Tips For Letting Go of Someone???

Basically, the question is, how do you let go of someone?

One of my two best friends seems to have lost interest in me. (I think he just says I’m one of his best friends because he thinks it’s what I want to hear). No matter what I try to do, he’s just not interested in me or our friendship anymore. This has been going on now for a few months. We are in different cities for uni.

I got an e-mail recently, indicating he wanted to say goodbye, call it quits. But didn’t say that in so many words, it was just implied. He’s back from uni this weekend, and we’ve not even mentioned it or meeting up at all (though I did say a few weeks back that I might be busy). I’ve tried so hard to stay friends, but I don’t think he’s interested at all.

I feel so used, as this week I’ve been helping him with a problem with his taxes, but once that’s done, he doesn’t want to know. So I’m giving up – not that I want to, I really, really, really don’t want to, he’s the bestist friend I’ve ever had, I think more of him than my own brother, it’s just that I keep hoping for something positive to happen, and it never does. He never initiates contact with me, never replies to e-mails, but used to… now nothing.

However, without some kind closure, I can’t let go. I’ve never had to do this before. I’ve been trying to do so for weeks now, and it’s bothering me all the time. I’ve tried keeping myself busy and doing things to keep me distracted, but it doesn’t work. I always end up obsessing over this.

Anyone got any tips on successfully letting go of someone and moving on? :confused:

Reply 1

gideon2000uk

It's very simple. You need to communicate to him all of your feelings and concerns, tell him how much you care for him and be utterly truthful about your relationship. Getting everything out in the open will cut through all of the ******** and you'll be able to see if there is any foundation for your relationship.

Reply 2

Redefined

Are you a guy?

Reply 3

starya

law:portal

Are you a guy?

Hilarious! My thoughts also.
Either way, he's definitely got a point. Do what this guy said. If he's your best friend you *should* be able to talk about what's bothering you.

Reply 4

Hana_87

Talk to him and tell him what you've just told us!

Reply 5

Redefined

Really...are you a guy or a girl? Cause the type of advice would differ somewhat.

Reply 6

=Keith=

I guess hes a guy
Something similar happened with me as well.. im a guy and i had a guy friend.. kind of a good mate we grew up together and we used to.. hang out a lot.. he helped me pick the right girl.. but suddenly he changed and.. i couldnt figure out wat was wrong with him.. so i stopped bothering him.. contacting him to hangout n stuff.. he didnt bother too.. and later he jus said he was down due to some family problems
So let go it.. dont go behind him too much.. or.. dont show him u care.. jus be free and normal.. if he wants to keep on the friendship.. hel come.. otherwise ignore it...