Is he, or isnt he...?

My boyfriend says hes a virgin, like me, but we have dry sex, he goes into MAJOR detail about what we would do if we were having real sex. Should i be worried, or is he just wacthing WAY to much porn...?

Reply 1

shinyhappy

I guess it depends on how much you know about his past, and previous girlfriends, as to whether you know if he's slept with someone before. If you think he might be lying, he might have his reasons, like not wanting to freak you out. However, don't let him use it to put pressure on you, make sure you wait until it feels right!
And to be honest, if he's just a normal teenage lad, its quite likely that he's just got a brilliant knowledge of porn movies! My boyfriend was 19 when we started going out, I was his first proper girlfriend, and he had always been quite shy. Despite this, he still had loads of ideas and fantasies that he wanted to try out, based on the porn he'd seen! XD

whats dry sex?

I think it may be porn, i just dont really know, hes my first proper boyfriend. he said he wacthed porn, and that the most he has done with a girl is oral. Thats when i had my doubts. (FYI Hes 20)

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

antics

whats dry sex?

We just lie together kissing, touching each other through our clothes, making sex-like movements.

Reply 5

jd27

We live in a society where vast quantities of knowledge about sex is easily accessed, so it's hardly surprising that the boy has ideas.

I agree with jd27

Anonymous

We just lie together kissing, touching each other through our clothes, making sex-like movements.

sounds like fun, can I play?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

serious narb

sounds like fun, can I play?

Hey it is fun, and afterwards we just lie there together talking. But the point is, does he know TOO much foe a 'virgin'

Reply 9

serious narb

Anonymous

Hey it is fun, and afterwards we just lie there together talking. But the point is, does he know TOO much foe a 'virgin'

nah, like everyone has said sex knowledge is pretty easy to access really, whether it's porn, internet or talk from friends etc. Bound to pick up stuff on the way really

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

But still, the amount of detail he goes into...My guy mates agree that its suspisious. (They may just be trying to cover up how muckthey know about sex. most of them are very shy when it comes to this topic.)

Reply 11

Tyler Durden

One can become an expert on Renaissance art without ever going to Italy.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Yeah, i guess he could become an expert on sex, without ever having it. Next time im in his room, ill have a look under his bed, im sure to find a load of porn there. ( i only know this because he wont let his mother clean there, he says he keeps his Uni stuff under there ad n that he has it so he knows how to get to what, but he doesnt have that many books.)

Reply 13

coldfish

...does it really matter?

Reply 14

sssh

coldfish

...does it really matter?

Exactly what I was going to say.

Reply 15

wendizzle22

If there are no other reasons why or indications that he would be lying, I'm sure he has just gained it from a combination of innate sexuality, magazines, word of mouth, TV etc...
Way before I lost my virginity I'd compose intricate fantasies, which turned out to be pretty similar to real sex. I think it's partly just instinctively knowing what happens, plus the shedload of girly magazines I read ('More' sex position of the week, Cosmopolitan's sex tips at age 11!)
I wouldn't worry, at least you know that once you do have sex with him, it won't be boring and haphazard.

EDIT: even if he does look at porn, it doesn't make him sick or weird or anything, the curiosity is just a normal part of sexuality.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

coldfish

...does it really matter?

Of course it matters, even though ive been convinced hes telling the truth, if he wasnt he would be LYING to me, thats not exactally great for a relationship.