Jealous

Right this is going to sound like the most stupid problem ever! But hey ho.

My boyfriend and I are happy, living together etc.
The other day, he was clearing out some stuff and i saw an engagement card (congratulations etc) - i asked who's it was, and he looked a bit shifty... in the end i found out that he asked his ex to marry him on her 18th birthday in Ibiza.

Ok... so first i'm completely jealous. They'd been together just over a year when he decided to make that commitment, and they even started planning the wedding! They broke up about 6 months later.

I've been with him for nearly 2 years now, and he hasnt asked me to marry him! lol - i'm not saying i desperately want him to... i mean, i dont want to get married any time soon heh, but since we've been together longer, am i right to feel jealous and inadequate compared to his ex.

Reply 1

Talon

18

Have you considered the possibility that he think it was a mistake to ask her to marry him after that amount of time. so he wants to wait longer with you?

Plus you dont want to get married yet, so you cant complain. Lol.

Reply 2

Happy1

OP

14

yes i know tht - i mean, the fact that they broke up means it was obviously a mistake lol.,

i just never realised he was so serious about her - he seems a lot less serious with me lol!

Blah... dunno why i posted really - i guess im still peeved that i never knew

Reply 3

Miss.P

13

He was young back then, now he's older and more wiser! :p:

He probally wasn't thinking back then, which shows as he broke up with her 6 months later. So he probaly wants to take things slowly now. Don't worry about it :smile:

Reply 4

so_this_is_sam

3

No way, when he proposed to his ex it obviously didnt work out which has probably made him feel like he needs to be much much clearer about what he wants before popping the question. How disappointing it would be for him if he asked you to marry him, you started planning the wedding and then suddenly it didnt work out? He wld have to deal with the fact that he wasnt ready for marriage yet again. His feelings for you are obviously strong, because he's living with you and been with you for two years! His pride was probably hurt previously and he doesnt want to risk all that again. Im sure he will ask when he feels ready, he's probably just biding his time, waiting for that moment when he feels it is completely right. Just carry on with your life as you have until that day, or he will notice somethin is wrong and it could cause much bigger problems than it needs too! x

Reply 5

pikaboo

13

I can understand why you feel like that...but you have to bear in mind he was probably young and foolish when he proposed the first time round and maybe this time he's doing the sensible thing by waiting longer. You could even look at it in a positive way - he wants to make sure he gets it right with you and go about things more slowly because he doesn't want things to screw up the way it did with his ex. Hope you feel better about it soon :smile:

Reply 6

louby-loo

i've just looked on your my space and your only 18! you shouldn't be wishing ur life away like that. you've got plenty of time to get married. that probably be what made him not want to get married in the first place. the fear of been with the same person at a young age forever. i've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and although i think about marrying him someday. its not crossed my mind in the near future! x

Reply 7

Happy1

OP

14

louby-loo

i've just looked on your my space and your only 18! you shouldn't be wishing ur life away like that. you've got plenty of time to get married. that probably be what made him not want to get married in the first place. the fear of been with the same person at a young age forever. i've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and although i think about marrying him someday. its not crossed my mind in the near future! x

Lol - no im not saying i WANT him to ask...i mean i really dont want to get married any tiome soon lol, but im just jealous.

Jealous

Related discussions

Articles for you