To the women of TSR, here's an interesting hypothetical question for you....
It's my observation that women hardly ever approach men. If men want to get laid or get a girlfriend, they have to approach women and initiate things.
So, the question: If all men in society stopped approaching women, would you start approaching men? Or would you just not bother with men?
Why is it that the man is always expected to be the one to approach and start the conversation? As a woman, don't you ever take it upon yourself to ever make a move on someone you think is attractive? I mean, if we men didn't approach you, nobody would ever hook up.
Personally, I love approaching men! I find that a lot of men that approach me are sleazy and creepy, so I figure it's better for me to approach men that look normal, for one, and that I find attractive. It tends to go down well; I guess it's a confidence boost for guys to have a woman coming onto them...
Well I've never been approached - I did try approaching guys and asking them out, but it was nothing more than an exercise in futility. On the other hand, I don't think I've ever seen such fast metaphorical back-pedalling.
The perception that only men approach women is probably because men don't have much preference with who they have sex with - and what are most men approaching women for? They don't instantly have long-term compatability in mind, that takes more time.
Whereas most women, I think, have the idea of a relationship and connection in mind, before sex. So instantly a woman is setting the bar pretty high, and will be limiting those men she may want to approach. That of course shows that it's not that a woman won't ever approach a man, it's just she's less likely to find those she may want to approach.
If I personally find a guy attractive in several senses - looks, charisma, humour, whatever - I would be happy to take the opportunity to take that further.