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Meeting up for a drink...

OK I'm meeting up with this guy I met recently - I dont know him all that well, but he seems nice, and he suggested we meet up for a drink. (This isn't a date - I have a bf and he knows that). But I dont know what to suggest! A coffee, or meeting in a bar, or what? What do people normally do? I'm such a social ****** sometimes!

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Reply 1

Proceed with caution to somewhere open, perhaps Starbucks. Avoid alcohol the first time you meet him.. you never know what happens next, heh.

Reply 2

all a bit cliche but i guess if your just meeting as friends coffee is good. And even tho your just meeting as friends, let him pay if he offers. Men hate it when women 'insist'. Better tell your boyfriend too.

Reply 3

Alcohol mighttake the edge off the awkwardness a bit..

Reply 4

Yeah just for coffee somewhere, its nice and relaxed and doesnt have the alcohol element which is good if its purely platonic.

Yeah and definately tell your boyfriend; he trusts you but I'm sure he'd like to know.

Reply 5

Yeah and definately tell your boyfriend; he trusts you but I'm sure he'd like to know.


Excellent point. You don't want to forget this.

Reply 6

Oh, yes, my bf knows. he might even come along. And yes, avoiding alcohol is probably a good idea!

Reply 7

The point is theres no reason why men and women cant meet for a drink because they enjoy each others company, doesnt have to be romantic at all.. Just make sure he knows where he stands if he tries anything

Reply 8

adamu
The point is theres no reason why men and women cant meet for a drink because they enjoy each others company, doesnt have to be romantic at all.. Just make sure he knows where he stands if he tries anything


Here here

Reply 9

Markus Angelsdaughter
Here here


Gotta disagree with you agreeing on such a statement.

There is always going to be an underlying sexual feeling there, even if you aren't aware of it. Aslong as you aren't related of course.

Reply 10

Sithius
Gotta disagree with you agreeing on such a statement.

There is always going to be an underlying sexual feeling there, even if you aren't aware of it. Aslong as you aren't related of course.


Well yeah, there wouldnt be any other reason for a girl and guy getting together if there wasnt one thought in mind. First dates wise anyway

Reply 11

Ah here here.

Come Along Victor.

Reply 12

I have to disagree! i know girls that i am honestly purely friends with and just never think about in that way.. everything doesnt have to be sexually driven.

Reply 13

adamu
I have to disagree! i know girls that i am honestly purely friends with and just never think about in that way.. everything doesnt have to be sexually driven.


But when you first met, surely you didnt have ANY thoughts of a affectionate/sexual nature?

Im friends with females now that i dont have sexual feelings towards, wasnt necessarily the case right at the beginning when we met

Reply 14

Markus Angelsdaughter
But when you first met, surely you didnt have ANY thoughts of a affectionate/sexual nature?

Im friends with females now that i dont have sexual feelings towards, wasnt necessarily the case right at the beginning when we met


Nope, i used to be very good friends with this girl at high school who was very attractive but we were friends, i never looked at her in that way. I guess it depends on your perspective.

Reply 15

adamu
Nope, i used to be very good friends with this girl at high school who was very attractive but we were friends, i never looked at her in that way. I guess it depends on your perspective.


Yep, I'd argue that because you found her very attractive that there was something there :wink:. But then again you can make that conclusion on everyone you meet.."oo they're good looking" etc

Reply 16

Markus Angelsdaughter
Yep, I'd argue that because you found her very attractive that there was something there :wink:. But then again you can make that conclusion on everyone you meet.."oo they're good looking" etc


Good point but i can also think that some of my males friends are attractive without being at all attracted to them. And yes, im completely straight..

Reply 17

adamu
Good point but i can also think that some of my males friends are attractive without being at all attracted to them. And yes, im completely straight..


Yeah making observations like that doesnt mean you want to screw their brains out. I get ya point.

Reply 18

awesome

Reply 19

Gotta agree with all the above ppl, go for coffee somewhere v public and perhaps have a friend or 2 sit at a nearby table as a safety precaution.. watch your drink for it being spiked too; had that done to me before, and wouldnt like to see anyone else suffer.