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Tattoo - tell parents?
I got two "cosmetic" tattoos. Apparently they wear off (like semi-permanent make up). Anyway. My parents know about one, and they agreed to it, and I got it done about two years ago. About a year ago I got it touched up and on the spur of the moment got another one done on my ankle. It's quite small, and I can hide it with socks. I didn't tell my parents about it, and being away at uni they didn't really get a chance to see it.
However I'm feeling guilty about them not knowing. I got my cartilage pierced around that time and my mum noticed it over the holidays and was a bit annoyed but didn't shout at me or ground me or anything. I feel like I should tell her. But... how do I go about it? She doesn't like the tattoo I have, and I'm planning on having it (and the other one) removed.
The way I see it I have a couple of options:
1. Tell her, get a *******ing and have her dislike me for a while.
2. Tell her at the end of the holidays when I go back to uni and she won't be there to eminate her disapproval.
3. Don't tell her and get it removed when I get the other one removed... and she'll never know.
I have no idea why but I'm feeling really guilty about it, I really don't know why, she was talking to me and I felt like I was keeping a big secret from her. She'd be pissed off, but it's my body, and there's not much she can do.
Please people, vote in the poll, and if you think I should tell her, please suggest ways.
One way I thought of was "look mum, you're gonna kill me, but I got another tattoo done last time I got it touched up, and I want to get it removed over the summer."
Any help much appreciated, and anyone who has been in the same situation please help!
However I'm feeling guilty about them not knowing. I got my cartilage pierced around that time and my mum noticed it over the holidays and was a bit annoyed but didn't shout at me or ground me or anything. I feel like I should tell her. But... how do I go about it? She doesn't like the tattoo I have, and I'm planning on having it (and the other one) removed.
The way I see it I have a couple of options:
1. Tell her, get a *******ing and have her dislike me for a while.
2. Tell her at the end of the holidays when I go back to uni and she won't be there to eminate her disapproval.
3. Don't tell her and get it removed when I get the other one removed... and she'll never know.
I have no idea why but I'm feeling really guilty about it, I really don't know why, she was talking to me and I felt like I was keeping a big secret from her. She'd be pissed off, but it's my body, and there's not much she can do.
Please people, vote in the poll, and if you think I should tell her, please suggest ways.
One way I thought of was "look mum, you're gonna kill me, but I got another tattoo done last time I got it touched up, and I want to get it removed over the summer."
Any help much appreciated, and anyone who has been in the same situation please help!
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Okay, can't do a poll as anonymous, so please just tell me which option you think is best... thanks 
Err, you're an adult; what your parents think is irrelevant.
Yeah, I agree. I've heard cosmetic tattooing sort of.. disintergrates and looks all bitty. Might as well go the whole deal, if you're going to do it. It would depend on what the tattoo was as to if I'd show my parents or not..
I realised they're crappy afterwards. They wear off which is the point! It is of a music note.
I am not even a teenager any more so yes, it's my body, but I am under my parent's roof and I feel bad.
I am not even a teenager any more so yes, it's my body, but I am under my parent's roof and I feel bad.
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I realised they're crappy afterwards. They wear off which is the point! It is of a music note.
I am not even a teenager any more so yes, it's my body, but I am under my parent's roof and I feel bad.
I am not even a teenager any more so yes, it's my body, but I am under my parent's roof and I feel bad.
Argh! Forget your bloody parents, they don't matter. Do what you bloody well want, jesus.
Haha, yeah. It's amazing what you can feel guilty about when you've had the right education. I think when my first tattoo comes, my parents would be the first people I show it to you, just to get rid of that guilt, long-sleeves in the winter, etc.
Slightly confused by your post..you refer to your tattoos as 'cosmetic', which would mean permanent lipliner/eyeliner..etc and then you say the 2nd one is on your ankle. Surely if it's on your ankle it is just a regular tattoo?!
As for the semi-permanent thing, whoever told you that was lying through their teeth. There is no such thing as a semi permanent tattoo. When you put tattoo ink under the skin it stays there. The usual story I've heard is 1) They use a special type of ink 2) They don't tattoo as deep into the skin. Well 1) would be great if this magical ink existed, but there is no ink that fades away after a predetermined length of time. 2) would mean tattooing the top layer of the epidermis, rather than the 2nd layer as in a regular tattoo, which would take surgical, if not magical precision. This tattoo would soon start to fade but not evenly and not completely. You'd be left with splotchy bits of a tattoo. If someone in a tattoo shop tells you they can do a semi-permanent tattoo for you then get out of there because they don't know what they are talking about!
Anyway on to the problem you mentioned with telling your parents. I understand where you are coming from. I'm 21 and have 2 tattoos and I'm embarking on a larger piece for my back at the moment. Despite my age and independance from my folks I wouldn't exactly enjoy sitting them down to tell them about my tatts either. I'm old enough to decide on these things for myself so I consider it to not really be their concern. I won't try to conceal anything from my mom & dad on the rare occasions I am visiting home, but because I know neither of them likes tattoos I won't go waving mine in their faces either!
One thing I'd like to know is why do you want to have both tattoos removed? Is it for yourself or for your mom? If you no longer like your tattoo or feel it doesn't suit you then you could consider getting a cover-up piece done. If you get a good tattoo artist they can turn a crappy little thing into a beautiful piece of art that you will be proud to have on your body.
Laser tattoo removal is extremely expensive and time consuming. You can't just go and have them blasted off in one sitting. It takes repeat visits and then you get different rates of fading if you have coloured inks in your tattoo.
You need to take the time to think what you want. It's your skin and ultimately your decision. Stop worrying about your mom finding out and figure out what you want to do. As you've discovered spur of the moment decisions aren't usually good ones so take the time to consider your options, do some research and make an informed decision.
As for the semi-permanent thing, whoever told you that was lying through their teeth. There is no such thing as a semi permanent tattoo. When you put tattoo ink under the skin it stays there. The usual story I've heard is 1) They use a special type of ink 2) They don't tattoo as deep into the skin. Well 1) would be great if this magical ink existed, but there is no ink that fades away after a predetermined length of time. 2) would mean tattooing the top layer of the epidermis, rather than the 2nd layer as in a regular tattoo, which would take surgical, if not magical precision. This tattoo would soon start to fade but not evenly and not completely. You'd be left with splotchy bits of a tattoo. If someone in a tattoo shop tells you they can do a semi-permanent tattoo for you then get out of there because they don't know what they are talking about!
Anyway on to the problem you mentioned with telling your parents. I understand where you are coming from. I'm 21 and have 2 tattoos and I'm embarking on a larger piece for my back at the moment. Despite my age and independance from my folks I wouldn't exactly enjoy sitting them down to tell them about my tatts either. I'm old enough to decide on these things for myself so I consider it to not really be their concern. I won't try to conceal anything from my mom & dad on the rare occasions I am visiting home, but because I know neither of them likes tattoos I won't go waving mine in their faces either!
One thing I'd like to know is why do you want to have both tattoos removed? Is it for yourself or for your mom? If you no longer like your tattoo or feel it doesn't suit you then you could consider getting a cover-up piece done. If you get a good tattoo artist they can turn a crappy little thing into a beautiful piece of art that you will be proud to have on your body.
Laser tattoo removal is extremely expensive and time consuming. You can't just go and have them blasted off in one sitting. It takes repeat visits and then you get different rates of fading if you have coloured inks in your tattoo.
You need to take the time to think what you want. It's your skin and ultimately your decision. Stop worrying about your mom finding out and figure out what you want to do. As you've discovered spur of the moment decisions aren't usually good ones so take the time to consider your options, do some research and make an informed decision.
Anonymous
I got two "cosmetic" tattoos. Apparently they wear off (like semi-permanent make up). Anyway. My parents know about one, and they agreed to it, and I got it done about two years ago. About a year ago I got it touched up and on the spur of the moment got another one done on my ankle. It's quite small, and I can hide it with socks. I didn't tell my parents about it, and being away at uni they didn't really get a chance to see it.
However I'm feeling guilty about them not knowing. I got my cartilage pierced around that time and my mum noticed it over the holidays and was a bit annoyed but didn't shout at me or ground me or anything. I feel like I should tell her. But... how do I go about it? She doesn't like the tattoo I have, and I'm planning on having it (and the other one) removed.
The way I see it I have a couple of options:
1. Tell her, get a *******ing and have her dislike me for a while.
2. Tell her at the end of the holidays when I go back to uni and she won't be there to eminate her disapproval.
3. Don't tell her and get it removed when I get the other one removed... and she'll never know.
I have no idea why but I'm feeling really guilty about it, I really don't know why, she was talking to me and I felt like I was keeping a big secret from her. She'd be pissed off, but it's my body, and there's not much she can do.
Please people, vote in the poll, and if you think I should tell her, please suggest ways.
One way I thought of was "look mum, you're gonna kill me, but I got another tattoo done last time I got it touched up, and I want to get it removed over the summer."
Any help much appreciated, and anyone who has been in the same situation please help!
However I'm feeling guilty about them not knowing. I got my cartilage pierced around that time and my mum noticed it over the holidays and was a bit annoyed but didn't shout at me or ground me or anything. I feel like I should tell her. But... how do I go about it? She doesn't like the tattoo I have, and I'm planning on having it (and the other one) removed.
The way I see it I have a couple of options:
1. Tell her, get a *******ing and have her dislike me for a while.
2. Tell her at the end of the holidays when I go back to uni and she won't be there to eminate her disapproval.
3. Don't tell her and get it removed when I get the other one removed... and she'll never know.
I have no idea why but I'm feeling really guilty about it, I really don't know why, she was talking to me and I felt like I was keeping a big secret from her. She'd be pissed off, but it's my body, and there's not much she can do.
Please people, vote in the poll, and if you think I should tell her, please suggest ways.
One way I thought of was "look mum, you're gonna kill me, but I got another tattoo done last time I got it touched up, and I want to get it removed over the summer."
Any help much appreciated, and anyone who has been in the same situation please help!
i'd say tell her because she's going to get stressed whatveer happens, and she WILL eventually see it, speaking from experience there!x
I would come clean, just from personal experience.
I instantly told my mum, as she always found my piercings... When my grandparents found out about my 2 tattoos, they didn't speak to me for a week........
It's best to be honest, even if you are an adult, it saves lot of grief
I instantly told my mum, as she always found my piercings... When my grandparents found out about my 2 tattoos, they didn't speak to me for a week........
It's best to be honest, even if you are an adult, it saves lot of grief
I don't see why having some ink on you would cause a long term feud or winter of ignorance between you and your parents. It's a bit dramatic. Besides, it's not their decision to make.
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