the "where is this going?" talk

Ok, here's my situation. I'll explain the little details cos it's slightly odd I suppose. Skip to the end if you can't be bothered.

I fancied this guy on the bus for absolutely YEARS. The classic thing, I didn't think he knew I existed, etc. Then that summer, once he'd left school (he's the year above me) we kept seeing each other everywhere and ended up kissing and having a bit of a thing, was all rather romantic actually. We got on really well but unfortunately his dad was dying of cancer at the time, and he didn't want to start anything. So we left it, and he understandably went a bit weird and we didn't speak for quite a long time.

Nearly 2 years later, we've both had long term relationships but have ended up together again, after a lot of conversation/flirting on msn while we were at uni. I have seen him 3 times and we've been having sex from very early on - it sort of shocked me cos I'm very into waiting to do that sort of thing, but I felt we were already so close. We talk loads and everything, but I can't read him. He is a shy and quiet guy usually, I am not sure what he wants. He's affectionate but I guess I don't totally trust him yet. I really like him though and really don't want to be used.

Summary for people that didn't bother reading that: we got together in the past, are now seeing each other again... at what point do you think it is wise to have "the talk"? It's pretty cringeworthy but I'd quite like to know what's going on. However, I don't want to appear clingy, nagging and generally a bit obsessive. Which I guess I already seem from the content of this post. But yes, ADVICE please!

Reply 1

Refused

I was expecting this to be about something else :frown:

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I think when you feel comfortable about it, that should be the time. But you must have an idea where the relationship is going?

Reply 2

Daragh

I would give him the talk, but not quite now. Just tell him that you want to know where you stand in his eyes.

Obviously, if his dad's anniversary is coming up, avoid giving the talk.