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What do I do?

Okay so like I dont know what to do!

I posted about this kinda before, but things have changed.

Basically, my ex and I had just moved in together when he decided that he wanted to be with someone else. I totally thought my heart was broken etc etc and he ran off with the girl he met on the internet.
She dumped him and he's come running back.

Meanwhile, I spent ages feeling like crap because I wasnt good enough for him, but met the most amazing guy who I really really like but who moved to a different country within 2 weeks of us starting a relationship. Obviously things with him are going to be difficult.

Thing is, Im not sure I should be with other country guy - Ive still got mega feeligns for my ex, but I dont know whether to believe him.

He says he never loved her, he was just scared that we were moving too fast and that he was scared by how much he loves me and that now he's realised how important I am he wants me back, he wants marriage and kids and everything.

I just find it really hard to believe bceause if he loved me that mcuh he wouldnt have ran off with the skank. But on the other side he didnt sleep with her or anything.

Also, Othercountryguy is such a much better bet, he's financially more secure, he's going to uni, he's waay smarter and better looking, but he isnt my ex and i dont love him - but thats probably because I havent got history with him, and maybe i should give it a chance.

Ugh this is so long but I really dont know how to choose. I guess maybe if I have to choose neither of them is right? And I dont want to hurt anyone. I just want whats right for everyone and I cant see what it is!
If your instincts tell you not to trust you ex then don't. There's nothing to stop him buggering off at the first opportunity. As for the other guy, only get with him if you actually want to (not just because you don't want to be single). It might be a better idea to let a bit of time pass first.
Reply 2
FYI financial security isnt the main thing you should be looking for in a guy. Lol. If you think you can trust your ex then fine, get back with him. If you cant there is no point. Also remember these two guys arent the only fish in the sea.
Reply 3
Financial security is only important in that with my ex if we got back together he wants the whole married with children thing.

Whcih is totally what I want and I DID want to be iwth him together, and cant imagine not having him totally as my whole life but like Im scared he doesnt want me he just wants someone.

It jsut seems like he's got nothing else on in his life - unemployed, being chucked out of home, no real mates since he moved to london and he just wants a girl to prove something.

Meh. I guess there a plenty of fish in the sea but I dont really want any other fishes.


Having said that, as soon as I typed everything out it seems really obvious. Overseasguy is totally amazing. My ex has been nothing but a cock to me. Im an idiot! But thanks for y'all helping!