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    Yes, I am transgender. I'm sick and tired of living with things that I feel are not supposed to be a part of me. I know I won't get surgery any time soon, so I was looking to see if anyone knew of any medication that I could take to stop periods. My doctor doesn't know anything about transgender treatment and I have to take the information to him unfortunately - he should know about contraception but I think it will just be the general stuff that he says to his female patients and that will not be the kind of medication that I want since it can cause breast growth.

    No, I'm not a lesbian. I'm bi-sexual and transgender.
    My gender identity and sexuality are two completely different aspects of me.
    Congratulations on deciding to be trans gender. I can imagine that must of been a very difficult decision to come to so I admire your bravery.

    As to regards to getting rid of your periods I still think the depo inject is the way to go. Its side effects are that you are canput on weight and therefore get bigger breasts, but does not cause bigger breasts in general. But if you watch what you eat and exercise than you will be fine. Its one injection every 3 months. I use it to get rid of my periods because I used to do a lot of dancing and being on your period in tight fitting outfits is annoying. So I got rid of them and haven't looked yet.

    As regards to never having children. Why would you adopt when you have the option to have your own biological children? I understand you want to be a man, but maybe you could look into having some eggs frozen so you can have a surrogate at a later date.

    Good luck with your transformation. I've heard the NHS is a bit crap in helping with surgery etc. Your doctor might not know much about transgender because it is not that common. However, after you went to his/her surgery once there is no excuse. They should be looking into all the avenues to help you and researching issues you may face so they are prepared when you come back to the surgery at a later date. At least thats what I think a good doctor should do because thats what they are paid to do. Look after the well being of their patients, be it pysical or mental well being. ANyway I hope you find the solution you are looking for.
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    Congratulations on deciding to be trans gender. I can imagine that must of been a very difficult decision to come to so I admire your bravery.

    As to regards to getting rid of your periods I still think the depo inject is the way to go. Its side effects are that you are canput on weight and therefore get bigger breasts, but does not cause bigger breasts in general. But if you watch what you eat and exercise than you will be fine. Its one injection every 3 months. I use it to get rid of my periods because I used to do a lot of dancing and being on your period in tight fitting outfits is annoying. So I got rid of them and haven't looked yet.

    As regards to never having children. Why would you adopt when you have the option to have your own biological children? I understand you want to be a man, but maybe you could look into having some eggs frozen so you can have a surrogate at a later date.

    Good luck with your transformation. I've heard the NHS is a bit crap in helping with surgery etc. Your doctor might not know much about transgender because it is not that common. However, after you went to his/her surgery once there is no excuse. They should be looking into all the avenues to help you and researching issues you may face so they are prepared when you come back to the surgery at a later date. At least thats what I think a good doctor should do because thats what they are paid to do. Look after the well being of their patients, be it pysical or mental well being. ANyway I hope you find the solution you are looking for.
    Just to let you know, your first paragraph can be seen as quite offensive to trans people. You don't decide to be transgender, you just are.
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    (Original post by Hanny18)
    I know someone who had a hysterectomy recently (for medical reasons) and the side effects from surgery were bleeds much heavier than just a standard period. Also there were side effects including weight gain.



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    Yep, absolutely. A family friend has recently had one (also for medical reasons) and she's been told to pretty must rest for 6-months. She can't even exercise or drive for risk of her stitches tearing.

    Really drastic operation, both in terms of hormonal changes and physical recuperation. I'd only recommend it as a last resort.
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    Sex change.
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    Why would you want to? Regular periods are a sign that you're healthy... do you really want to jeopardise your health like that?
    They're transgender. Periods can be quite upsetting for FTM transpeople.
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    (Original post by flown_muse)
    Yes, but like I said above, my mind is made up. My decision has been made. I have discussed it on other threads before, and I will not be changing my mind. If I got pregnant somehow, even through my careful use of contraceptives, then I would get an abortion. It is non negotiable, and I will never have children.
    Like I said before, it is very annoying when people patronise you and try and say you don't know your own mind.
    In what way was I patronising? I didn't say 'o you will want children when you are older', which would be patronising. I simply said you may or may not fee the same way when you are older. There is no need to make the decision now.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes, I am transgender. I'm sick and tired of living with things that I feel are not supposed to be a part of me. I know I won't get surgery any time soon, so I was looking to see if anyone knew of any medication that I could take to stop periods. My doctor doesn't know anything about transgender treatment and I have to take the information to him unfortunately - he should know about contraception but I think it will just be the general stuff that he says to his female patients and that will not be the kind of medication that I want since it can cause breast growth.
    If your doctor doesn't know about it - they should be responsible for finding your options and not leave it up to you to find out about it! I think that the way you have been treated by him is absolutely disgusting. Ask him/her for a referral to another doctor/hospital who has more experience or specialises in helping those undergoing transgender transformations - you are well within your rights to do this. If it was me I would also make a complaint about this - I once had a doctor who kept prescribing me antibiotics when I had glandular fever and ended up with more severe problems and was only able to get this sorted after being referred to a specialist. Obviously our situations are two completely different things but there is always more help out there.

    If getting another opinion is out of the question (I appreciate this is a personal matter and you may not want to have to tell loads of different people about your situation), have you thought of finding a forum for transgender people? I'm sure there are many out there, and as people who have gone 'through the change' (sorry to be crude) they may be able to give you better advice on how they managed it, coped with it and all the options that go along with being transgender.



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    In what way was I patronising? I didn't say 'o you will want children when you are older', which would be patronising. I simply said you may or may not fee the same way when you are older. There is no need to make the decision now.
    And again. Telling me that I do not know my own mind, that I 'may change my mind', 'no need to make a decision now' etc all implies that I am a stupid little girl who is throwing a hissy fit and doesn't know what she wants.

    If you had simply said 'yes, I respect your opinion, but I don't feel the same way' would be adequate. By repeatedly stating that I may not feel the same way when I am older, you are undermining my beliefs, wants, desires, and my whole way of life.
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    A quick google seems to indicate that once you start taking testosterone, your periods will stop (although it may take a few months for them to stop completely). I don't know where you are up to in your transitioning, so I'm sorry if this isn't relevant/is too far off for you.
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    (Original post by zoe_bartlett)
    Congratulations on deciding to be trans gender. I can imagine that must of been a very difficult decision to come to so I admire your bravery.

    As to regards to getting rid of your periods I still think the depo inject is the way to go. Its side effects are that you are canput on weight and therefore get bigger breasts, but does not cause bigger breasts in general. But if you watch what you eat and exercise than you will be fine. Its one injection every 3 months. I use it to get rid of my periods because I used to do a lot of dancing and being on your period in tight fitting outfits is annoying. So I got rid of them and haven't looked yet.

    As regards to never having children. Why would you adopt when you have the option to have your own biological children? I understand you want to be a man, but maybe you could look into having some eggs frozen so you can have a surrogate at a later date.

    Good luck with your transformation. I've heard the NHS is a bit crap in helping with surgery etc. Your doctor might not know much about transgender because it is not that common. However, after you went to his/her surgery once there is no excuse. They should be looking into all the avenues to help you and researching issues you may face so they are prepared when you come back to the surgery at a later date. At least thats what I think a good doctor should do because thats what they are paid to do. Look after the well being of their patients, be it pysical or mental well being. ANyway I hope you find the solution you are looking for.
    First, thank you for you kind words, I really appreciate it. I don't believe that you meant any offence at all but I'd just like to clarify that I have not chosen to be transgender. It's a feeling that I cannot control - like sitting in front of a fire and feeling heat - you cannot consciously choose not to feel heat unless you move away from the fire. Likewise, in order to make my feelings of gender dysphoria lessen, I must have therapy and/or hormone treatment and or surgery. The problem with having hormone treatment/surgery is that society in general doesn't understand the condition and why people feel the need to alter their bodies. But it's the only way for some transgender people to feel 'normal' in their own bodies. So in order to live a 'normal' life they have to do something that a lot of other people regard as 'abnormal' - gender transition.

    However, 'Transgender' does not mean that someone has altered their body or intends to alter their body. 'Transgender' is an umberella term which covers many different gender identities - it does not just mean 'someone born biology one sex who would prefer to live and be accepted as the opposite sex and have the body of the opposite sex'. Some people feel like two genders combined, others feel like neither gender etc. Also, amongst the people who are born, for example, like me, female but who do not identify as female - this does not necessarily mean that they want to have surgery/hormones to appear and be accepted as male. You can feel that your gender is not female without feeling that it is male – as I said – you can feel bi-gender or genderless. It’s not as black and white as ‘male’ and ‘female’ – there is a massive grey area. Personally, I do not feel female, I identify anywhere along the scale from gender neutral to male. Therefore, I’m not necessarily going to have a ‘sex change’ as it’s commonly understood – I am more concerned with not having periods or breasts than attaining a penis or masculine traits like a beard/low voice. But gender transition to male is an option that I am keeping open. I wish I had been born male but I know that I can never be biologically male and attain a completely male body and I know that I will face many problems in life due to discrimination/hate if I do transition. That is why, at the moment I just want therapy and medication to stop my periods and then have surgical breast reduction/removal. I would still be female but I would not have breasts/period. If I could find the courage I would just prefer to be male though.

    Yes, I've considered having my eggs frozen, it's an option for me .
    With regards to the NHS - they haven't been very good to me so far - I first told my doctor 18 months ago and they didn't know what to do. I've received no support at all and decided to go to an LGBT charity - I'm on a waiting list for therapy with them. I'm still waiting to hear from the gender clinic that I was only referred to this month.

    Here's a little illustration of the 'trans umbrella' if it explains better than me:
    http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=tra...76&tx=13&ty=30

    Thanks for your support


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    I know, I don't understand why people can't think if they strongly believe that they'll want children in the future, it isn't equally possible people strongly believe the opposite. If, by some weird chance, I change my mind in the future, then I will happily go around and say sorry to people for being a little bit pissed off when they've given me the "you'll change your mind one day" speech. But the way people go on, it's like I've said I want to murder 100 people, not said I don't want children in my life.

    I don't know too much about trans stuff, unfortunately, and I don't know how far along in the process you are- whether you've been referred to a gender clinic and stuff. I've noticed a thread on TSR for transpeople, so it might be best to talk to some of them in there and see what they do/have done about their periods
    Thanks - I've had a look at that thread, they're very helpful .
    (Original post by Hanny18)
    If your doctor doesn't know about it - they should be responsible for finding your options and not leave it up to you to find out about it! I think that the way you have been treated by him is absolutely disgusting. Ask him/her for a referral to another doctor/hospital who has more experience or specialises in helping those undergoing transgender transformations - you are well within your rights to do this. If it was me I would also make a complaint about this - I once had a doctor who kept prescribing me antibiotics when I had glandular fever and ended up with more severe problems and was only able to get this sorted after being referred to a specialist. Obviously our situations are two completely different things but there is always more help out there.

    If getting another opinion is out of the question (I appreciate this is a personal matter and you may not want to have to tell loads of different people about your situation), have you thought of finding a forum for transgender people? I'm sure there are many out there, and as people who have gone 'through the change' (sorry to be crude) they may be able to give you better advice on how they managed it, coped with it and all the options that go along with being transgender.



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    Thanks for your response. I know – it’s not good the way the NHS has handled this at all. My doctor didn’t even know what a gender clinic was and asked if I wanted to be referred to a plastic surgeon. It’s really not encouraging. I was finally referred to a gender clinic (I had to find the name and address of a doctor to give to my GP) and I don’t know when I will hear from them. Even once they respond to me I will be put on a long waiting list. I’m also on a waiting list for therapy at an LGBT charity that offers counselling/therapy. Since telling my GP 18 months ago I have been left to deal with it alone. If I was a more emotionally vulnerable person I would have taken my own life by now. It’s sad that in this day and age this issue is brushed under the carpet and people are expected to cope alone. I would change my GP but there is only one other GP surgery in my local area and I very much doubt that the doctor there is any more knowledgeable than my own. To be fair, my doctor has been polite and professional (though I suppose that is a minimum requirement!), he just doesn’t have a clue about trans people.



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    A quick google seems to indicate that once you start taking testosterone, your periods will stop (although it may take a few months for them to stop completely). I don't know where you are up to in your transitioning, so I'm sorry if this isn't relevant/is too far off for you.
    Thanks, yes I'm aware of the effect of testosterone but my GP can't prescribe it - I can only get it once I've been assessed at a gender clinic and I'm waiting for my first appointment with them. Also, I don't even know yet if I want to take testostrone because I haven't had any gender therapy yet - I'm still waiting for that and it's all done through the gender clinic.

    So basically my life is in limbo and I don't know whether to adopt a male name, take testosterone and have my breasts removed or just have therapy, get something to stop my periods and have breast reduction/removal.

    Meanwhile, I have to go to job interviews and go about my daily life as if I'm completely fine and happy. It's difficult but hopefully the gender clinic will get back to me soon and they will help me to understand myself with therapy.
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    (Original post by flown_muse)
    Did you just tell someone that may be a lesbian for all you know, that they maybe haven't met the right man yet? Dear God.

    And yes, I am not the OP, I am 21 not 23, but I can tell you now, with 100% certainty that I will never have kids. I'm sure you didn't mean to, but it is so patronising to people like the OP and me who don't want kids, to be told 'Oh, you'll change your mind'. You should look up CFC (Childfree by Choice), there are whole communities of ladies out there who know they will never have children. And it upsets me that I will have to fight against people's prejudices, probably all the way up until I'm late 40s.


    See above.
    Unfortunatly it doesn't necessarily stop there. My aunty, who is CFC, gets a lot of people pitying her for "missing her chance". Not something that is pleasant for her.

    As for OP... I have read mostly everything on here, and I agree, you could look into changing your doctor, or hormone therapy which could effectively stop your periods, but if your doctor is as baffled by the topic as you describe then you will have to push for this and be sure you want to start with this kind of change.
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    Many people take contreceptives purely to stop periods, there are several types of pills out there which don't have the weight gain side effects, you have to plead a bit of a case to get given those ones though as they are more expensive.
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    Thanks, yes I'm aware of the effect of testosterone but my GP can't prescribe it - I can only get it once I've been assessed at a gender clinic and I'm waiting for my first appointment with them. Also, I don't even know yet if I want to take testostrone because I haven't had any gender therapy yet - I'm still waiting for that and it's all done through the gender clinic.

    So basically my life is in limbo and I don't know whether to adopt a male name, take testosterone and have my breasts removed or just have therapy, get something to stop my periods and have breast reduction/removal.

    Meanwhile, I have to go to job interviews and go about my daily life as if I'm completely fine and happy. It's difficult but hopefully the gender clinic will get back to me soon and they will help me to understand myself with therapy.[/QUOTE]

    Good luck with the therapy and I hope the gender clinic will get back to you soon
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    Thanks for your response. I know – it’s not good the way the NHS has handled this at all. My doctor didn’t even know what a gender clinic was and asked if I wanted to be referred to a plastic surgeon. It’s really not encouraging. I was finally referred to a gender clinic (I had to find the name and address of a doctor to give to my GP) and I don’t know when I will hear from them. Even once they respond to me I will be put on a long waiting list. I’m also on a waiting list for therapy at an LGBT charity that offers counselling/therapy. Since telling my GP 18 months ago I have been left to deal with it alone. If I was a more emotionally vulnerable person I would have taken my own life by now. It’s sad that in this day and age this issue is brushed under the carpet and people are expected to cope alone. I would change my GP but there is only one other GP surgery in my local area and I very much doubt that the doctor there is any more knowledgeable than my own. To be fair, my doctor has been polite and professional (though I suppose that is a minimum requirement!), he just doesn’t have a clue about trans people.
    Sorry to hear this. Is there another GP you can speak to?
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    (Original post by linkdapink)
    Unfortunatly it doesn't necessarily stop there. My aunty, who is CFC, gets a lot of people pitying her for "missing her chance". Not something that is pleasant for her.

    As for OP... I have read mostly everything on here, and I agree, you could look into changing your doctor, or hormone therapy which could effectively stop your periods, but if your doctor is as baffled by the topic as you describe then you will have to push for this and be sure you want to start with this kind of change.
    Never thought of that :unimpressed:
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    Your doctor referred you to a clinic 18 months ago and you still haven't heard anything? The NHS guidelines state that all referrals should take place within 18 WEEKS. Perhaps since your most immediate concern is stopping your period then you could ask to see a gynaecologist as they specialise in the female reproductive organs, they may be able to give you advice about this until such a time as your referral to the clinic comes through and you have your therapy.


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    Your doctor referred you to a clinic 18 months ago and you still haven't heard anything? The NHS guidelines state that all referrals should take place within 18 WEEKS. Perhaps since your most immediate concern is stopping your period then you could ask to see a gynaecologist as they specialise in the female reproductive organs, they may be able to give you advice about this until such a time as your referral to the clinic comes through and you have your therapy.


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    Referrals to gender clinics tend to take at least a year.
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    Without taking the pill, having the implant etc?

    Does anyone know of anything that a GP can prescibe, other than contraceptives, that will completely stop periods?
    Why would you want to do that? : curious: It would be very dangerous as the only thing that does it permanently is extreme weight loss.
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    I was going to suggest speaking to a psychologist about feeling better about your periods, then I read that you were transgender. But thinking about it this could still help.

    I would press the issue with your GP. They should be providing the support you need... OK they can't be expected to be an expert in every area but if there's something they don't know they should find out, so they can support their patients. If you don't have any luck with them I'd definitely try to find another GP- even if it perhaps means travelling. Remember the GPs within one surgery may vary a lot. The reason I said about trying to get referred to a psychologist is that they could perhaps help you come to terms with the fact that, at the moment, you have periods. Purely in practical terms this would allow you to get on with your life in the mean time, go to work etc. Perhaps you could find a free support group or you could find one online where others in the same situation could help you deal with your feelings on periods. Or perhaps you could approach your uni- I know you said you just graduated but they may be able to help still, it's in their interests to assist you as you leave them and go in to the world. Sorry by the way if you have already tried all this, it just seems the best solution in your current situation is to try to accept it in the mean time. I know that's a very simple thing to say and a much harder goal to actually achieve...

    Hope that you manage to get some help, and eventually get where you need to, and remember that you have already got through 18 months of the waiting and hopefully you will hear from the gender clinic soon... if you haven't already, contact them and ask what's going on!

    Good luck,

    xxx
 
 
 
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