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Shy girls...is this a turn off for guys?

I've been meaning to find this out for ages and didnt know who 2 ask so i thought TSR might be able to help me out. Im 16 and in a sixth form school. Im really shy but once i get talking to someone that i know well i can be really loud and talkative, (Lol this might not make any sense). The point is that many guys at school talk to my mates but they wont talk to me. Do guys get put off by girls who dont chat alot at first or who seem really quiet? Oh and im not just talking about boys that i might like (well i am a bit), im mainly talking about guys as mates. And are their any other girls who are in similar situations?

It's a turn on.

Anonymous

It's a turn on.

lol

Reply 3

Ferrus

19

No, not really. I mean you may seem somewhat unapproachable to some because of your seeming aloofness but there will eventually be someone who will try to hit on you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

I am actually intrigued in finding out other peoples responses as I am in a similar position

Reply 5

LawQueen

14

Anonymous

I've been meaning to find this out for ages and didnt know who 2 ask so i thought TSR might be able to help me out. Im 16 and in a sixth form school. Im really shy but once i get talking to someone that i know well i can be really loud and talkative, (Lol this might not make any sense). The point is that many guys at school talk to my mates but they wont talk to me. Do guys get put off by girls who dont chat alot at first or who seem really quiet? Oh and im not just talking about boys that i might like (well i am a bit), im mainly talking about guys as mates. And are their any other girls who are in similar situations?

Put it this way. You'll be a MASSIVE turn on to the guy you're meant to be with :smile:

There's too many differences of opinion to make a blanket statement. By all means be happy but don't compromise your nature and character to be something your not. Then you'll only get second best in love and you deseve better!

Reply 6

Lola_in_Slacks

Anonymous

I've been meaning to find this out for ages and didnt know who 2 ask so i thought TSR might be able to help me out. Im 16 and in a sixth form school. Im really shy but once i get talking to someone that i know well i can be really loud and talkative, (Lol this might not make any sense). The point is that many guys at school talk to my mates but they wont talk to me. Do guys get put off by girls who dont chat alot at first or who seem really quiet? Oh and im not just talking about boys that i might like (well i am a bit), im mainly talking about guys as mates. And are their any other girls who are in similar situations?

I know exactly what you mean...
I'm like that too. I find that girls can generally talk to me more easily than boys for some reason, but a few talkative boys have had conversations with me. A few. Doesn't worry me too much though at the moment.

Reply 7

Krazi Dreamer

1

Ferrus

No, not really. I mean you may seem somewhat unapproachable to some because of your seeming aloofness but there will eventually be someone who will try to hit on you.

lol i hope so!

Reply 8

Ili

13

Anonymous

It's a turn on.

i don't think so although my opinion won't be that reliable since i'm a girl myself. but then again, i'm one of the most "shyest" and "quietest" in my grade, so i guess you can take that into account. *shrugs* i'm really not best at answering this question as i'm wondering myself if "shy girls [are] a turn off for guys."

Reply 9

Anonymous #4

Ok, I'm not sure shy is the right word, but I suppose I don't initiate conversation with people that much. If they start talking to me, then I'm fine about it and quite chatty.
A couple of people have said they find my quietness "intimidating", and they wouldn't approach me if they didn't know me, since I looked like the type who'd reject them....and boys don't like rejection.
I don't think it should be a huge problem, I mean your shyness obviously does limit the number of people you talk to or become close to, but ultimately most people will be willing to see past that. Even if I'm quiet, I get plenty of male attention, I'm almost 20 now, but at 16 most boys preferred the loud, very confident girls, so I didn't get it so much.Honestly, it does improve as you get older, purely for the fact that most people are more mature, and they won't see your shyness as a barrier.

no.

OP

4st_7lb

I know exactly what you mean...
I'm like that too. I find that girls can generally talk to me more easily than boys for some reason, but a few talkative boys have had conversations with me. A few. Doesn't worry me too much though at the moment.

Yea i talk to alot more girls than guys too and i try not 2 make a big deal out of it but my mind just starts wondering and thinking....

Reply 12

Eien

16

I find shy girls very attractive, because I am shy myself. I often do not judge a shy or quiet girl as unapproachable, because I know personally how shyness can often hide a completely different (and often great) personality. If there is a shy girl sitting on her own, I will always feel the need to give her company (not in sympathy, but just for somebody to talk to her), and my experiences have generally been positive.

Reply 13

Redefined

13

Well for me, it is not a turn off as long as you show some sort of interest in the conversation. I don't like those blushy, giggly girls.

Reply 14

80s Love Child!

I'm a shy guy. I prefer shy girls than loud girls. It's like there's a mystery in you that people are eager to know you more. Based on my experience, most of shy people I know have absolutely great personalities...

It doesn't mean you're shy because you're unapproachable, but we just lack social skills...and it can be improved! :smile:

Reply 15

Ili

13

PrincE MarkuS

"...lack social skills...and it can be improved!

lol