I want a possessive boyfriend Watch
I haven't read 50 Shades of Grey actually. I just like the idea of a guy being jealous and possessive. Where can I find guys like this?
I am not happy about my change. It's not healthy but I think it's gone too far. The blame lies with her for all this.
Anyway that is weird..
they can be way too controlling.
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Depending on what you mean and the extent to which you mean jealous and controlling.. maybe you just want to feel needed and loved like you are the only girl in the world and wouldnt want them to want to live without you type of way
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To me, this is normal. Everyone wants different things. Correct me if I'm wrong though.
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I really want to meet a guy who will be possessive and controlling in our relationship. Is that weird?
Second, a bit of friendly well-meaning advice, if you meet a guy and get into BDSM with him, PLEASE, watch yourself and know your limits- make sure he does too.
Tips; Google it, learn the protocols and make sure you feel safe at all times.
If you're into kink agree a safeword ( a common thing is the traffic light system. if he tries to carry on with a 'scene'- basically anything other than making sure you're ok and calming you down if you're panicking- after you say your word technically, and legally, that's rape).
Define consent between you and make sure he knows you can pull out at anytime(just cos you said yes yesterday -ten minutes ago- doesn't mean you can't say no today -now-).
Remember "Safe,Sane,Consesual" is the cornerstone of all D/s relationships) and have a look for a "submissive bill of rights" or come up with your own you're both comfortable with.
Wanting controlling is one thing but I doubt you want to be abused and knowing what you will and won't stand for is a major part of that.
And if you do find yourself being abused by someone you trust ; WALK AWAY most of the leather community will back you 110% and any vanilla people out there will as well even if they don't really 'get' it.
Source: Google search a few years back when I was curious and a few of my friends have relationships like this. Please feel free to PM me if you need any advice or have any questions regarding what I've posted.
EDIT: I haven't read 50shades but I hear tell its worse than bad fanfiction and only slightly better than My Immortal and only cos all the names are right and the grammar and spelling have been checked like I said, haven't read it.... But I really hope no-one uses pulp fiction or fanfiction to learn about BDSM
Also I totally agree with the post below , you can't really be f*d up and twisted and "sane" in the sense most people take it as esp in BDSM (I know people who wouldn't "play" if someone was grieving cos they feel they're not at full capacity, capability, and would be distracted!) At the same time.
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The worst thing about 50 shades of grey is that it doesn't depict what a real BDSM relationship is like in the slightest. I feel for anyone silly enough to use it as some sort of guide.