Whats a gentle way of telling someone they really need to lose some weight? Watch

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So i know a couple of people who are overweight, but one in particular is a problem. She is very obese, and the worst thing is she realises it. For example she was tagged in a bunch of photos from a holiday she just went on in an album of hundreds she only allowed herself to be tagged in a handful. She won't let anyone see the others, but the ones she is tagged in are all shots that mostly hide her body; long shots etc. She is clearly ashamed of herself but does nothing to deal with it.

She doesn't exercise and eats crap daily (she has visibly got worse in the past year as well). Also she does the almost stereotypical fat person thing of not wanting to date anyone else who is fat because they are unattractive.

So basically what is a nice way to get the message across that she needs to change her diet immediately? Honestly I wouldn't care if she hates me, just so long as she changes her ways.
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She knows she's fat, and knows that she'll have to change her lifestyle to alter that. Telling her that you've noticed she's fat is not going to solve her problem.
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"Let's go to the gym sometime"
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At the risk of sounding like a bit of a prat, what does it actually have to do with you? Does this person being fat have a serious impact on your life?
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I probably would have respected the sentiments of this thread a lot more if they had been more about possible concerns for your friend's health (health forum that this is) rather than an apparent attitude of disgust that she "doesn't exercise" and "eats crap", not to mention that you've labelled her as a "fat person" because of an apparent allusion to a stereotype that I've personally never heard of.

The Facebook thing of untagging from unattractive photos is something that most people do, as far as I'm aware.... hell, I know that I do! So I'd hesitate to label that as an obvious sign that she's "ashamed of herself".

I think that the first thing that you need to do is have a conversation with her about how she does feel about her weight, rather than leaping straight in there with trying to convince her to change the way she is.
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(Original post by amison)
At the risk of sounding like a bit of a prat, what does it actually have to do with you? Does this person being fat have a serious impact on your life?
Perhaps a little something called empathy?
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Book three tickets when you go to the cinema.
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(Original post by Vazzyb)
Book three tickets when you go to the cinema.
This^
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(Original post by Vazzyb)
Book three tickets when you go to the cinema.
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tell them to eat some dust

call them fatty fatty fat fat
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(Original post by betty bungle)
tell them to eat some dust

call them fatty fatty fat fat
or Tubby McFatFat
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It's really none of your business.
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(Original post by Pinkhead)
Perhaps a little something called empathy?
I understand entirely that it's not easy to have an individual in your life who is, quite frankly, eating themselves to death. From reading the OP, however, I'm struggling to sympathise with the poster too much. I'm not too comfortable with the fact that they refer to this person as a 'problem' and insist that the person needs to change their ways of eating 'immediately.' It appears as though the OP is purely concerned with the way they view the individual, rather than what the individual wants for themselves: to me, it seems that the problem is less that the individual is ashamed of themselves, much more likely that the OP is ashamed of the individual. Yes, it is ridiculous that people nowadays are just ballooning to ridiculous sizes and change does need to occur. But forcing someone to change when they're not willing to or just because you don't like their Facebook photos? Waste of time, energy and effort from the OP.
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Perhaps a little something called empathy?
that doesn't make sense!
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It seems a little pointless to tell her, since she clearly already realises.
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If you don't get it, don't neg, don't look at it unless you've watched How I Met Your Mother, and this particular episode about a particular book :P






Its from How I Met Your Mother :P!
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Hey, You'd look great in a size 10
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(Original post by jimbo139)
She knows she's fat, and knows that she'll have to change her lifestyle to alter that. Telling her that you've noticed she's fat is not going to solve her problem.
This. She's already aware, why point out the obvious?...
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