I need some suggestions

Sorry for posting anon, but I know some people on here in rl who don't know about this.

I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a bit years, he's really special to me and he really means the world, but recently things have been a bit..well, too friendly. It's great that we can be together just on a friend basis as he really is my best friend, but recently that's only how it's felt, like we're just...best friends. We've lost something, that boyfriend and girlfriend connection, and it feels like I'm slowly losing him altogether. We have spoken about it but I just don't know what to do...a couple of months ago he started living with me due to problems at home, and now it seems like he's either asleep, at work/college or on the computer, and I'm not exaggerating, he is online all the time. The easter break is coming up and we've agreed that during that time we're going to spend our time together, as a couple and see how things are by the end of it, but I'm just so worried what if that doesn't help? what else can I do? I really don't want to lose him..I know it sounds stupid but I've really never felt like I won't be with him for the rest of my life, and it's really getting me down that I might not..

I really just don't know what to do :frown:

Reply 1

Tarts_n_Vicars

Are you still in love with him? You didn't really say, other than that you didn't want to lose him. Lots of couples get stuck in the ins and outs of daily life and if you're living together now that might be what's brought it on.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

I really really do love him...I know recently I've not been appreciating him as much as I should, but now it's hitting home that we might not always be togethers made me sort of realise all the stupid things I've taken forgranted about him and how much I really don't want to spend the rest of my life without him

Reply 3

phantom

talk about it communication is the ultimate factor in a relationship you need to talk to him about the way you feel honestly. no hiding the truth tell him straight up and if he doesnt try to change then hes obviously not right for you.
it sounds like your not spending enough proper time together, yes you live together but when was the last time you went out and did something together just the two of you that you enjoyed?
its easter, two weeks together, if its not too late then perhaps you could go away somewhere together or at least spend the time constructively together as a couple. try to get the spark back in your relationship. think about the things you used to do etc and bring it back.
if it doesnt work out then perhaps the relationship isnt right for the both of you. you may like him a lot but is that because you have grown used to living with him and the thought of being on your own is too much for you. and do you really love him, is he worth all the effort?