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would i get into trouble if i....
if i told someone in a position of authority/power that i liked him?
cos well i know he doesnt like me back but i have to forget about him.
would telling him help me get something off my shoulders and help me move on?
cos i feel like telling him would help me go on to the next step in terms of moving on. but its not appropriate to fancy someone in a position of power and he might have to report it.
what do you think?
cos well i know he doesnt like me back but i have to forget about him.
would telling him help me get something off my shoulders and help me move on?
cos i feel like telling him would help me go on to the next step in terms of moving on. but its not appropriate to fancy someone in a position of power and he might have to report it.
what do you think?
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Reply 1
I have a feeling your talking about a teacher here and in which case dont do anything.....leave it.
Reply 2
15
Don't do it. If you like him, then don't put him in that position where he feels uncomfortable in his place of work.
Reply 3
18
NOOOOO!!! dont tell him! he'll lose his job if he likes you, and it'll be awkward if he doesny. just let it rest 
Reply 4
technically he won't loose his job if he likes you he'll only loose it if anyone finds out 
you could hint slightly and see what happens whats life without a little adventure
don't do anything you think you'll regret though
you could hint slightly and see what happens whats life without a little adventuredon't do anything you think you'll regret though
Reply 5
10
It depends. A girl at my school liked the (gay) music teacher a lot. It was common knowledge but because he's cool he didn;t make a big deal about it. When she left she had a huge chat with him and was able to set some stuff straight in her head which I think helped her get over him.
Only talk to them if you think they can handle it well. Obviously if you like them you'll probably know them well enough to guess how they'd react, but don't do anything you'll regret, especially if it's someone you have a lot of contact with, rather than an obscure figure.
It depends on who the authority figure is as to how much you should act on your feelings (especially if they were mutual). If it's your boss you should go for it, if it's your teacher not so much, although I know that my school has found out about student/teacher affairs and dealt with it subtly.
Only talk to them if you think they can handle it well. Obviously if you like them you'll probably know them well enough to guess how they'd react, but don't do anything you'll regret, especially if it's someone you have a lot of contact with, rather than an obscure figure.
It depends on who the authority figure is as to how much you should act on your feelings (especially if they were mutual). If it's your boss you should go for it, if it's your teacher not so much, although I know that my school has found out about student/teacher affairs and dealt with it subtly.
Reply 6
ah i know exactly how you feel. i'm in the same exact position...i have an enormous crush on a teacher of mine. i don't know if it's a crush or if i'm actually in love with him...i just know that i've never felt this way about anyone before...anyway, back to the issue at hand - i agree with those who are telling you to not do anything about it right now...there might come a time and a place in the future in which your paths will cross again and it'll be the right circumstances for you to act on your feelings but, if your situation is at all like mine, that time isn't now.
just try to keep your feelings to yourself, no matter how hard that might be.
just try to keep your feelings to yourself, no matter how hard that might be.
Reply 7
Anonymous
ah i know exactly how you feel. i'm in the same exact position...i have an enormous crush on a teacher of mine. i don't know if it's a crush or if i'm actually in love with him...i just know that i've never felt this way about anyone before...anyway, back to the issue at hand - i agree with those who are telling you to not do anything about it right now...there might come a time and a place in the future in which your paths will cross again and it'll be the right circumstances for you to act on your feelings but, if your situation is at all like mine, that time isn't now.
just try to keep your feelings to yourself, no matter how hard that might be.
just try to keep your feelings to yourself, no matter how hard that might be.
its so hard to keep my feelings to myself, i really want to tell him cos i feel itll help me get over him. i know he doesnt feel the same way- hes married with kids anyway but im 100% sure he doesnt like me back. im sure he suspects i like him. but i feel like telling him (not making a move) cos well ill get over him quicker. when another person found out i liked him, and i knew he didnt like me back, i quickly got over him.
ive never felt this way about anyone before
Reply 8
Anonymous
its so hard to keep my feelings to myself, i really want to tell him cos i feel itll help me get over him. i know he doesnt feel the same way- hes married with kids anyway but im 100% sure he doesnt like me back. im sure he suspects i like him. but i feel like telling him (not making a move) cos well ill get over him quicker. when another person found out i liked him, and i knew he didnt like me back, i quickly got over him.
ive never felt this way about anyone before
ive never felt this way about anyone before
Some things are better left unsaid. Whatever you might think there really is no way of justifying telling him, and there really is no need. You seem fairly young, trust me you'll have the feeling of "ive never felt this way about anyone before" again, a lot of people get this feeling more than once in life, but having strong feelings for someone DOES NOT mean you should act upon them.
Reply 9
If you're talking about a teacher then I really don't suggest you tell him. First of all it's illegal and second it will probably make things akward between the pair of you. He's also married and it's not good to break up a marriage, or attempt to break it up and not only that but you said you're pretty sure he doesn't like you in that sense, telling him you like him will be pretty pointless and will almost definitely make you feel uncomfortable around him, around each other. I'd say move on.
Reply 10
yeah its prob not a good idea but i wouldnt mind talking to him. i rarely talk to him since he doesnt teach me anymore but i see him often ( i wonder why!) he says hello every now and then..he did on wednesday anyway but since he suspects and prob knows i like him do you think if i talk to him like normally he might constitute this as flirting and be 'stand offish'?
cos im not intenting to be flirting id just like to stay in contact if you know what i mean?
cos im not intenting to be flirting id just like to stay in contact if you know what i mean?
Reply 11
do you think itll be alright to talk to him even tho he knows i like him? but not in a flirty way.- just normal...lol
Reply 12
cos id rather talk to him than not at all
Reply 13
19
Anon 1 - he probably knows you like him as these things are very hard to hide even if you don't mention them. So don't embarrass yourself and him by doing anything more. Your problem sounds exactly like mine from 2 years ago. Mine found out eventually, because someone else who I didn't want to know about it found out and told him 
However, we managed to sort everything out and while I didn't gain a lover (he was/is married with kids too), I did gain a friend and we are still quite close friends 2 years on. Bottom line: if you act 'normally' (i.e. don't make a tit of yourself by telling him how you feel) then you will either gain a friend, or at least leave school on amicable terms. Hope that helps.
However, we managed to sort everything out and while I didn't gain a lover (he was/is married with kids too), I did gain a friend and we are still quite close friends 2 years on. Bottom line: if you act 'normally' (i.e. don't make a tit of yourself by telling him how you feel) then you will either gain a friend, or at least leave school on amicable terms. Hope that helps.
Reply 14
Angelil
Anon 1 - he probably knows you like him as these things are very hard to hide even if you don't mention them. So don't embarrass yourself and him by doing anything more. Your problem sounds exactly like mine from 2 years ago. Mine found out eventually, because someone else who I didn't want to know about it found out and told him
However, we managed to sort everything out and while I didn't gain a lover (he was/is married with kids too), I did gain a friend and we are still quite close friends 2 years on. Bottom line: if you act 'normally' (i.e. don't make a tit of yourself by telling him how you feel) then you will either gain a friend, or at least leave school on amicable terms. Hope that helps.
However, we managed to sort everything out and while I didn't gain a lover (he was/is married with kids too), I did gain a friend and we are still quite close friends 2 years on. Bottom line: if you act 'normally' (i.e. don't make a tit of yourself by telling him how you feel) then you will either gain a friend, or at least leave school on amicable terms. Hope that helps.
oh thanks! yeah i will try to act normally, yeah i dont think ill tell him how i feel but i would like it if me and him were friends and talked every now and then...we rarely talk but in the last 3 weeks or so weve had a few bumping intos which i kinda started lol... i asked him to come over to where i was and i showed him sumthin and i also went into his classroom for a few mins lol..and i purposely stood waiting for him in the hope he will pass and he did lol he was really funny...i know he doesnt like me back but do you think if hes been saying hello to me and being funny to me would show at least that hes being business like with me and does like me ( in a friends way) cos some teachers dont like some students if you know what i mean...i mean he doesnt like my brother.( long story) ..but if he must like me in a friends way cos he is at least talking to me...?
im really sorry im rambling!
Reply 15
what do you think about the above ?
Reply 16
19
Sounds OK to me, just make the accidental-on-purpose bumping intos look a bit more accidental 
Reply 17
ur absolutely right! ill try and make it look more accidental...! thanks
Reply 18
14
If this is a teacher, that would be a pretty silly thing to do. However, if its unlikely to cause huge problems for that guy, then g ahead. Cant hurt
Reply 19
well im now thinking of just being friends with him i was going to tell him how i feel but ive changed my mind. ive just got to get talking to him but i dont know how to...
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