How to tell if a guy likes you

Hi people! ive got quite a little niggling problem id like you all to help me out with.
Okay so theres this guy that ive liked for quite a while (over a year) we like similar things/ have similar sense of humours etc. We ended up going to the same uni. Weve kept in touch but we havent seen each other that much (prob once every 3ish weeks) and always for a particular reason (such as going to see a band, or swapping things we want the other to listen/ watch etc). We never really have physical contact at all ie ive never hugged him or anything, while i do with other guys i think the barrier always been there- the most extreme contact is prob on a discussion of comparing hand sizes ( :confused:

), and weve never brought up the discussion of liking each other etc. back when i first got to know him everyone always thought that there was something going on between us. Now im at uni my friends there reckons he likes me ("he seems shy") but im not sure if they are saying that just because theyre being nice friends. I like this guy a lot but i havent had any real reason to think he likes me, I would like to know if he likes me but im quite shy when i comes to things like that (fear of rejection etc) and i dont want to seem too eager/ desperate . So i seek your worldly advice!:
a) Do you think theres a chance he actually likes me

b) If there is a realistic chance of him liking me what should i do to broach the topic bearing in mind my awkwardness in bringing up the topic of my feelings for him.

thanks :smile:

Reply 1

blah0_o

1

i cant tell if he likes you but you guys need to spend more time together.. casually ask him if he wants to join you for a movie with friends if you guys have common friends or just try hanging out more.. flirt a little n see if he flirts back.. maybe that'll lead into something.. i am kinda bad at this sorta thing.. hehe sorry :biggrin:

Reply 2

Hana_87

16

You have to ask him!

Reply 3

kitty_koo

12

im going through exaclty the same thing,ive known one of my guy mates just over 2 years and as friends we've never held hands,there have been a few awkward hugs (because im not used to it) and sometimes i think he might like me and then he will go and do something that looks as though he only sees me as a friend,its so frustrating!

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

I'm ging through the same thing, except my guy lives miles apart see him like twice a year, but he's moving down for uni soon) known him for 5 years as well, we liked each other before, but we haven't brought up any conversation about our feelings, so I don't know if he feels the same way! It's so frustrating when you don't know! I really want to know as well, and I NEVER bring up anything to do with my feelings, so I guess I'm going to have to get over that barrier, and try to ask him! Maybe you should do the same. You will feel a lot better once you do, no matter what the outcome, though it is easier said than done. Try! :p:

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

I need some help on a roughly similar issue. A guy is giving out every sign in the book that he's obsessed with me (even my friends have started noticing the weird behaviour), and has been for a while actually. We're incredibly well-matched (it's basically like someone melded together my perfect man :redface:

) and I am strongly attracted to him. Problem is, he's my school teacher. I'm 19 so I don't think it'd be illegal (he's mid 20's). The other problem is, he's clearly not 100% sure I feel the same way, and he does seem to be dropping hints I should make a move. I'd rather do something subtle though, partly in case I'm wrong and partly as it's a bit of an awkward scenario. Any thoughts? Thanks :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

aww well thanks for the help i guess ima stuck in a rut untill i pluck up the courage (argh!). Sigh

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

I need some help on a roughly similar issue. A guy is giving out every sign in the book that he's obsessed with me (even my friends have started noticing the weird behaviour), and has been for a while actually. We're incredibly well-matched (it's basically like someone melded together my perfect man :redface:

) and I am strongly attracted to him. Problem is, he's my school teacher. I'm 19 so I don't think it'd be illegal (he's mid 20's). The other problem is, he's clearly not 100% sure I feel the same way, and he does seem to be dropping hints I should make a move. I'd rather do something subtle though, partly in case I'm wrong and partly as it's a bit of an awkward scenario. Any thoughts? Thanks :smile:

*bumps* anything? Sorry just really don't know what to do!

To the original anon: you can do it! Just ask him! I hope it goes well :smile:

Reply 8

Anonymous #4

hey, i didnt wanna bring in a new topic here as its similar to this one....
but theres this girl in my school who i have classes with and we always sit next to each other etc. and get on really well, talk and things. but the problem is that i really like her and i dont know if she does back..sometimes i think she may do but then i think thats just deluding myself cos i like her so much. basically..how do i tell? we sometimes hang out of school together, i mean, do i arrange to go to the movies with her and sort of.."let her know"...
sorry im so confused and/or hopeless!!

Reply 9

woodlebert

to the original poster, given that youre already friends you can ask him to see a movie or something to "catch up" try to be more flirty etc and gauge his reaction. of course if it transpires he isnt interested..you can just say you were being a friend and wanted to hang with him a bit more

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Ill try and work up the courage its just hard too! I dont want him to be put off etc, but thanks for the advice ima going to mull over the issue and just do it!. Hope everything works out for everyone else!

Reply 11

Happy1

14

Im a complete advocate of the "ask him" method. I dont think you can tell if someone likes you without asking - everyone's very different in their approaches to people they like.

I dont see what you have to lose - get it over with. yeah its hard, but i'll tell you what, once you've done it once, you won't worry about it again. If he says no, yes its embarassing, but you just brush it off, and he'll resepct you for that.

Reply 12

andy_c

7

Anon 1 - If you've kept in touch with this guy for so long, even at this rate, he must at least like you as a friend. So therefore, become better friends, start doing more stuff together, then see where it goes. If he's shy, then you are going to have to take the lead. Also, do you know any of his friends - maybe you or one of your friends can ask his friend about his situation and any potential feelings towards you to help work things out?

Anon 3 - Does you teacher have rules that they must keep to regarding seeing a student, etc? If so, he might not be able to do anything even if he wants to! If you think that it maybe possible that such rules don't apply/don't bother him, then I'd suggest some personal tuition, followed by buying him a drink to thank him for his help, maybe? If he's hinting, and you don't think he's sure how you feel, the MAKE IT CLEAR!

Anon 4 - Start doing more things together, then try to read her mind, see what she thinks.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

andy_c

Anon 1 - If you've kept in touch with this guy for so long, even at this rate, he must at least like you as a friend. So therefore, become better friends, start doing more stuff together, then see where it goes. If he's shy, then you are going to have to take the lead. Also, do you know any of his friends - maybe you or one of your friends can ask his friend about his situation and any potential feelings towards you to help work things out?

Anon 3 - Does you teacher have rules that they must keep to regarding seeing a student, etc? If so, he might not be able to do anything even if he wants to! If you think that it maybe possible that such rules don't apply/don't bother him, then I'd suggest some personal tuition, followed by buying him a drink to thank him for his help, maybe? If he's hinting, and you don't think he's sure how you feel, the MAKE IT CLEAR!

Anon 4 - Start doing more things together, then try to read her mind, see what she thinks.

thanks for the advice its very handy!, the problem is at uni i dont really know his friends so i cant really do anything on that part, because when i meet him its just him, i cant really ask his friends back in my home town because they make a really big fuss, like when i used to meet him before they teased both of us alot etc. but i suppose im going to have to be more forward. I just prefer him to do it :rolleyes:

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Reply 14

durhamdosser

4

Anonymous

I need some help on a roughly similar issue. A guy is giving out every sign in the book that he's obsessed with me (even my friends have started noticing the weird behaviour), and has been for a while actually. We're incredibly well-matched (it's basically like someone melded together my perfect man :redface:

) and I am strongly attracted to him. Problem is, he's my school teacher. I'm 19 so I don't think it'd be illegal (he's mid 20's). The other problem is, he's clearly not 100% sure I feel the same way, and he does seem to be dropping hints I should make a move. I'd rather do something subtle though, partly in case I'm wrong and partly as it's a bit of an awkward scenario. Any thoughts? Thanks :smile:

How long until you leave school? If it's this year, could you wait a few months until you're certain you're not doing anything against the rules?

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