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going out with a younger guy

Do any other girls have a massive problem with this? I just cannot go there. I've tried. Since I've been at uni I've had a couple of (very) short-lived flings with guys in my year, who are 18 or 19 (I'm 20) and just ended up thinking, this would be lovely if I was 17...

Maybe it's because the guys in my year are the same age my ex was when we were together, and I like to feel I've progressed a bit in 2/3 years. Maybe it's because I took a gap year and got involved with a guy who was 5 years older than me. But I think I've always been like this...

I'm just a bit worried that fairly soon most of the guys at uni will be younger than me.

Reply 1

ESBay

8

Some girl in my school got such a bad reputation. She was in 12th grade and she dated a guy in 9th grade.
18-20 isn't that bad though, girls tend to go for older guys though it seems. Perhaps because they supposedly 'mature' later.

Reply 2

puppy

Apricot Fairy

Do any other girls have a massive problem with this? I just cannot go there. I've tried. Since I've been at uni I've had a couple of (very) short-lived flings with guys in my year, who are 18 or 19 (I'm 20) and just ended up thinking, this would be lovely if I was 17...

Maybe it's because the guys in my year are the same age my ex was when we were together, and I like to feel I've progressed a bit in 2/3 years. Maybe it's because I took a gap year and got involved with a guy who was 5 years older than me. But I think I've always been like this...

I'm just a bit worried that fairly soon most of the guys at uni will be younger than me.

Mmmmm, younger guys...

But anyway, most guys at uni are my age or younger and that's only going to get worse over the next 2 years. To be honest I tend to forget, if you don't pay attention to it or look for a problem in it then it shouldn't be one. You wouldn't know how old someone was unless you asked them and I'm guessing you're not planning on going out with any hugely immature guys, to whom age makes very little difference anyway.

Reply 3

pumpkin7

13

my friend is in the first year of college and her bf is in the last year of high school.. they make a cute couple, but meh.. i don't know. i don't think it is right.

Reply 4

ApeXaviour

7

pumpkin7

my friend is in the first year of college and her bf is in the last year of high school.. they make a cute couple, but meh.. i don't know. i don't think it is right.

Why not? I'll never get this. What the hell is wrong with going out with a younger guy? (I'm probably older than the lot of yis btw but this has always deluded me). If a fella goes out with a younger girl he can be labelled (ignorantly so) "child-molester", "cradle-snatcher" etc by his peers. This doesn't happen with girls. Not in the same way anyway as they just tend not to be these things anyway so its like water off a ducks back.

If you like him, he's mature? Then what the name of <insert generic religious theistic power here> is stopping you!!!!?

Reply 5

Apricot Fairy

OP

16

They're not mature, that's the issue. Not compared to older guys I've liked.

Reply 6

pumpkin7

13

she also went out with someone in year 9 when she was in year 11.. she got a lot of crap for that..

Reply 7

Barny

17

Older girls love me. Toy boys rock.

Reply 8

In Love

age gap is not a big deal when ur in the twenties, its during the teen yrs that it seems strange, coz every year u grow alot more...

so if both people are in uni, then its fine , i guess. but if im in 4th year, i wouldnt go out with a guy in , say, 2nd yr...

i dunno, it really depends on each situation :confused:

Reply 9

envious

I think it depends on the guys. I mean to generalise and to say "all younger boys are more immature than older ones" would be ludicrous. I have met some incredibly childish and in some cases pathetic :p:

finalists at my uni, whilst on the other hand I have met some cool, laid back, confident first years.

I guess being 20, I'm at the akward phase where I am no longer in my teens and thus minor age differences do not automatically cause a reaction of horror and suspicion from peers. Equally though, the old prejudices are not completly erased from my mind and there's still a part of me that thinks that dating a younger guy is somehow embarrassing (tbh I'm embarrassed to admit that :redface:

) and would never work.

So in reply to the original question, I believe my answer is "I'm not sure" :biggrin:

Reply 10

c0co

12

I'm 18 so don't really think I could go out with a much younger guy (ew) but I agree that most older men are more mature as women tend to grow up faster. It's possible to have a great relationship with a younger man but chances are you'll be at different places in your life and wanting different things. That said women reach their sexual peak at 30, with men it's 18 so if the emotional side doesn't click, there's still a great physical relationship!?

Reply 11

danni_bella

17

Or find some mature age students :cool:

My current BF wasn't...one but he was 4 years older than the rest of us when I first met him :biggrin:

Mind you 3/4 years isn't exactly that much of an age difference.

Reply 12

technik

13

isnt going to be much difference between a 19yr old male and a 21 or 22 year old male...

Reply 13

Aeris

15

In college it is weird. When a girl is a senior, she's ready to graduate and move on with life. If the guy is like a freshman in college, he's still unsure of what he wants to be doing. Well in the U.S. especially, since people change their majors so much.

I just couldn't do it... Unless I really really loved the guy and was willing to wait 3 or 4 years.

Reply 14

tanusha-tomsk

18

I couldn't do it, but i know the reason why: my brother is 11 months younger than ma, so anyone who is half a year jounger is a brother in my mind, I couldn't look at him any other way. not yet anyway. Having said that, I wouldn't go out with a guy who is 3-4 years older than me because priorities are so different (I'm 17 - I'm turning 18 in 2 weeks :biggrin:

). But that;s just me :p:

Reply 15

ChemistBoy

16

Things change a bit when you get older - technically I am a younger guy for my gf. People do change a lot through university, but once you get out of there people between 21 - 31 are very similar.

Reply 16

grace

15

tbh there really isn't that much difference between an 18 year old and a 20 year old, and if you're all freshers it's all good. i mean i could understand it if you were, say, 17 and the guys were 15 but at this age it doesn't really matter too much either way.

Reply 17

MattG

1

obviously depends on the person involved, sometimes 18 yr old guys are stupidly immature still and sometimes (normally) they are just as mature as 20 year olds.

I'm 19 and I've gone to pubs/clubs with my mates brothers friends (lol) who are 25-26 and you wouldn't notice the difference between them and us, likewise I was at a pub with some mates and a friends workmate who was 17, you wouldnt realise he was younger without asking.

I think your opinion is a bit narrow-minded and based on stereotypes honestly,

Reply 18

Segat1

16

imasillynarb

Older girls love me. Toy boys rock.

mm. I wouldn't know anything about this topic at all

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