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Have I lost who I am?

Hey there guys, I don't really write on the forums that much I usually want to help people, as opposed to whinging about myself. But here goes.

Basically, I'm 19 and I'm at University. I really enjoy it - I'm starting to get myself a stable group of mates, and a good social life. But recently, I've felt that I'm losing my self identity; who I really am. I mean, I know that I'm outgoing, quite academic, and have alot of interests, but my mates seem to completely overpower me with theirs. I feel as though there is nothing to me. I mean, I want to remembered for being something special and enthusiastic.

This was brought on because I went back to my home town and I felt like I had nothing to say - like they weren't interested about University. They kept talking about how they were going to foreign countries, seeing all the bands they wanted to see, joining societies, doing things without me. Although I'm not overly bothered by this, it makes me feel that I like identity as a person. Like, there's nothing "interesting" about me, nothing which makes me truly unique, like I used to feel in College and High School. It's like I've been lost in this massive wave. I don't know how to correct this. Now, admitdely, I could be guilty of being lazy and unmotivated, but I've honestly tried.

Sorry once again for the long post, but does anyone have any advice?
Greatly appreciated.
xxx

Reply 1

Adhsur

You're too much of a philosopher :biggrin:

Reply 2

Philosophia

Hahah, I was wondering if people would have picked up on that! :biggrin:

Reply 3

Danny the Geezer

Don't get lost, you'll find depression.

Reply 4

Crimson Black

jaydoh

Don't get lost, you'll find depression.

That's too deep for me. I'm going to go swim in the shallow pool.

*paddles off*

Reply 5

Amlea

Just look at what you do have and focus on that. Your self identity develops and changes over time; it isn't fixed. You have got to step back into life and make your mark!

Reply 6

ESBay

People keep changing somewhat so you are trying to find someone who you aren't anymore.
Just go with the flow, but don't go too far...
Perhaps you stayed the same and the others have lost who they were .... oooh....

Reply 7

rachelrainbow32

Well, you were peobably different than lots of other people at high school and college because there were less people. Your now at a huge uni where there are obviously going to be more people like you, so therfore you're got going to be as unique as you were at college.