying feeling in my chest. Its horrible. It comes on and off all day (for quite a few days)
To the OP don't worry about being a guy who has mood swings as most people think of each gender as equal in this respect - if that made sense.
To the OP don't worry about being a guy who has mood swings as most people think of each gender as equal in this respect - if that made sense.
alio~
Does anyone ever go into like a mood thing which consists of anxiety/feeling as though your ill and trapped? I get this dull annoying feeling in my chest. Its horrible. It comes on and off all day (for quite a few days)
To the OP don't worry about being a guy who has mood swings as most people think of each gender as equal in this respect - if that made sense.
To the OP don't worry about being a guy who has mood swings as most people think of each gender as equal in this respect - if that made sense.
hmmm i do at times...but its usually when i'm expecting something horrible to happen...that's DIFFERENT from nervousness, btw...
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